It really dissapoints me being the sex that i am.

I cant decide if i want them though, i certainly hate the thought of being pregnant. If i want them it will be when im in my 40's as ive got goals i want to achieve plus ive still not travelled. So it looks like im not having them.

I want to be a man so that i can get away with not having kids till a late age, have a fit looking body well into old age whilst still being able to attract people with my distinguished looks snd experience. I cant do this as a woman, no one thinks much of women once they reach 40 they take one look and think 'a mum' or if shes no kids they think loner/weirdo. I just think that if i was male id have so much to look forward to and a bright future but as a female who doesnt want kids i dont.

I want to be a man so that i can get away with not having kids till a late age, have a fit looking body well into old age whilst still being able to attract people with my distinguished looks snd experience. I cant do this as a woman, no one thinks much of women once they reach 40 they take one look and think 'a mum' or if shes no kids they think loner/weirdo. I just think that if i was male id have so much to look forward to and a bright future but as a female who doesnt want kids i dont.

I realise some of the hardships that many men do face such as having to appear strong or else face bullying, but if i was a guy id thrive on that with my lifting and competitiveness. I do have deep sympathy for all those young men called up in the world wars though, shows how much pressure can be placed on men at the expense of their lives.

Then theres all the rejection men can face when young when they are expected to make the first move. At least things can get better as they get older though and gain confidence/careers. They have their whole life to look foward to and are in no hurry/no biological clock. I was rejected when younger and my forecast is that romance wise things can only get worse with age (studies and experience show show women are valued on youth,beauty).

Ive tried to look at it both sides but i still think its much better to be male.

maybe look into seeing a doctor about gender identity confusion?

Um... if you're a guy people immediately think your a loner or weirdo if your on your own anyway, regardless of age.

Plus guys have to work for their 'fit looking bodies' and not everyone has distinguished looks or experience.

yeah I'm not sure that's the solution (?)

I often think how much easier life would be if I was a bloke, doesn't mean I'm 'confused' ??

people try too hard to identify named problems for everyone, maybe we can just wonder without having to be diagnosed all the time?! It's inferring that OP needs fixing when they're just expressing an opinion they're having right now.

I think about this a lot lmao

I want to be a man so that i can get away with not having kids till a late age, have a fit looking body well into old age whilst still being able to attract people with my distinguished looks snd experience. I cant do this as a woman, no one thinks much of women once they reach 40 they take one look and think 'a mum' or if shes no kids they think loner/weirdo. I just think that if i was male id have so much to look forward to and a bright future but as a female who doesnt want kids i dont.

if she has a problem being a girl just because of one thing enough to hate being female then something clearly isnt right, i also said theres advice available. getting advice isnt a diagnosis at all.

mmmmm I disagree

I have moments when I hate being female but then in a week I won't even remember it? PERIODS SUCK for example: one thing enough to hate being female

this does not mean I need 'advice'

I'm not necessarily saying you're wrong, I'm just wondering if you see where I'm coming from... because I look around these days and everything is trying to sort us into these categories like, I don't know, 'depressed' or 'bisexual' or 'gender confused' for example. Is it so hard to just be without some weird word defining how you may or may not feel at one particular moment in time *sigh*

And, like, just because someone is 'disappointed with the sex they are' doesn't mean they have to be labeled 'confused'

DOES MY FRUSTRATION MAKE SENSE LOL

Ok you can have the first one.

See an older guy in his 40's snd 50's who works on his body will tend to attract females (thats the general view) if he can pull off the sexy confident look. Now get a woman in her 40's and 50's who works on her body and the general view is she wouldnt attract all these men, she will just be seen as old. The men who work out will be wanting the younger females.

Woah there! You are maybe confusing 40 with 65 years old here. Why can't a 40 year old female work on her body, look good and attract male attention?

not really, no

mmmmm I disagree

I have moments when I hate being female but then in a week I won't even remember it? PERIODS SUCK for example: one thing enough to hate being female

this does not mean I need 'advice'

I'm not necessarily saying you're wrong, I'm just wondering if you see where I'm coming from... because I look around these days and everything is trying to sort us into these categories like, I don't know, 'depressed' or 'bisexual' or 'gender confused' for example. Is it so hard to just be without some weird word defining how you may or may not feel at one particular moment in time *sigh*

And, like, just because someone is 'disappointed with the sex they are' doesn't mean they have to be labeled 'confused'

DOES MY FRUSTRATION MAKE SENSE LOL

so so okay
I'm just confused as to *sigh* okay

so you believe that just because someone is wondering something, maybe has thought about it enough and done enough introspection to get them to the boil over point of posting a thread because they just want to express this feeling they have sometimes (but in that particular moment) have very strongly: this means we have to label them 'confused'

can't we all just wonder about things, wonder without having to commit to some stupid category, or word, or label that our language has tried and continues to fail to correctly express?

Oh sorry, I forgot your delusional, anecdotal evidence trumps all other reasoning.

did you even read the second part of advice i gave to the OP? I said she can talk to someone for free advice, i said nothing about diagnosis or labelling, that was all you so youre causing another debate about labelling people for no reason? and for the record, id rather have a label for something i was going through than 'just wondering'

the difference between you and I

nah I only got into that because I was just tryna convey my general frustration at how attitudes ~are~ these days, which you said you didn't really get how I thought like that ('not really no' so so so this is why lmao