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When you get married do you want your own separate bank account ?

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Not happening in my marriage. See neomasculinity vs, the perils of female financial autonomy for reference. Pragmatic sustainability ftw :yy:

So one?

Reply 61

TaintedLight

23 and still growing. I would just hope my lady wont secretly stash monies away from me.

I'm more along the lines of what's mine is our's. So if she has £££ stashed with her, I would hope she will happily give it up if I genuinely asked for it... .... 😬

Reply 62

Indieboohoo1

We both should have are own account and a separate joint account for bills and home stuff

Reply 63

username155270

Original post by Foo.mp3

We'll use a shared account, aye. I'm an all or nothing kinda guy when it comes to serious long term relationships :colonhash:

Woooowwww I love this ! It should really be like this, but I get why people want their own thing.

joint. 22

Individual accounts for individual spending

Joint account for maintaining house, bills, kids etc

Don't like the idea of shoving both our wages into one big pool

I'm 18

Reply 66

e aí rapaz

What's insecure is needing a joint bank account to prove how committed your relationship is. Which is basically the reason 90% of the people in this thread have given.

Reply 67

somesomebody

Original post by HFBS

If you entered the marriage with significant assets then there is an argument for a prenup, although I'm not sure how much UK courts actually take notice of them. I'm sure a law student would be able to clarify. But fundamentally, having a separate account will not stop one party in a divorce from having to pay a settlement to the other, no.

isn't that called alimony? :hmmmm:

it's so expensive to divorce lool

Reply 68

queen-bee

Original post by Foo.mp3

We'll use a shared account, aye. I'm an all or nothing kinda guy when it comes to serious long term relationships :colonhash:

Okay but what's wrong with her having another Account for herself?

Reply 69

Maid Marian

I won't get married ( :frown:

) but if I did then I'd like to have my own account plus a shared one for the house.

Reply 70

username2385417

Separate, for keeping track of things

Reply 71

The_Internet

Original post by xobeauty

Or shared?

And why?... And disclose your age.

Both. One for the main joint one
Separate, because I have like 13 banks :biggrin:

Reply 72

queen-bee

Original post by Foo.mp3

If there's a logistical reason for it, then fair enough, but otherwise it's about being a team in every respect, plus shared financial decision making and my financial oversight :scrooge:

Sure,that's why you can have a joint account and one separate one for her own spending

Reply 73

dontcallmesammy

Mid 20s.

We've been together 5 years, and we've got a joint account that we both pay into each month for our bills etc, but having our own accounts is a must.

He can spend whatever he wants from his own account on his motorbike, and I can spend whatever I want from my own account when I go off travelling and leave him at home. Works great for us.

Reply 74

queen-bee

Original post by Foo.mp3

Not sure I follow, m'dear :mute:

You'll still have a joint account and your wife can have her own for her own spending

Reply 75

queen-bee

Original post by Foo.mp3

Does not compute. What's the point in her having her own account if I have control/oversight anyway? :dontknow:

So you can be less controlling :laugh:

Reply 76

Akarim11

Yes, I feel like I would.

Reply 77

username155270

Original post by Foo.mp3

No need. My wifey will be 110% on board. Indeed, she'll be relieved that someone with my economic pedigree, not to mention discipline/reliability, is there and has the inclination/ability to keep family affairs and finances on lock-down :ninja:

Would you freak out if she spent $250 on clothes for herself would you question her? Would you even care?

Reply 78

username155270

I don't know what I want yet, our own and joint sounds smart but morally sounds no no.

Reply 79

lilymoran

Seen too many controlling people who want an itemised run down of every penny spent / people who clear out joint accounts before leaving, not to see the necessity of having one's own money. So either separate accounts or joint one for bills.

Even the latter is not fool proof when the other party doesn't pay in!