Would you lose respect for a partner if this happened?

if your stringing her along when you know she has feelings for you i would lose respect for you. not cool.

You wonder why she doesn't respect you for whatever reason? Maybe because she slept with someone behind your back, left you and then you went crawling back into her bed six months later? I wouldn't respect someone that allowed themselves to be treated that way either. You've taught her she can do wtf she likes and get away with it.

Am I?? If anything she's stringing me along...

Haha the classic 'I cheated, you didn't do anything so it's your fault argument' - Nothing wrong with you OP you have a very forgiving nature. She's a bitch and if she speaks out of line again don't hesitate to complain about her loose morals, that's clearly not the only loose thing.

Perhaps. Although, couples do reconcile after cheating, it is possible, so surely this can't completely destroy the respect?

I've stayed with someone after they cheated and we made it work for a time but in the end the lack of trust kills it. Could you really trust her not to sleep with some other guy while she's back at uni again? She knows you're a pushover now and won't fail to take full advantage of that. I personally think you're better off without.

Don't be a cuck, if a partner cheats then it is bye bye for them.

You wonder why she doesn't respect you for whatever reason? Maybe because she slept with someone behind your back, left you and then you went crawling back into her bed six months later? I wouldn't respect someone that allowed themselves to be treated that way either. You've taught her she can do wtf she likes and get away with it.

i would never go back to someone who cheats. once a cheater always a cheater.

Haha the classic 'I cheated, you didn't do anything so it's your fault argument' - Nothing wrong with you OP you have a very forgiving nature. She's a bitch and if she speaks out of line again don't hesitate to complain about her loose morals, that's clearly not the only loose thing.

In fairness, this is exactly how I always felt in the past. Now that I've experienced it, however, I can understand why some people find it possible to forgive.

why on earth are you still in contact? she clearly hasn't changed if she's making nasty comments

I hoped that the fact that I quickly moved on to someone else, told her I didn't want to talk, ignored her for about 6 months and then suggested she had issues would have avoided the pushover appearance. Do you think not?

Well that's it, if we were to get back together I would make a stronger show of telling her exactly how badly she acted and that if anything of a similar nature happened again it would be over for good.

In terms of crawling back, she asked to meet to apologise, I agreed and then she made the moves, so I hoped it wouldn't appear as such.

Why did you need to meet up with her to get her apology? Couldn't she or shouldn't she have said it sooner? You didn't owe her anything, you didn't have to meet with her for an apology, which is bs actually - she used that as a way to manipulate you into meeting up with her to try and reel you back in. You undid all that hard work not talking to her and moving on by sleeping with her that night, if I'm honest.

Saying "if we were to get back together" negates "I would make a stronger show of telling her how badly she acted". She knows how badly she acted, she cheated on you, the stronger show of telling her how bad she acted would be not to get back with her.

It's your choice but trust me it will not end well.

You're probably right. But surely what would affect her most emotionally would be to become important to her once again and then insist upon change or threaten to leave. Plus, in spite of all of this I still genuinely care for her and think I can make her happy - we seemed exceptionally so until we left for uni - she was talking about kids and our lives together etc.