How important is sex in your relationship?

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Original post by DancinBallerina

No! You don't use sex as a form of communication to fix friction between you and someone!

No i mean, through sex you can tell if there is friction.. that's what i meant. NOT to fix it

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Anonymous #3

Yea, I geniunely don't think my girlfriend would have been with me for as long if she didn't enjoy the sex. I don't mean that in a cocky way but, both people in the relationship getting what they need is important.

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spv

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Original post by fatima1998

you are my type of person :u:

I honestly hate sexual interaction

Original post by Anonymous

So are you more about pleasing her?

haha thanks. I'm not against kissing, or hugging, spooning, etc.... but those are all from an emotional origin. (not saying sex isn't) but without emotions, loyalty, honesty, etc... (aka everything that makes a relationship), you're left with a physical relationship. And I would much rather have a woman that loves me for that more than what sex can bring. I don't understand how sex is absolutely essential.

Not necessarily pleasing her. Just sex, in general. The entire thing.

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Original post by spv

haha thanks. I'm not against kissing, or hugging, spooning, etc.... but those are all from an emotional origin. (not saying sex isn't) but without emotions, loyalty, honesty, etc... (aka everything that makes a relationship), you're left with a physical relationship. And I would much rather have a woman that loves me for that more than what sex can bring. I don't understand how sex is absolutely essential.

Not necessarily pleasing her. Just sex, in general. The entire thing.

Ahh, I get it now. Fair enough. Glad people still have self control these days :smile:

But, fair point

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username94219

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Original post by Anonymous

No i mean, through sex you can tell if there is friction.. that's what i meant. NOT to fix it

Well I wouldn't be having sex with someone when there's clearly friction between you both! lol I wouldn't be in the mood!

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Original post by Anonymous

Interesting , but could sex also tighten the bond so in other words, because it's amazing, he or she will want to hold onto that person for a long period of time. And learning about someone else all over again can be tedious..?

if you meet the right person, he or she won't have sex with you just like after 2 weeks or something
firstly he/she would try to know you inside out- it's never so boring
sex is more of an emotional connection between two people; now people would say noo it's not it's for pleasure but if you into that person then you will feel that it's more of an emotional thing rather than pleasure (it is also pleasurable but emotional side is more important)
then if they both happy and willing to hold on that relaionship then they can have sex but also willing to marry if they desire or just don't ditch each other after sex

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Original post by spv

haha thanks. I'm not against kissing, or hugging, spooning, etc.... but those are all from an emotional origin. (not saying sex isn't) but without emotions, loyalty, honesty, etc... (aka everything that makes a relationship), you're left with a physical relationship. And I would much rather have a woman that loves me for that more than what sex can bring. I don't understand how sex is absolutely essential.

i don't understand why sex is must...
i have also mentioned that sex is more of an emotional thing if you meet the right person and respects you then he/she wouldn't have sex for pleasuring

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Original post by DancinBallerina

Well I wouldn't be having sex with someone when there's clearly friction between you both! lol I wouldn't be in the mood!

True, some with less self control use it as for 'make-up' sex

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Original post by fatima1998

i don't understand why sex is must...
i have also mentioned that sex is more of an emotional thing if you meet the right person and respects you then he/she wouldn't have sex for pleasuring

so what would they have sex for? Emotional connection?

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spv

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Original post by fatima1998

i don't understand why sex is must...
i have also mentioned that sex is more of an emotional thing if you meet the right person and respects you then he/she wouldn't have sex for pleasuring

That's my point. I don't understand why it's so imperative in a relationship. I think people put too much emphasis on it, and forget that it's only one minute part of a relationship. There are literally SO many other things more essential in a relationship than sex.

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RomanKing

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Sex is a fundamental part of any relationship. But by no means the most important nor the centre of the relationship. If it becomes either, the relationship is in trouble...

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Original post by spv

That's my point. I don't understand why it's so imperative in a relationship. I think people put too much emphasis on it, and forget that it's only one minute part of a relationship. There are literally SO many other things more essential in a relationship than sex.

True, that's why I started this debate to know what people think. Because , from what I've heard it seems to me essential and glamourised .

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Original post by Anonymous

so what would they have sex for? Emotional connection?

people don't now days...
they do for pleasure and when they are sick of it then break up
love is an emotional feeling and sex is the part of the love- it only happens from your heart
you just can't say... ohh she is hot and then trying to ask her out and then after few days sex... nooo that's not a real relationship

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Original post by spv

That's my point. I don't understand why it's so imperative in a relationship. I think people put too much emphasis on it, and forget that it's only one minute part of a relationship. There are literally SO many other things more essential in a relationship than sex.

people are weird
so many rapes happen to have sex :angry:

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Original post by fatima1998

people don't now days...
they do for pleasure and when they are sick of it then break up
love is an emotional feeling and sex is the part of the love- it only happens from your heart
you just can't say... ohh she is hot and then trying to ask her out and then after few days sex... nooo that's not a real relationship

That's a hook up, but I get your point. It's sad how some of us have lost the concept of love... or maybe it's an illusion...

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username2390345

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I would say sex is important, but definitely not the most important thing in a relationship. For me, my boyfriend is like my best friend. The sex is just a bonus.

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