Why do people swipe right and then not make an effort to talk?

In the last two days I've been matched with two men on an app called bumble. At first I wasn't sure if the app was buggy because my first message was delivered and never read. When I received a notification to say I was matched with another guy, I read his profile and asked him a question based on this. A couple minutes later I saw that he had read my message.

From there I knew I wasn't going to get a response. It makes no sense to me. I wouldn't swipe right if I had no intention to get to know someone.

scared to say the wrong thing, he wants to make sure he says something interesting enough to keep you interested

Maybe they swipe right on a lot of people and are more picky because of that.

Most guys on these apps will swipe right on every single user without even looking at their profile. It's simply easier to do it that way and maximise your chances of having somebody match with you than it is to be selective.

It's only after they've got a match that they bother looking at them properly to decide whether or not they're interested.

In the last two days I've been matched with two men on an app called bumble. At first I wasn't sure if the app was buggy because my first message was delivered and never read. When I received a notification to say I was matched with another guy, I read his profile and asked him a question based on this. A couple minutes later I saw that he had read my message.

From there I knew I wasn't going to get a response. It makes no sense to me. I wouldn't swipe right if I had no intention to get to know someone.

scared to say the wrong thing, he wants to make sure he says something interesting enough to keep you interested

Tbh most guys swipe right to tons of girls' profiles automatically without actually bothering to determine if they're actually attracted to them or read their profiles. This is because compared to girls (who get to be more picky) guys are at a disadvantage in online dating and therefore dont get as much room to be selective from the start. So the selectiveness comes afterwards.

When I still used tinder (and bumble) I'd just swipe right to most girls. I dont bother reading their profile unless they match with me. Being selective pre-match is literally redundant so I only read profiles of girls after they match with me, then I decide if I find them attractive or not.

Personally, even if I wasn't attracted to a girl I always reply to messages. I just think it's rude not to.

Try being a man, you may get hundreds of matches but only the fat girl at the bottom will say hi.


I've heard Bumble referred to as the "feminist tinder". Is this true? If so how?

Looool sorry that made me laugh. I hear though. There's alot of pressure for men to initiate. However on bumble the woman is in control in the beginning, she has 24 hours to make contact with a match or it disappears. Even if the guy wants to start a conversation he can't, he has to wait for the woman.

Most guys on these apps will swipe right on every single user without even looking at their profile. It's simply easier to do it that way and maximise your chances of having somebody match with you than it is to be selective.

It's only after they've got a match that they bother looking at them properly to decide whether or not they're interested.

I can imagine how the app is already. Maybe if you are a 11/10 model with a house, sportscar and a dental plan you'll get one message a week.

What the hell is bumble? Use tinder ya dingus



So they're being picky either way?

lmao the heck

Are you calling me ugly?

I can imagine how the app is already. Maybe if you are a 11/10 model with a house, sportscar and a dental plan you'll get one message a week.

Try being a man, you may get hundreds of matches but only the fat girl at the bottom will say hi.


I've heard Bumble referred to as the "feminist tinder". Is this true? If so how?