Hey Guys,
So I've been having issues.
I have been diagnosed with depression and this is my last year before I head off to uni in September (I've got my offers already). This is not an ideal situation to be in. My parents aren't thinking of it as a big deal and have decided to be really strict on me. There are multiple reasons for my depression one of them being my parent's oppression towards me.
I understand they have high expectations of me and me getting into uni is important but they just put too much pressure on me - I can't even handle it. Recently, on a uni chat, I met this guy. This isn't just any guy. He means the world to me. Like whenever I am with him I am happy. He gave me a reason to be alive and not give up. I stopped self-harming and having suicidal thoughts because of him, therefore I love him so much that I can't imagine life without him.
Bad news is that he lives 2 hours away from me by train (we both can't drive) and we barely see each other. We started speaking on December 18th of last year and have seen each other 4 times since then, but when we see each other we spend hours and hours together. My parents being strict didn't know about the 3 times I had met him before he asked me out.
On valentine's because of the distance, he sent a bouquet of flowers, chocolates and a card to my front door and my parents found out. They were angry at first but they're not anymore, I don't think. Just now they think that being with him is all I think about and that I will go down the wrong route if I keep dating him. By this, I mean they hold the idea that I will stray away from education because they did that when they were younger. They only completed A -levels and never went to Uni, so they do not understand how hard it is to get there and they are expecting me to get A*AAA but realistically I think I'll get AABB which is enough to get into the uni I want to get in to.
Now because they don't understand, I have huge anxiety problems, i am getting counselling from school for this. They said I'm not allowed out anymore until exams are over. That's 4 months of being locked up in my house, studying 24/7.I thought it was going to be easy but I miss my boyfriend more than ever and I'm so afraid of losing him. I told him (I last saw him on the 28th of Feb.) we were both breaking up in tears when we said goodbye after spending 7 hours together <3 I miss him loads, like when we skype and text every day, it makes me feel loved. I need him and I need to see him as he gave me the motivation to do work again and I've been getting the grades I need so that makes me so happy... but my parents don't understand that I need him or that he's actually a good guy.
My past relationships weren't that great and they were always secretive. I'm 19years old and I'll be 20 by the end of this year. I therefore feel as though I should be allowed to make my own decisions. They don't seem to understand that I can be with someone and still do well. That I need a balance between my social life and my work life.
I'm going crazy and I feel even more depressed now than I was before. I do not know what to do and I feel so alone
xxxxx