So I'll be starting uni this September (hopefully) and it's come to my attention that the reason I don't know some basic life skills isn't because I don't want to learn and become independent, but because I'm simply not allowed to learn.
Everyone my age will cook for themselves (or their entire family) occasionally. For years, I have wanted to learn how to cook because it's a basic life skill... but my mum never let me. I'm 18 now and desperate to learn to cook for myself so that I don't look like a complete noob when I go to uni, but every time I ask to do so, I get yelled at/ignored/brushed off. I am ashamed to say I cannot cook the most basic of meals. My mum cooks all my meals for me. She occasionally complains about having 'to do everything for me' but when I offer to cook for myself, she refuses.
Same with laundry; I am not allowed to know how to operate the washing machine or be responsible for sorting my dirty clothes and putting them in the machine. All of my friends have been washing their owns clothes for years. I know the basics of using a washing machine (I'm not stupid), but it frustrates me that I'm an adult yet not allowed to use one.
Anyone else got similar experiences with parents? I've been reading lots online to learn how to look after myself and I think I'll be ok once I get to uni. I really want to be independent; I'm not the sort to sit on my bum all day and make others run around after me. But my mum's refusal to let me be independent is preventing that from happening.