To those of you who don't believe in sex before marriage, or who say that they 'have to be in a committed, monogamous relationship with someone before they have sex', my question to you is what happens if you marry someone or get into a serious relationship with them only to find you're not sexually compatible and that your partner doesn't satisfy your sexual needs?
The notion of 'no sex before marriage' or 'no sex before monogamy' is a disasterous, puritanical concept forced upon us by religion etc that isnt natural and only sets a relationship or marriage up for failure.
Personally, I ALWAYS want to to find out whether I'm sexually compatible with someone BEFORE I commit to anything serious. I'd NEVER get into a serious, exclusive relationship or marry someone without finding out FIRST whether we're sexually compatible.
If you marry someone or get into a serious relationship with them and find they aren't satisfying your sexual needs, you'll either break up with them, get cheated on, or cheat on them with someone who does satisfy you sexually..guaranteed.Or at very least, you'll end up feeling trapped, frustrated and unfulfilled in your relationship.
Think I'm joking and that this doesn't matter? There have been many well documented cases of this happening. Look all around you....it happens all the time in everyday life with a lot of couples.
I actually think that if two people are sexually attracted to each other, they should get sexually intimate as quickly as possible. Why waste time 'getting to know someone' or 'taking it slow' only to find out that in the long run you aren't compatible in the bedroom? Better to find that out early on.
Don't delude yourself into this whole 'no sex before marriage' or 'no sex before monogamy'. It's a falacy and only sets yourself up for failure. Have sex with your partner and see if you're sexually compatible BEFORE you commit to anything exclusive, serious or long-term. I guarantee you'll thank me if you follow this advice.