How do I get over this girl?

He is experiencing pretty severe side effects of heartbreak so that was a serious statement.

Tbh I think you completely deserve it.

HOWEVER, I'm going to give you advice on this, yet again. If you choose to ignore it this time then that's your choice but you'll be left feeling this way for a very long time.

1. Deliberately focus on other things. Every time you catch yourself thinking about her, stop and make a conscious effort to think about something else.

2. Go out with your friends. You've said you have male friends, so go out and have some fun with them. Keep yourself occupied.

3. Join clubs/ take up hobbies. Essentially choose some things that you're interested in and do them. If you like horse riding, then join a club. If you like body building, join a gym.

4. Immerse yourself in university work. Focus intensely on getting your work done and completing your final year. If you start thinking about her, consciously change the topic in your head so that you aren't thinking about her. Force yourself to think about other things.

5. Keep yourself busy. If you're sitting around all day doing nothing you'll wind up thinking about her, hence the creation of this thread. Make lots of plans and full your day with activities.

6. Do not talk to her. If she unblocks you, then block her and do not unblock her. Avoid all contact. Whenever you talk to her you wind up miserable, especially considering you know she doesn't actually like you.

7. Do not date right now. You're mentally unwell and in a bad place. Dating will just make you think of her until you're over her, and it's not fair on the girls you date if you can't fully commit to them.

If you follow this, you will get over her. But you have to actually try, and stop wallowing in self pity and trying to get sympathy from us on the student room. You need to be proactive.

Perfect advice.... No better way to put it!!

I'd take the advice this time....

8. Do not ignore georgiaswift. Otherwise you'll be back here tomorrow

Believeteam22 you have posted your situation on several online forums. Your last thread on TSR was locked by a moderator. It sounds like you need professional advice from a doctor. There is nothing anybody here can say to comfort you anymore. It's all been said before.

Get counselling.

Ok thank you I really appreciate your advice. I will try to do each of the things you said.
Although I actually feel physical pain because of this and I don't know how to stop that.
There is just thing, on Monday, she will be in my class. Now usually, we always sit next to each other. So what should I do on Monday? Should I go and sit in my usual place? Or should I go and sit elsewhere? And what about when I see her? What if she says hi or talks to me?

I think she will sit elsewhere and surround herself with other friends and try to isolate me. (She has done this once before)

I don't want to make this worse. I know her, she will be able to act normal because she isn't affected by this like I am.

I am considering that.

No, sit somewhere else. And if she tries to talk to you, tell her 'I don't want any more contact with you' and then move away. Do not engage in any conversation with her, and don't get drawn into explaining your reasons or asking her why she did this. Just say 'I don't want any contact with you' and leave. No other words need to be spoken.

It's not that I meant it horribly. I genuinely believe you need to talk to someone about this. There's only so much we can say through text. You need a professional (as Kimbie put) to navigate you through this hard time.
Good luck.

I know. The thing is I have talked about this situation to many people, multiple friends, family members, relatives, my best friend, etc.

Wait... Has this been going on for a year now?!

Déjà vu. This girl isn't even the sole issue anymore. She is just the focus of a much wider mental health problem that centralises on emotional instability, addiction and dependency. How can we possibly help someone who is constantly drawn to repeating patterns of negative behaviour?

You need to rebuild your life from scratch once university is over and honestly the only way this can happen is with the long-term help and support of a mental health professional.

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No I really don't think so. I'm ok honestly. I'm all there. It's just I've spent 3yrs with this girl and now she's completely shut me out of her life entirely and it's really affecting me in a bad way. I miss her. I wish things were different. I wish it didn't end this way. She doesn't seem fazed by this at all. I'm just heartbroken.

No I really don't think so. I'm ok honestly. I'm all there. It's just I've spent 3yrs with this girl and now she's completely shut me out of her life entirely and it's really affecting me in a bad way. I miss her. I wish things were different. I wish it didn't end this way. She doesn't seem fazed by this at all. I'm just heartbroken.

This guy HAS to be a troll, absolutely has to be. Google his name and you'll see how much he's posted on like..bodybuilding forums etc but nothing about actually lifting, it just seems he wants to get onto a popular forum.

Tbh I think you completely deserve it.

HOWEVER, I'm going to give you advice on this, yet again. If you choose to ignore it this time then that's your choice but you'll be left feeling this way for a very long time.

1. Deliberately focus on other things. Every time you catch yourself thinking about her, stop and make a conscious effort to think about something else.

2. Go out with your friends. You've said you have male friends, so go out and have some fun with them. Keep yourself occupied.

3. Join clubs/ take up hobbies. Essentially choose some things that you're interested in and do them. If you like horse riding, then join a club. If you like body building, join a gym.

4. Immerse yourself in university work. Focus intensely on getting your work done and completing your final year. If you start thinking about her, consciously change the topic in your head so that you aren't thinking about her. Force yourself to think about other things.

5. Keep yourself busy. If you're sitting around all day doing nothing you'll wind up thinking about her, hence the creation of this thread. Make lots of plans and full your day with activities.

6. Do not talk to her. If she unblocks you, then block her and do not unblock her. Avoid all contact. Whenever you talk to her you wind up miserable, especially considering you know she doesn't actually like you.

7. Do not date right now. You're mentally unwell and in a bad place. Dating will just make you think of her until you're over her, and it's not fair on the girls you date if you can't fully commit to them.

If you follow this, you will get over her. But you have to actually try, and stop wallowing in self pity and trying to get sympathy from us on the student room. You need to be proactive.

No I really don't think so. I'm ok honestly. I'm all there. It's just I've spent 3yrs with this girl and now she's completely shut me out of her life entirely and it's really affecting me in a bad way. I miss her. I wish things were different. I wish it didn't end this way. She doesn't seem fazed by this at all. I'm just heartbroken.