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second date at her place, didn't make a move

so i just had my second date with a girl i met on tinder

she invited me to hers to play around with some musical instruments (following on from a joke on our first date). After we got bored of that we watched a bit of TV and lay on her bed facing each other chatting. I kissed her before I left and she agreed to meet up again (although the exact date she's available seems to be quite vague at this point).

While this seems like it went ok, I can't help feeling she was trying to set up for us to do something more. She suggested we go into her room to watch something, she closed the door, and her two flatmates were both out of the flat.

Am I just reading too much into this? Should I have made a move? I mean we only just found out each others' last names and added each other on facebook.

Reply 1

Alexion

Maybe she did, but it's bad if things progress faster than you're comfortable with.

But don't worry about it. I'm sure that something more may happen next time :wink:

(assuming there is a next time...)

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

Original post by Alexion

Maybe she did, but it's bad if things progress faster than you're comfortable with.

But don't worry about it. I'm sure that something more may happen next time :wink:

(assuming there is a next time...)

So you don't think I've blown it? Was thinking of inviting her to mine for the next date.

Reply 3

Alexion

Original post by Anonymous

So you don't think I've blown it? Was thinking of inviting her to mine for the next date.

You haven't blown it (in both senses amirite) but yeah, keep going and it'll reach that point at some point soon :yep:

Reply 4

Anonymous #1

Original post by Alexion

You haven't blown it (in both senses amirite) but yeah, keep going and it'll reach that point at some point soon :yep:

Thanks for the reassurance.

Reply 5

Zarek

Nothing wrong with allowing a bit of sexual tension to grow. Sounds positive though.

Reply 6

Anonymous #1

Original post by Zarek

Nothing wrong with allowing a bit of sexual tension to grow. Sounds positive though.

Thanks man, you've put my mind at ease. I couldn't help thinking she might be disappointed that I didn't try anything.

Reply 7

Anonymous #1

Original post by Anonymous

Reply 8

Anonymous #1

haven't seen her this week as we've both been busy, going to text her about next week

surely since i was invited to hers for the second date then me inviting her to mine for the third won't scare her off? Obviously i'm just thinking about the implications of "third date". Was going to suggest i cook something.

Reply 9

Asuna Yuuki

Original post by Anonymous

Yeah, sounds like a good idea :yep:

can't fault that

Reply 10

Anonymous #1

Original post by Asuna Yuuki

Yeah, sounds like a good idea :yep:

can't fault that

Thanks for the reassurance. Just makes me not overthink things knowing someone agrees with me!

Reply 11

Jebedee

She was clearly DTF so she will either think you're a loser or give you another chance.

Don't screw up again.

Reply 12

Anonymous #1

Original post by Jebedee

She was clearly DTF so she will either think you're a loser or give you another chance.

Don't screw up again.

Well we've still been texting each other over the past week so I doubt she thinks I'm a loser.

It was the second time we had ever met. As far as I'm aware we both want a relationship and not just casual sex, so I think it was better that we at least know each others' last names now. In hindsight there were some signs she wanted to sleep together, but at the time I didn't really feel the "vibe".