Hello,
I met this guy two months ago through mutual friends and we very quickly became friends. He began calling and texting me every day and is still doing so now. He asked me straight a few weeks ago if I liked him, to which I said yes. And he replied the same, but explained his situation is hard for him.
The thing is, he has just come out of a 7 year relationship. He is still living with his partner and they only communicate via text messages. He told me even if him or his partner moves out, he'll need time to heal before considering another relationship. I accepted this and let it be.
Things quickly escalated and we began to get intimate. But before that, I told him I didn't think it was a good idea, because as I was a virgin I may feel an emotional bond with him. He went on to assure me he wont be getting back with his ex and that there's no harm in a bit of fun.
Anyway, we've been having sex for a while now which is fun, but I can't help but feel like he sees me as a piece on the side. When people ask about us being together he straight out denies it and tells them we're just friends. I asked him why he was saying this and his reply was "Well, because we are just friends". Last time I checked, I don't have sex with my friends.
I feel he's taken advantage of my naivety and kindness and basically made me his friend with benefits. I'm 23, I don't really want a friend with benefits. I want to find a stable relationship where someone loves me.
I don't know what to do. I feel an attachment to him and it's only getting stronger. Do I withdraw myself from him now and remain JUST friends. Or do I see how things pan out and maybe in the future he'll express his feelings for me?
I feel he has feelings for me but isn't able to accept them because he's been in a committed relationship for 7 years. He's scared to let go of his ex out of fear of being lonely. I just feel I'm his "back up" for when things do end for good with his ex. Any advice? Thank you.