Do guys turn out like their Dad's?

Hey

I've been with a guy for quite a few months now but we were really good friends for many years before being in a relationship so things on the whole are going really well

However, I'm worried we aren't as similar as I once thought we might be and I'm not sure whether that's his true colours showing or me focusing on the wrong things?

For example he finds some (what I would class as offensive) humour funny and can be deliberately awkward and condescending to other people but he's not like this to me. He described how funny he found it when his Dad gave an intern at his work a really hard time and from the things he tells me (not actually met him yet due to time/distance) his Dad sounds like a really mean person :/

My bf knows and seems happy to openly admit being opinionated and argumentative which are qualities he doesn't often show around me but I guess what I'm worried about is that as we get along so well overall that we'll stay together a while and then as we get older he might become more and more like his Dad?

I don't know whether I should just not think about it unless he says something mean to me directly? Or am I right to be concerned?

Depends on his relationship but there's definitely no guarantee

Some may do. My dad was a drug taking, abusive alcoholic who died at 48 of liver poisoning. I don't aspire to be any of those things. Depends on the person.

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ahh I'm sorry to hear that :/ yeah I reckon I should just see how things go - I'll be starting uni at the end of this year so if we broke up I wouldn't want to get into another relationship before then anyway

Hey

I've been with a guy for quite a few months now but we were really good friends for many years before being in a relationship so things on the whole are going really well

However, I'm worried we aren't as similar as I once thought we might be and I'm not sure whether that's his true colours showing or me focusing on the wrong things?

For example he finds some (what I would class as offensive) humour funny and can be deliberately awkward and condescending to other people but he's not like this to me. He described how funny he found it when his Dad gave an intern at his work a really hard time and from the things he tells me (not actually met him yet due to time/distance) his Dad sounds like a really mean person :/

My bf knows and seems happy to openly admit being opinionated and argumentative which are qualities he doesn't often show around me but I guess what I'm worried about is that as we get along so well overall that we'll stay together a while and then as we get older he might become more and more like his Dad?

I don't know whether I should just not think about it unless he says something mean to me directly? Or am I right to be concerned?

Hey

I've been with a guy for quite a few months now but we were really good friends for many years before being in a relationship so things on the whole are going really well

However, I'm worried we aren't as similar as I once thought we might be and I'm not sure whether that's his true colours showing or me focusing on the wrong things?

For example he finds some (what I would class as offensive) humour funny and can be deliberately awkward and condescending to other people but he's not like this to me. He described how funny he found it when his Dad gave an intern at his work a really hard time and from the things he tells me (not actually met him yet due to time/distance) his Dad sounds like a really mean person :/

My bf knows and seems happy to openly admit being opinionated and argumentative which are qualities he doesn't often show around me but I guess what I'm worried about is that as we get along so well overall that we'll stay together a while and then as we get older he might become more and more like his Dad?

I don't know whether I should just not think about it unless he says something mean to me directly? Or am I right to be concerned?

That's understandable. After all, Uni is difficult for dating students because they're all or mostly separated. Where are you looking at going?

It really depends and it can go one of two ways. 1. he admires the way his dad acts (whether good or bad) and so aspires to be like him (or will act like him without knowing) 2. he doesnt like the way his dad acts and so does everything in his power to NOT turn out like him.. unless he sees his dads way as wrong its unlikely he will fight against his natural instinct :/ I hope it ends well for you though, good luck

yeah :/ my course has a study abroad year so who knows what the future holds haha Essex is my first choice :3