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Never had a boyfriend

Im almost 18 and ive never had a boyfriend or had my first kiss. im not ugly im just average i guess. Im medium height and slim and i always look presentable (makeup, clothes etc) but only one boy has ever took an intrest in me and even that faded out pretty quick. Like what am i doing wrong? everyone my age and all my friends have all had relationships and i haven't. Whats wrong with me?

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Reply 1
Well your a woman so even if you did something off putting they'd still want to sleep with you, hell even if you were ugly you'd still get lucky. My bet is you are either too picky or not social enough.
Me too
That is much more common than you would think, don't worry about it
Original post by Anonymous
Im almost 18 and ive never had a boyfriend or had my first kiss. im not ugly im just average i guess. Im medium height and slim and i always look presentable (makeup, clothes etc) but only one boy has ever took an intrest in me and even that faded out pretty quick. Like what am i doing wrong? everyone my age and all my friends have all had relationships and i haven't. Whats wrong with me?

Snap. Horrors of an all girls school...
There's nothing wrong with you, it's fairly common to have a first relationship in your late teens or even well into your twenties. If you really want to experience a relationship and like someone in particular, show interest in him, take the first step. No need to wait for a bloke to do it first :smile:
Original post by Anonymous
Im almost 18 and ive never had a boyfriend or had my first kiss. im not ugly im just average i guess. Im medium height and slim and i always look presentable (makeup, clothes etc) but only one boy has ever took an intrest in me and even that faded out pretty quick. Like what am i doing wrong? everyone my age and all my friends have all had relationships and i haven't. Whats wrong with me?


As a male equivalent, I blame the social pressures on young people's appearances. It would seem that, with everyone's increasing standards (Which are now almost unattainable) people don't find love easily. Alternatively, you could socialise with more people and introduce yourself differently? Everyone's lives revolve around the 'friendzone'. I highly doubt your appearance will matter a huge deal. Most men don't seem overly concerned with appearance. Take me for example! I disregard appearance and bid everything on personality, therefore fall for kind people all too often.
Reply 7
Original post by Philbert
There's nothing wrong with you, it's fairly common to have a first relationship in your late teens or even well into your twenties. If you really want to experience a relationship and like someone in particular, show interest in him, take the first step. No need to wait for a bloke to do it first :smile:


Thanks for the advice. Glad to hear im kinda normal 😂
Honestly dont worry about it. Get busy with doing things you like with you like and enjoying life to build up your confidence. Youll soon attract attention and know how to deal with it. Someone for everyone. be prepared to kiss a lot of frogs....
Reply 9
Original post by Tinemither
As a male equivalent, I blame the social pressures on young people's appearances. It would seem that, with everyone's increasing standards (Which are now almost unattainable) people don't find love easily. Alternatively, you could socialise with more people and introduce yourself differently? Everyone's lives revolve around the 'friendzone'. I highly doubt your appearance will matter a huge deal. Most men don't seem overly concerned with appearance. Take me for example! I disregard appearance and bid everything on personality, therefore fall for kind people all too often.

Thanks :smile: and i get what you mean :/ im constantly looking at other girls and thinking what is it they've got that i haven't. Modern society sucks tbh
Original post by Anonymous
Thanks :smile: and i get what you mean :/ im constantly looking at other girls and thinking what is it they've got that i haven't. Modern society sucks tbh


You should totally message me, just for the purpose of a good rant together about the failings of society and how it's so exclusive, etc. if you're up for it! I need people to speak with :3
Reply 11
Original post by Anonymous
Im almost 18 and ive never had a boyfriend or had my first kiss. im not ugly im just average i guess. Im medium height and slim and i always look presentable (makeup, clothes etc) but only one boy has ever took an intrest in me and even that faded out pretty quick. Like what am i doing wrong? everyone my age and all my friends have all had relationships and i haven't. Whats wrong with me?


Ok then let's hang out with me !!!
Yeah its definitely much more common than you think. I agree with what others have said so far about maybe branching out from your own social group and try to meet new people.

Looks aren't everything so i wouldn't worry about that, just have fun and be yourself, that's what guys like most :smile:
Original post by evalilyXOX
Yeah its definitely much more common than you think. I agree with what others have said so far about maybe branching out from your own social group and try to meet new people.

Looks aren't everything so i wouldn't worry about that, just have fun and be yourself, that's what guys like most :smile:


Thanks a lot, im definitely going to try being more sociable with different groups
Girls school problem -_- how do you meet guys when you know none


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Original post by Failingstudent98
Girls school problem -_- how do you meet guys when you know none


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You message them on TSR or go out and about and find some? I go to a mixed school, I've always been single. All-girls school shouldn't have too much of an effect on it, but you need to socialise with more men.
Original post by Tinemither
You message them on TSR or go out and about and find some? I go to a mixed school, I've always been single. All-girls school shouldn't have too much of an effect on it, but you need to socialise with more men.


An all girls school has a lot of effect on it actually because you literally do not have a conversation with a boy for 6 years (well except relatives) so it's a massive knock to your confidence. Also generally at a girls school the girls are either utter sluts because if one guy shows them the tiniest bit of attention at a party or online or something they will get with them first meeting or they are socially awkward around boys. There's no in between. It's difficult to socialise with men, like how do you go about making friends with guys when you have no mutual friends?


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I would say stop worrying and just enjoy life, you are not even 18 yet.
Original post by Anonymous
Im almost 18 and ive never had a boyfriend or had my first kiss. im not ugly im just average i guess. Im medium height and slim and i always look presentable (makeup, clothes etc) but only one boy has ever took an intrest in me and even that faded out pretty quick. Like what am i doing wrong? everyone my age and all my friends have all had relationships and i haven't. Whats wrong with me?


I can turn all that around for you! :u:

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