Ex Muslim AMA

I have a load of questions!

Have you publicly announced that you're not Muslim? How did your parents, wider family-friend circle and community react? Did you get a tough time?

Also what are your views on the State of Israel now that you're outside Islam?

Did you leave because of:
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Ive never understood the "community" south Asian people speak of (that's the only people I've personally heard talk about it). Who are they? Just regular mosque goers? Family and friends? Neighbors? Muslim strangers?

Just curious, not meant to offend in any way.

No that's fine, I am not offended.


But I am Arab not South Asian, and when we say "Muslim community", we mean in general like family, Muslim friends or anyone who is Muslim and who we may know.

It's a term we use if you are Muslim, so that means you are part of the group, but that excludes every one else who isn't.

Okay, I get this alot, and I feel that this mainly comes from muslims misunderstanding us ex muslims or just outright denial that what we say may have the slightest bit of truth. Like many people I know have this closed minded mentality whereby you do not even consider that we read the Quran, and it lead us to not believing anymore. Btw, did you know that the guy who used to run VerseByVerseQuran.com left Islam. http://abdullahsameer.com/blog/about/
So at the end of the day, think what you want.

I somehow doubt that this would have been your position if the OP had converted to Islam in the same circumstances.

Ask away

I have told most of my friends, and most of the muslim ones cut me off except for 2 who I'm still good friends with. I haven't told my parents or family, but I intend to once I'm financially secure.

About Israel, I think it's too late for a one state solution. I don't mind Israel being a country, but I am strongly against the occupation they have over the palestinian territories and the illegal settlements. In all fairness, I just want peace in that area.

Thanks for your reply! It's a shame you would lose friends over this. I guess it just goes to show who really are your true friends. I also hope it all goes well with your family.

As for Israel, I asked because I am Israeli :P. I have my own views on Israel's politics, but I respect you for supporting peace and not ignorantly preaching for the destruction of our country, like some ignorant people do.

I have two more questions. Did you gradually begin to lose faith and doubt Islam over many years or did you just one day stop? Also are you an atheist now?

I'm not talking about ex-muslims in general. I'm just referring to the details you outlined of which why you left Islam. Like how you mentioned the lack of scientific evidence regarding the understanding of mountains and geology in the Qur'an. It just didn't seem like you looked it up enough. Also, I didn't see why you would disregard the entire religion based on this one point (again from what you mentioned earlier). Sorry if I came as harsh but I just felt like I needed to say what I thought. So anyways, I sincerely wish you good luck in life and God bless.


If the OP had converted to Islam solely due to a few scientific evidences they found in the Qur'an, I would be slightly skeptical but would of course welcome them and encourage them to learn more about the religion. Cheers.

Thank you. There are many factors tbh, too many to list here, but it is definitely not just scientific errors. I also disagree with many other aspects, like the prophets marriage to Aisha, and the fact that Islam does not condemn slavery.

Oh ok. So basically family and Muslim friends. Sucks that you get treated as such. I won't tell my family that I don't believe in it anymore for all those reasons. Why did you feel the need to tell them though? Instead of just going about your life like a 'bad' Muslim.

What do you disagree with in regards to the Prophet's marriage to Aisha?

Thank you. There are many factors tbh, too many to list here, but it is definitely not just scientific errors. I also disagree with many other aspects, like the prophets marriage to Aisha, and the fact that Islam does not condemn slavery.

I do not believe, even 1400 years ago, it is acceptable to have a girl so young be married. I mean there are ahadith where it mentions her playing with dolls. I find this simply unacceptable.

I know this wasn't directed towards me but I'll respond anyway. I personally would like to always stay open with my family, and I do not think they would disown me. Also, I believe that love for a child should be unconditional, so if my parents stop loving me, then it was not proper love to begin with. I understand it would be hard for them, but a relationship should always be honest rather than dishonest. Then there comes the issue of children. I'd want to raise my children non muslim, but my parents would want them to be muslim, so the more they know about my beliefs, the more straight forwards I could be with my children.

Well, even 300 years ago it was acceptable to marry girls that young. As soon as a girl reached puberty (meaning she is ready to have children) she was thought of as being ready for marriage. By today's standards, yes, that is too young, but these things change and it was considered the norm in the olden days. So just because you find this "simply unacceptable" it means Islam is not the right religion? It's not a good enough reason for abandoning your religion.

So you agree we shouldn't base our lives and morality on how people lived 1400 years ago?

Well, even 300 years ago it was acceptable to marry girls that young. As soon as a girl reached puberty (meaning she is ready to have children) she was thought of as being ready for marriage. By today's standards, yes, that is too young, but these things change and it was considered the norm in the olden days. So just because you find this "simply unacceptable" it means Islam is not the right religion? It's not a good enough reason for abandoning your religion.

No. Didn't say that.

Well, even 300 years ago it was acceptable to marry girls that young. As soon as a girl reached puberty (meaning she is ready to have children) she was thought of as being ready for marriage. By today's standards, yes, that is too young, but these things change and it was considered the norm in the olden days. So just because you find this "simply unacceptable" it means Islam is not the right religion? It's not a good enough reason for abandoning your religion.

@ExMooseLDN


To be honest, if you were to go through such an enormous change in your life, I think what you did was too rash. I don't think you looked into the conflicts you have with the Qur'an deep enough and I think it was wrong to base your decision on just a few things you don't seem to find right. Overall, I think the wanting to step outside the 'limitations' that Islam provides is what played the most major part in this decision (e.g. drinking alcohol, pork, gambling, sex).