This is tearing me apart

Just remember one thing and I'll let you work the rest out for yourself (you might not like it)
You and your ex broke up for a reason. Who broke up with whom doesn't matter, you still broke up. Yeah the feelings will still be there for your ex, but you need to move on from her and have a fresh new start, with the girl at school, it's the only way you'll actually move on, and I'm sure you'll find it the best decision you've ever made

I know that that's the best decision, yeah. I just don't know how to go about telling her that I need to leave her behind...

You've got to be honest with her, sit down with her and tell her how you feel about things.
You'd rather be honest with, than lying to her and yourself right? Trust me on this one, I've been through it myself, if your honest with her and tell her the truth, rather than leading her on, you'd be the bigger person and you won't feel bad or guilty afterwards, because you know for a fact that you did the right thing

This is exactly what I want to do... it's just hard

Thanks for the advice

No probs
Hey, I know it's hard, it is never going to be easy! I'll give you my situation for example, I liked two guys, both from two different 6th forms (my ex went to a different school), one was a really close friend who I'd started liking and the other was an ex who cheated on me with my best friend. At a party, me and my ex met after a long time, got drunk and stuff happened. But a couple of days later at school, the guy I liked from my school, sat me down in a free period and told me how he had felt for the past couple of months and he was honest, and I was honest back, i told him how i felt and we had a heart to heart for a good hour! I never spoke to my ex after that, deleted him out of my life and started things off the guy at school!!
What I'm trying to say is that in the end it will all be fine!!
Once you have spoken to her, tell me how it went okay!! Just PM me, I'll wait

Yeah, that's a very similar situation haha the only difference being the fact that my ex is still a good person in my eyes, so I don't want to hurt her as much as I was hurt before

But yeah, I let you know what happens

@ravioliyears - turns out this weekend only complicated matters in the end

If this is who I think it is, I'm sorry to hear that Youre not the only one, I did something similar today where I told this guynwho told me he likes me that I'm in a relationship when I'm not.... so I'm scrwed. Plus, I may see this OTHER guy on thursday whom my friends think likes me, and i dont know how the day will turnout..... so urm, yh. I'm screwed I'll pm you what happens

Like the other member said before, you need to be honest with your ex. I think it would take some weight off your shoulders. The later you may leave it, the more your ex may think you want to be with her.

@ravioliyears - turns out this weekend only complicated matters in the end

Hey!
What do you mean by it complicated matters?
I'm sure you're over thinking about it and it's not that bad!!
If you want to talk about it, not so publically I can help you out, just PM me and we'll talk

The original intention this weekend just gone was to talk to her and work out our feelings so we could move on.
I didn't expect it to end up with me liking her again
It's just messing with my emotions...

Posting anon because some of my school-friends have started following me on here recently, but even though some of you might recognise me from the situation, I'm OK with that. Just don't start telling everyone who I am

So... I'm trapped. Lord knows how this happened, but now I'm being forced to make a decision that breaks down even the strongest wills. Let me give you the back story:

A little while ago, I broke up with my ex. It was painful, and left me grieving for the best part of a fortnight, but it was mostly silence and confusion for around a month before we finally got in contact again to talk about the situation. After talking, we both pretty easily understood each others' reasons and feelings about what happened, and it wasn't long before we were cool again and talking 'normally' (as normal as you can get in this situation, of course). I'd kind of accepted that nothing was going to happen between me and her ever again, and I didn't really want anything to either.

A couple weeks ago, we had our school social. There, I ended up spending most of the evening with a girl I'd been friends with since Y7, we've been chatting every day since, and I was reliably informed on Friday that she's interested in me - a feeling which is mutual, and I was planning to ask her out at some point last week anyway (which I never got around to in the end haha).

But here's where the problem arose. Last night, I went out drinking with a few friends... including my ex. Bad idea. We got talking again and both realised we still had feelings for each other, we weren't really happy just being friends. I told her I didn't really have time for a relationship at the moment with school taking full priority. But that's not strictly true, it's more I don't have time for a relationship with her, as she's a way away, and I can't see her at school like I do this other girl.

So I've ended up in the situation where I have feelings for two girls. My ex whom I enjoyed several good months with before, but ended badly because of something that might not change should it happen again. And a girl at school who I've been friends with for 6 years now, we seem to be a perfect match, I know she has feelings for me too and (I think) she knows I feel the same maybe.

What I want, and what is best for me, is to move on from my ex and ask out the second girl. But how can I possibly do that to my ex when I've already told her the reason that we don't get back together is because I don't have time for a relationship? Enough hurt was thrown around before and I don't have the strength to hurt her by getting into a better relationship.

I really, really need some advice on what to do and how to cope with this tide of feelings. It really is tearing me apart...

Thanks in advance xx

ok bruh, first you need to figure you who you like more, if your old friend than call your friend meet up and say, hey we broke up cause of xx problem and i think we are just not a match and lets not try thins again and we should really move on and find someone else and we can stay friends but if we think that we might end up doing something wrong than we should just completely separate. trust me if you really think she is a good person than she will understand and let go BUT if she becomes really mad and tries to hit you or anything than yeah its not worth your time since that is her real personality but they way speak of her than she will understand, also dont just start dating your old friend right away cause you need to get your head straight first. and before u actually start to date her YOU MUST talk to your friend about it and tell her EVERYTHING so that she has a heads up and she know what she is getting herself into.

Five years too late, bruh.