At what point should I choose between 2 girls?

Apologies... bit of a long one. But I need help!

In the last two months I have met 2 girls. I have been hanging out with both of them separately, and initially it was just as friends, but in the last couple of weeks both relationships seem to have developed beyond that.

For the sake of the thread i'll call them Girl A and Girl B.

I met Girl A most recently and we have only hung out a few times. But she has been very straight with me and told me last time we met that she would like to be together. I didn't say that I wouldn't like to, but I told her that it would be difficult as I am leaving the country in just over a month (I am. I live and work abroad currently, but I am returning to the UK for at least a year) We usually just meet up for drinks. We have fun. And we have slept together.

I have known Girl B for maybe a month longer than Girl A, and we hang out a lot more often. We get on really well. We go out to eat, see movies, visit different places, and for a long time I got the impression that she just wanted to be friends, which was fine with me as I knew I was moving away (She is also aware of this) But recently, despite her not saying it, she has been showing obvious signs that she would like to be more than friends. Including a very thoughtful valentines present a couple of days ago! I like her a lot, and it'd hurt if she found out about Girl A and thought that I had intentionally deceived her.

Both girls continue to invite me to hang out regularly, but I have begun to feel uncomfortable about everything. I haven't lied to either of them, and I am not in a relationship with either of them, but something doesn't feel right. I am not the type of guy that would see two girls simultaneously, and I don't want to hurt either of them, or lose their friendship.

As Girl B has become one of my closest friends in this country, I really fear hurting her in anyway. She still hasn't made her feelings towards me entirely clear, but if she did ever come out and say that she liked me, I would probably tell her that I felt the same way. I do like her, but with me leaving next month, and given what has happened with Girl A, it's difficult. Meanwhile Girl A has asked me to go away for the weekend with her in a couple of weeks, and I just have no idea what to say to that.

Can anybody offer any advice?

Do you think it'd be impossible for me to continue to hang out with Girl A, considering we slept together, if I was to admit my feelings towards Girl B?

I don't think I could pluck up the courage to tell Girl B about Girl A. If Girl B has liked me since we met, i'd be scared of how she'd react to me telling her that it happened since we've been hanging out. So continuing to see Girl A even as a friend could be dangerous.

But then, Girl A has no reason to think anything is up right now, and we're good friends, so it'd suck to suddenly cut all ties.

Do you have any romantic feelings towards Girl A?.

I guess I did yeah, although it was very early stages as we'd only known each other a few weeks. But since Girl B has began to show signs that she likes me in that way, all I can really think about is making sure that I don't hurt her in anyway.

Ideally i'd keep them both as friends. If that came at the cost of a romantic relationship with either of them, then i'd accept that. But I can't see either relationship being improved by me rejecting them, should it come to that! So that's something I would love to avoid, but realitically probably can't

I'd say you're likely looking at just friendship with them both.

This isn't something i'm opposed to. That's how it was a few weeks ago, and it was a whole lot easier! As I said, I like Girl B, but I have always held off telling her that as i'm leaving in a month and I was happy with our relationship as it was.

So do you think it'd be wrong of me to go away for a couple of days with Girl A, even as friends? I still haven't given her an answer.
A couple of weeks ago I wouldn't have hesitated. Her, Girl B, and my housemates are the only people that I really hang around with. My housemates are usually too busy with work/school to travel too far, so I wouldn't have passed up the opportunity to go somewhere new with one of the only other two people that I am friends with in this country. But these new developments make me feel like i'm sneaking around, and i'm not enjoying it!

It's a confusing situation... Girl B hasn't made her feelings clear to me, i'm still not sure what she wants in truth, but the signs are there so I don't want to lie to her in anyway. But if I did go away with Girl A I don't think I could tell her tbh. I'd be too scared of what she thought, as a close friend, or potential future girlfriend (even if that does seem far off at the moment. I can't see myself pushing it so close to my leaving date).

When you say that I clearly like Girl B more, you're not wrong, but I value both of their friendships.

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You're probably right.

I can't see a friendship surviving with Girl A after I tell her that I can't go with her. If we can't do that, there are probably many other things that would also be inappropriate.
Which is frustrating, as my relationship with Girl B and her feelings towards me are still up in the air. I've been tempted on a number of occasions to just ask her, but part of me doesn't want to jump into anything when i'm about to leave the country. I'm happy with our relationship as it is tbh.

Annoyingly, I want to visit the place Girl A suggested we go, and as i'm done with work and plan to travel before I leave, I probably will... but on my own I guess

.... I think I need some male friends.

If the friendship doesn't survive you not going away for the weekend with her then was it really a very good friendship in the first place? Or even a "friendship" at all? How long are you out of the country for?

I mean, because if I start to pick and choose when I feel it's okay to hang out with her and when it isn't, it's not the best basis for a friendship is it?
Also, she's out of the city at the moment, so I wasn't going to see her for the next two weeks anyway. The next time would have been when she wanted to go away. After that i'll only have 3 weeks or so left in the country, and she'll be back at work.

I'll probably be in the UK for at least a year. But I don't know at the moment.

I would like to ask Girl B to travel somewhere with me, that'd be good, but as her work schedule currently dictates when we meet as it is... I can't imagine she'll have the time for anything more than a day trip. Maybe though. No harm in trying I guess.

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Thanks for the advice!

I'll let you know if there are any developments