Visiting my gf ldr

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At 19 you're legally an adult and you can do whatever you want. If you want to go, then go!

But what if my parents completely disown me after? Cuz i still live with them

So ive been with my girlfriend for 3 years but i havent seen her in a year and a half, as she lives in bilbao, spain and i live in london. Im 19 and she's 17. I really want to go to visit her, however my parents wont let me. Theyve always been over protective and controlling but i mean im 19 now.... surely they should let me?? One, they say it costs too much to fly there (its like £100 for a return ticket) and two, they refuse to let me stay at my girlfriends house as i might drink too much/have sex etc. Even though her parents in spain are ok with it. Should i go anyway cuz theoretically my parents cant tell me what to do anymore? I really wanna go and she really wants to see me and im worried that our relationship is gonna break down soon cuz of the distance, but we both really wanna make it work. Thanks so much!!

Get her to visit you? would that work?

She has come to visit but idk she just doesnt like coming to london...id really like to visit and theoretically i can but its just idk if I should

She has come to visit but idk she just doesnt like coming to london...id really like to visit and theoretically i can but its just idk if I should

tbh if it was me, I'd just tell them what it's happening. like hey: I'm being nice by telling you, but I'm off to see my girlfriend of 3 years kkkk bye

but this means you have to pay for it all yourself etc

The flights are cheap i can afford them and i get free accommodation if i stay at her house so its not too expensive. I guess i can try that and see what happens but they dont want me to go lol and i said i wont drink or have sex but they dont trust me

if they're like 'on you cannot gooooo we do not trust youuuuuu'

just be like

okay fine, whether you trust me or not, you need to accept I am an adult. I am trying to be nice by letting you know I will be going to Spain for [however long] and I'm leaving [blah blah] returning [blah blah] and if you want to say goodbye before I'd go that would be lovely

ADIOS

But then would that count as being rude to them? Or would they like accept my decision?

the point is they have to
*shrug*

they might think it's rude but you're doing everything you can to let them know etc etc and you're an adult and they cannot stop you. The only way they would see it as rude is because their attitude towards you is warped: they still don't accept you as an adult (this is my gauging of the situation)