I'm scared he will tell everyone all my secrets

If it makes you feel any better I have never shared a secret, even one with an ex, there might be a few other guys like me out there.

The key is to not be ashamed of your past or secrets. It is unlikely he will share them out of spite, but you have no control over whether he does or not. What you do have control over however is how you deal with what he does.

The key is to not be ashamed of your past or secrets. It is unlikely he will share them out of spite, but you have no control over whether he does or not. What you do have control over however is how you deal with what he does.

Very wise Marcus

Who is Marcus? I don't get your reference.

Thank you! that does help a lot

I know your secret Marcus

Just kidding, Marcus Aurelius, known for wisdom such as the following:You have power over your mind - not outside events. Realize this, and you will find strength.

Hi Guys, I recently broke up with my boyfriend of 3 months, 2 months ago and in that time I had obviously told him things about me, which I had done in secrecy as I had trusted him. But the relationship began to become very cold, one sided, and he became a very egoistic, control freak, which caused me to leave him. He blocked me on all social media accounts (which is a good thing I believe as I believe he would like to move on from me), but occasionally I find that he unblocks me and tries adding me again which I decline. I sent him an email saying that it wasn't either of our faults that we grew apart, and that we should move on, doing it mainly for my closure. But now I have a ever growing anxiety problem concerning him telling people things about me, out of spite as I know that that he is a very petty person and has already told people things about me, trying to pit our mutual friends against me. Obviously this information has gotten to me, and I whilst I was with him, he was very bitter about his previous exes so I know how bad he can be.
On reflection, I regret ever getting with him. I have learnt a very valuable lesson which is to never rush in to relationships, but he has caused be to get in to a deep depression, and I am constantly anxious about what he will say about me, in case it gets in to the wrong hands.
Could anyone offer any advice? Thanks

No problem.

I used to have similar anxieties myself, but as time goes on the less I care. I know who I am as a person and things in my past don't define who I am, I do. And I know the people who genuinely care about me won't care or see me differently so to me it has become a non-issue.

Hey there!

Wow he sounds so immature and petty, good riddance to him. Have you sent him anything that he could potentially link on purpose?

To be honest, you shouldn't even care if he says anything about you, because the people around him will realise his immature and a complete psycho. Just completely block him out of your life, and if anyone asks you about him be very neutral and don't fight back. At the end of the day, he'll grow tired and look like the desperado

I know your secret Marcus

Just kidding, Marcus Aurelius, known for wisdom such as the following:You have power over your mind - not outside events. Realize this, and you will find strength.

i literally died at that picture

Hi Guys, I recently broke up with my boyfriend of 3 months, 2 months ago and in that time I had obviously told him things about me, which I had done in secrecy as I had trusted him. But the relationship began to become very cold, one sided, and he became a very egoistic, control freak, which caused me to leave him. He blocked me on all social media accounts (which is a good thing I believe as I believe he would like to move on from me), but occasionally I find that he unblocks me and tries adding me again which I decline. I sent him an email saying that it wasn't either of our faults that we grew apart, and that we should move on, doing it mainly for my closure. But now I have a ever growing anxiety problem concerning him telling people things about me, out of spite as I know that that he is a very petty person and has already told people things about me, trying to pit our mutual friends against me. Obviously this information has gotten to me, and I whilst I was with him, he was very bitter about his previous exes so I know how bad he can be.
On reflection, I regret ever getting with him. I have learnt a very valuable lesson which is to never rush in to relationships, but he has caused be to get in to a deep depression, and I am constantly anxious about what he will say about me, in case it gets in to the wrong hands.
Could anyone offer any advice? Thanks

Hi Guys, I recently broke up with my boyfriend of 3 months, 2 months ago and in that time I had obviously told him things about me, which I had done in secrecy as I had trusted him. But the relationship began to become very cold, one sided, and he became a very egoistic, control freak, which caused me to leave him. He blocked me on all social media accounts (which is a good thing I believe as I believe he would like to move on from me), but occasionally I find that he unblocks me and tries adding me again which I decline. I sent him an email saying that it wasn't either of our faults that we grew apart, and that we should move on, doing it mainly for my closure. But now I have a ever growing anxiety problem concerning him telling people things about me, out of spite as I know that that he is a very petty person and has already told people things about me, trying to pit our mutual friends against me. Obviously this information has gotten to me, and I whilst I was with him, he was very bitter about his previous exes so I know how bad he can be.
On reflection, I regret ever getting with him. I have learnt a very valuable lesson which is to never rush in to relationships, but he has caused be to get in to a deep depression, and I am constantly anxious about what he will say about me, in case it gets in to the wrong hands.
Could anyone offer any advice? Thanks

Hi Guys, I recently broke up with my boyfriend of 3 months, 2 months ago and in that time I had obviously told him things about me, which I had done in secrecy as I had trusted him. But the relationship began to become very cold, one sided, and he became a very egoistic, control freak, which caused me to leave him. He blocked me on all social media accounts (which is a good thing I believe as I believe he would like to move on from me), but occasionally I find that he unblocks me and tries adding me again which I decline. I sent him an email saying that it wasn't either of our faults that we grew apart, and that we should move on, doing it mainly for my closure. But now I have a ever growing anxiety problem concerning him telling people things about me, out of spite as I know that that he is a very petty person and has already told people things about me, trying to pit our mutual friends against me. Obviously this information has gotten to me, and I whilst I was with him, he was very bitter about his previous exes so I know how bad he can be.
On reflection, I regret ever getting with him. I have learnt a very valuable lesson which is to never rush in to relationships, but he has caused be to get in to a deep depression, and I am constantly anxious about what he will say about me, in case it gets in to the wrong hands.
Could anyone offer any advice? Thanks

Hi Guys, I recently broke up with my boyfriend of 3 months, 2 months ago and in that time I had obviously told him things about me, which I had done in secrecy as I had trusted him. But the relationship began to become very cold, one sided, and he became a very egoistic, control freak, which caused me to leave him. He blocked me on all social media accounts (which is a good thing I believe as I believe he would like to move on from me), but occasionally I find that he unblocks me and tries adding me again which I decline. I sent him an email saying that it wasn't either of our faults that we grew apart, and that we should move on, doing it mainly for my closure. But now I have a ever growing anxiety problem concerning him telling people things about me, out of spite as I know that that he is a very petty person and has already told people things about me, trying to pit our mutual friends against me. Obviously this information has gotten to me, and I whilst I was with him, he was very bitter about his previous exes so I know how bad he can be.
On reflection, I regret ever getting with him. I have learnt a very valuable lesson which is to never rush in to relationships, but he has caused be to get in to a deep depression, and I am constantly anxious about what he will say about me, in case it gets in to the wrong hands.
Could anyone offer any advice? Thanks

Hi Guys, I recently broke up with my boyfriend of 3 months, 2 months ago and in that time I had obviously told him things about me, which I had done in secrecy as I had trusted him. But the relationship began to become very cold, one sided, and he became a very egoistic, control freak, which caused me to leave him. He blocked me on all social media accounts (which is a good thing I believe as I believe he would like to move on from me), but occasionally I find that he unblocks me and tries adding me again which I decline. I sent him an email saying that it wasn't either of our faults that we grew apart, and that we should move on, doing it mainly for my closure. But now I have a ever growing anxiety problem concerning him telling people things about me, out of spite as I know that that he is a very petty person and has already told people things about me, trying to pit our mutual friends against me. Obviously this information has gotten to me, and I whilst I was with him, he was very bitter about his previous exes so I know how bad he can be.
On reflection, I regret ever getting with him. I have learnt a very valuable lesson which is to never rush in to relationships, but he has caused be to get in to a deep depression, and I am constantly anxious about what he will say about me, in case it gets in to the wrong hands.
Could anyone offer any advice? Thanks

Hi Guys, I recently broke up with my boyfriend of 3 months, 2 months ago and in that time I had obviously told him things about me, which I had done in secrecy as I had trusted him. But the relationship began to become very cold, one sided, and he became a very egoistic, control freak, which caused me to leave him. He blocked me on all social media accounts (which is a good thing I believe as I believe he would like to move on from me), but occasionally I find that he unblocks me and tries adding me again which I decline. I sent him an email saying that it wasn't either of our faults that we grew apart, and that we should move on, doing it mainly for my closure. But now I have a ever growing anxiety problem concerning him telling people things about me, out of spite as I know that that he is a very petty person and has already told people things about me, trying to pit our mutual friends against me. Obviously this information has gotten to me, and I whilst I was with him, he was very bitter about his previous exes so I know how bad he can be.
On reflection, I regret ever getting with him. I have learnt a very valuable lesson which is to never rush in to relationships, but he has caused be to get in to a deep depression, and I am constantly anxious about what he will say about me, in case it gets in to the wrong hands.
Could anyone offer any advice? Thanks

Hi Guys, I recently broke up with my boyfriend of 3 months, 2 months ago and in that time I had obviously told him things about me, which I had done in secrecy as I had trusted him. But the relationship began to become very cold, one sided, and he became a very egoistic, control freak, which caused me to leave him. He blocked me on all social media accounts (which is a good thing I believe as I believe he would like to move on from me), but occasionally I find that he unblocks me and tries adding me again which I decline. I sent him an email saying that it wasn't either of our faults that we grew apart, and that we should move on, doing it mainly for my closure. But now I have a ever growing anxiety problem concerning him telling people things about me, out of spite as I know that that he is a very petty person and has already told people things about me, trying to pit our mutual friends against me. Obviously this information has gotten to me, and I whilst I was with him, he was very bitter about his previous exes so I know how bad he can be.
On reflection, I regret ever getting with him. I have learnt a very valuable lesson which is to never rush in to relationships, but he has caused be to get in to a deep depression, and I am constantly anxious about what he will say about me, in case it gets in to the wrong hands.
Could anyone offer any advice? Thanks

Hi Guys, I recently broke up with my boyfriend of 3 months, 2 months ago and in that time I had obviously told him things about me, which I had done in secrecy as I had trusted him. But the relationship began to become very cold, one sided, and he became a very egoistic, control freak, which caused me to leave him. He blocked me on all social media accounts (which is a good thing I believe as I believe he would like to move on from me), but occasionally I find that he unblocks me and tries adding me again which I decline. I sent him an email saying that it wasn't either of our faults that we grew apart, and that we should move on, doing it mainly for my closure. But now I have a ever growing anxiety problem concerning him telling people things about me, out of spite as I know that that he is a very petty person and has already told people things about me, trying to pit our mutual friends against me. Obviously this information has gotten to me, and I whilst I was with him, he was very bitter about his previous exes so I know how bad he can be.
On reflection, I regret ever getting with him. I have learnt a very valuable lesson which is to never rush in to relationships, but he has caused be to get in to a deep depression, and I am constantly anxious about what he will say about me, in case it gets in to the wrong hands.
Could anyone offer any advice? Thanks

Hi Guys, I recently broke up with my boyfriend of 3 months, 2 months ago and in that time I had obviously told him things about me, which I had done in secrecy as I had trusted him. But the relationship began to become very cold, one sided, and he became a very egoistic, control freak, which caused me to leave him. He blocked me on all social media accounts (which is a good thing I believe as I believe he would like to move on from me), but occasionally I find that he unblocks me and tries adding me again which I decline. I sent him an email saying that it wasn't either of our faults that we grew apart, and that we should move on, doing it mainly for my closure. But now I have a ever growing anxiety problem concerning him telling people things about me, out of spite as I know that that he is a very petty person and has already told people things about me, trying to pit our mutual friends against me. Obviously this information has gotten to me, and I whilst I was with him, he was very bitter about his previous exes so I know how bad he can be.
On reflection, I regret ever getting with him. I have learnt a very valuable lesson which is to never rush in to relationships, but he has caused be to get in to a deep depression, and I am constantly anxious about what he will say about me, in case it gets in to the wrong hands.
Could anyone offer any advice? Thanks

Hi Guys, I recently broke up with my boyfriend of 3 months, 2 months ago and in that time I had obviously told him things about me, which I had done in secrecy as I had trusted him. But the relationship began to become very cold, one sided, and he became a very egoistic, control freak, which caused me to leave him. He blocked me on all social media accounts (which is a good thing I believe as I believe he would like to move on from me), but occasionally I find that he unblocks me and tries adding me again which I decline. I sent him an email saying that it wasn't either of our faults that we grew apart, and that we should move on, doing it mainly for my closure. But now I have a ever growing anxiety problem concerning him telling people things about me, out of spite as I know that that he is a very petty person and has already told people things about me, trying to pit our mutual friends against me. Obviously this information has gotten to me, and I whilst I was with him, he was very bitter about his previous exes so I know how bad he can be.
On reflection, I regret ever getting with him. I have learnt a very valuable lesson which is to never rush in to relationships, but he has caused be to get in to a deep depression, and I am constantly anxious about what he will say about me, in case it gets in to the wrong hands.
Could anyone offer any advice? Thanks

Hi Guys, I recently broke up with my boyfriend of 3 months, 2 months ago and in that time I had obviously told him things about me, which I had done in secrecy as I had trusted him. But the relationship began to become very cold, one sided, and he became a very egoistic, control freak, which caused me to leave him. He blocked me on all social media accounts (which is a good thing I believe as I believe he would like to move on from me), but occasionally I find that he unblocks me and tries adding me again which I decline. I sent him an email saying that it wasn't either of our faults that we grew apart, and that we should move on, doing it mainly for my closure. But now I have a ever growing anxiety problem concerning him telling people things about me, out of spite as I know that that he is a very petty person and has already told people things about me, trying to pit our mutual friends against me. Obviously this information has gotten to me, and I whilst I was with him, he was very bitter about his previous exes so I know how bad he can be.
On reflection, I regret ever getting with him. I have learnt a very valuable lesson which is to never rush in to relationships, but he has caused be to get in to a deep depression, and I am constantly anxious about what he will say about me, in case it gets in to the wrong hands.
Could anyone offer any advice? Thanks

Hi Guys, I recently broke up with my boyfriend of 3 months, 2 months ago and in that time I had obviously told him things about me, which I had done in secrecy as I had trusted him. But the relationship began to become very cold, one sided, and he became a very egoistic, control freak, which caused me to leave him. He blocked me on all social media accounts (which is a good thing I believe as I believe he would like to move on from me), but occasionally I find that he unblocks me and tries adding me again which I decline. I sent him an email saying that it wasn't either of our faults that we grew apart, and that we should move on, doing it mainly for my closure. But now I have a ever growing anxiety problem concerning him telling people things about me, out of spite as I know that that he is a very petty person and has already told people things about me, trying to pit our mutual friends against me. Obviously this information has gotten to me, and I whilst I was with him, he was very bitter about his previous exes so I know how bad he can be.
On reflection, I regret ever getting with him. I have learnt a very valuable lesson which is to never rush in to relationships, but he has caused be to get in to a deep depression, and I am constantly anxious about what he will say about me, in case it gets in to the wrong hands.
Could anyone offer any advice? Thanks

Hi Guys, I recently broke up with my boyfriend of 3 months, 2 months ago and in that time I had obviously told him things about me, which I had done in secrecy as I had trusted him. But the relationship began to become very cold, one sided, and he became a very egoistic, control freak, which caused me to leave him. He blocked me on all social media accounts (which is a good thing I believe as I believe he would like to move on from me), but occasionally I find that he unblocks me and tries adding me again which I decline. I sent him an email saying that it wasn't either of our faults that we grew apart, and that we should move on, doing it mainly for my closure. But now I have a ever growing anxiety problem concerning him telling people things about me, out of spite as I know that that he is a very petty person and has already told people things about me, trying to pit our mutual friends against me. Obviously this information has gotten to me, and I whilst I was with him, he was very bitter about his previous exes so I know how bad he can be.
On reflection, I regret ever getting with him. I have learnt a very valuable lesson which is to never rush in to relationships, but he has caused be to get in to a deep depression, and I am constantly anxious about what he will say about me, in case it gets in to the wrong hands.
Could anyone offer any advice? Thanks

Hi Guys, I recently broke up with my boyfriend of 3 months, 2 months ago and in that time I had obviously told him things about me, which I had done in secrecy as I had trusted him. But the relationship began to become very cold, one sided, and he became a very egoistic, control freak, which caused me to leave him. He blocked me on all social media accounts (which is a good thing I believe as I believe he would like to move on from me), but occasionally I find that he unblocks me and tries adding me again which I decline. I sent him an email saying that it wasn't either of our faults that we grew apart, and that we should move on, doing it mainly for my closure. But now I have a ever growing anxiety problem concerning him telling people things about me, out of spite as I know that that he is a very petty person and has already told people things about me, trying to pit our mutual friends against me. Obviously this information has gotten to me, and I whilst I was with him, he was very bitter about his previous exes so I know how bad he can be.
On reflection, I regret ever getting with him. I have learnt a very valuable lesson which is to never rush in to relationships, but he has caused be to get in to a deep depression, and I am constantly anxious about what he will say about me, in case it gets in to the wrong hands.
Could anyone offer any advice? Thanks

Hi Guys, I recently broke up with my boyfriend of 3 months, 2 months ago and in that time I had obviously told him things about me, which I had done in secrecy as I had trusted him. But the relationship began to become very cold, one sided, and he became a very egoistic, control freak, which caused me to leave him. He blocked me on all social media accounts (which is a good thing I believe as I believe he would like to move on from me), but occasionally I find that he unblocks me and tries adding me again which I decline. I sent him an email saying that it wasn't either of our faults that we grew apart, and that we should move on, doing it mainly for my closure. But now I have a ever growing anxiety problem concerning him telling people things about me, out of spite as I know that that he is a very petty person and has already told people things about me, trying to pit our mutual friends against me. Obviously this information has gotten to me, and I whilst I was with him, he was very bitter about his previous exes so I know how bad he can be.
On reflection, I regret ever getting with him. I have learnt a very valuable lesson which is to never rush in to relationships, but he has caused be to get in to a deep depression, and I am constantly anxious about what he will say about me, in case it gets in to the wrong hands.
Could anyone offer any advice? Thanks

Hi Guys, I recently broke up with my boyfriend of 3 months, 2 months ago and in that time I had obviously told him things about me, which I had done in secrecy as I had trusted him. But the relationship began to become very cold, one sided, and he became a very egoistic, control freak, which caused me to leave him. He blocked me on all social media accounts (which is a good thing I believe as I believe he would like to move on from me), but occasionally I find that he unblocks me and tries adding me again which I decline. I sent him an email saying that it wasn't either of our faults that we grew apart, and that we should move on, doing it mainly for my closure. But now I have a ever growing anxiety problem concerning him telling people things about me, out of spite as I know that that he is a very petty person and has already told people things about me, trying to pit our mutual friends against me. Obviously this information has gotten to me, and I whilst I was with him, he was very bitter about his previous exes so I know how bad he can be.
On reflection, I regret ever getting with him. I have learnt a very valuable lesson which is to never rush in to relationships, but he has caused be to get in to a deep depression, and I am constantly anxious about what he will say about me, in case it gets in to the wrong hands.
Could anyone offer any advice? Thanks

Hi Guys, I recently broke up with my boyfriend of 3 months, 2 months ago and in that time I had obviously told him things about me, which I had done in secrecy as I had trusted him. But the relationship began to become very cold, one sided, and he became a very egoistic, control freak, which caused me to leave him. He blocked me on all social media accounts (which is a good thing I believe as I believe he would like to move on from me), but occasionally I find that he unblocks me and tries adding me again which I decline. I sent him an email saying that it wasn't either of our faults that we grew apart, and that we should move on, doing it mainly for my closure. But now I have a ever growing anxiety problem concerning him telling people things about me, out of spite as I know that that he is a very petty person and has already told people things about me, trying to pit our mutual friends against me. Obviously this information has gotten to me, and I whilst I was with him, he was very bitter about his previous exes so I know how bad he can be.
On reflection, I regret ever getting with him. I have learnt a very valuable lesson which is to never rush in to relationships, but he has caused be to get in to a deep depression, and I am constantly anxious about what he will say about me, in case it gets in to the wrong hands.
Could anyone offer any advice? Thanks

Hi Guys, I recently broke up with my boyfriend of 3 months, 2 months ago and in that time I had obviously told him things about me, which I had done in secrecy as I had trusted him. But the relationship began to become very cold, one sided, and he became a very egoistic, control freak, which caused me to leave him. He blocked me on all social media accounts (which is a good thing I believe as I believe he would like to move on from me), but occasionally I find that he unblocks me and tries adding me again which I decline. I sent him an email saying that it wasn't either of our faults that we grew apart, and that we should move on, doing it mainly for my closure. But now I have a ever growing anxiety problem concerning him telling people things about me, out of spite as I know that that he is a very petty person and has already told people things about me, trying to pit our mutual friends against me. Obviously this information has gotten to me, and I whilst I was with him, he was very bitter about his previous exes so I know how bad he can be.
On reflection, I regret ever getting with him. I have learnt a very valuable lesson which is to never rush in to relationships, but he has caused be to get in to a deep depression, and I am constantly anxious about what he will say about me, in case it gets in to the wrong hands.
Could anyone offer any advice? Thanks

I was going to say, reading Sophie's post she came across as awfully Stoic