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Girl isn't on birth control wants sex with me, she's a virgin. It's turning me off.

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So, let me get this straight - you're moaning because she doesn't want to take contraception, yet, you won't wear protection? You're placing all responsibility on her, which isn't fair. Nor is forcing her to put hormones into her body.
I think it's very selfish of you to refuse to use any contraception yourself.

'Oh boo hoo, it's so unfair a condom is the only form of male contraception.'

Bro, you know how a penis works, right? What are you gonna do, write a letter of complaint to Mother Nature?

The only form of temporary and convenient form of male contraception is a condom. That's just how it is. You can complain all you want, but it won't change.

Just use the damn condom and stop being so selfish.

Of course, I expect you BOTH to use contraception. Should probably use spermacide too.

Unless you really want to risk a pregnancy?
Original post by Tiger Rag
So, let me get this straight - you're moaning because she doesn't want to take contraception, yet, you won't wear protection? You're placing all responsibility on her, which isn't fair. Nor is forcing her to put hormones into her body.


Actually when I asked her about this the context was that I'd be wearing a condom anyway even if she was (on birth control). But then she tells me that she's not on any birth control and doesn't really intend to get on any. And that's when I started doubting things, especially given that she's never attempted any form of birth control.
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Ciel.
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Honestly? After reading most of your posts I feel like you've romanticized the idea of first time sex too much. Your attitude screams 'no condom or it will ruin my perfect epic historical first time experience!'. And first times are usually far from perfect anyway.
You've never had sex, but the thought of using a condom disgusts you? :facepalm2:


What an absolute manchild.


The underlying issue is that you clearly masturbate too much. Anyway, use the ****ing condom like a big boy and if you don't cum, let her give you a blowjob or use her hands.
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Original post by Ciel.
Honestly? After reading most of your posts I feel like you've romanticized the idea of first time sex too much. Your attitude screams 'no condom or it will ruin my perfect epic historical first time experience!'. And first times are usually far from perfect anyway.


Usually. But I'm not your usual virgin *puts shades on*

I did romanticise the idea of first time proper kissing too much hahaha.

If anything though this just puts me off sex even more. Like, is it really worth all the hassle if its not even that great? Is it really worth all the hassle if it means I have to no longer masturbate? Is it really worth all the hassle of dealing with contraceptive options? Suffice to say I'm not feeling eager to get stuck in.
Original post by TorpidPhil
Why else has there not yet been a male contraception pill 50 years after the female one cam into fruition other than sexist undertones about the relevance of it based on the notion that people have that if it existed it would not be used because males are irresponsible, selfish and promiscuous and thus would not take caring about the prospect of a potential pregnancy into their own hands?

I appreciate that stopping the production of sperm constantly is harder than stopping one egg from being released every month, but nonetheless, it's been 50 years and nobody talks about male contraception nor do they seem to care.


Maybe because for women using a pill is easier than using a female condom and for men a condom is easier. In any case it is always better to not take hormones that affect such an important part of our bodies. It is also best for men to use a condom because it reduces the risk of STDs for both parties. It would be perhaps more harder for a woman to wear a female condom.

Not everything is sexist. If there was seen to be a demand for a male pill then it would've been made by now (if science permits). No need to fix what isnt broken. I am not sure if we even have the science to make a pill for men.
Agreed. It's not a no consequence fix and it's incredibly selfish to demand she puts her health at risk just because OP spends too much time watching porn.
Original post by TorpidPhil
It is really you're right. It's 2% chance of pregnancy if a couple use only condoms in perfect conditions for a year wherein they have sex 120 times. So really the chance is less than 0.02% chance of pregnancy each time you have sex ASSUMING you have sex every 3 days for a year.



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Not sure how they even reached that statistic anyway. For me condoms are 100% effective in preventing pregnancy.

I could do a survey now and find they're only 80% effective, doesn't mean it's true.
Original post by TorpidPhil
Usually. But I'm not your usual virgin *puts shades on*

I did romanticise the idea of first time proper kissing too much hahaha.

If anything though this just puts me off sex even more. Like, is it really worth all the hassle if its not even that great? Is it really worth all the hassle if it means I have to no longer masturbate? Is it really worth all the hassle of dealing with contraceptive options? Suffice to say I'm not feeling eager to get stuck in.


The more of this thread I see, the more I think it's probably best if you don't have sex
Original post by TorpidPhil
Not going to happen man. It's way too long gone. I start getting erections after 3 days at ****ing anything and I can't focus on work at all. Too busy to have such a problem in my life right now. **** I'd rather just go no sex than start ****ing around dealing with that. Don't need sex, I pretty much do need to masturbate.


This sounds less like high sex drive and more like an addiction.
Original post by Mahmoud X
This sounds less like high sex drive and more like an addiction.


An addiction and a high sex drive. Yeah. I've gotta deal with it. Dunno if now is the best time though tbh. Well actually, maybe at the end of this week when I've got a month off uni. Although that doesn't deal with the more prominent issues that I worry about...

It's not just an addiction because I masturbated before last visited hers and I had no problem at all maintaining an erection for pretty much hours lol.
Original post by Mahmoud X
The more of this thread I see, the more I think it's probably best if you don't have sex


I'd wait longer. Problem is though, she doesn't want to and I quite like her.
Original post by TorpidPhil
An addiction and a high sex drive. Yeah. I've gotta deal with it. Dunno if now is the best time though tbh. Well actually, maybe at the end of this week when I've got a month off uni. Although that doesn't deal with the more prominent issues that I worry about...

It's not just an addiction because I masturbated before last visited hers and I had no problem at all maintaining an erection for pretty much hours lol.


Just because you can maintain an erection doesn't mean you're not addicted.


In general you should be much more considerate of her and frankly it is ridiculous to be so against using condoms given that you don't even know how sex with a condom feels.
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Original post by TorpidPhil
Usually. But I'm not your usual virgin *puts shades on*

I did romanticise the idea of first time proper kissing too much hahaha.

If anything though this just puts me off sex even more. Like, is it really worth all the hassle if its not even that great? Is it really worth all the hassle if it means I have to no longer masturbate? Is it really worth all the hassle of dealing with contraceptive options? Suffice to say I'm not feeling eager to get stuck in.


Who knows, I don't have to deal with the contraception issue so I wouldn't know. You can always choose to join the dark side, too (homosexuality) lol :wink: Then you won't have to worry about getting anyone pregnant either.
Original post by TorpidPhil
Actually when I asked her about this the context was that I'd be wearing a condom anyway even if she was (on birth control). But then she tells me that she's not on any birth control and doesn't really intend to get on any. And that's when I started doubting things, especially given that she's never attempted any form of birth control.


Good for her. You need to shut up and wear a rubber and that's it.
Original post by Mahmoud X
You've never had sex, but the thought of using a condom disgusts you? :facepalm2:


What an absolute manchild.


The underlying issue is that you clearly masturbate too much. Anyway, use the ****ing condom like a big boy and if you don't cum, let her give you a blowjob or use her hands.


To be clear - it's not just condoms themselves that are disgusting me. It's just the thought of impregnating someone combined with the awkwardness of me going limp because I can't feel anything, and having to stop half way through, put a condom on... It is all just making me overly anxious and I'm not really over-enthused with the prospect of having sex anyway tbh. Collectively, all together, it's just putting me off.

For clarification though if she had said "yes, I'm on the pill" I would have not made this thread and I would have been intending to have sex with her, with a condom too, this weekend.
Original post by TorpidPhil
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I don't get it. What's so special about you, exactly?
Original post by TorpidPhil
To be clear - it's not just condoms themselves that are disgusting me. It's just the thought of impregnating someone combined with the awkwardness of me going limp because I can't feel anything, and having to stop half way through, put a condom on... It is all just making me overly anxious and I'm not really over-enthused with the prospect of having sex anyway tbh. Collectively, all together, it's just putting me off.

For clarification though if she had said "yes, I'm on the pill" I would have not made this thread and I would have been intending to have sex with her, with a condom too, this weekend.


You're getting far too wound up over the pregnancy thing, the 2% failure rate is calculated over a year, it's estimated that at the most, 2% of women only using condoms will get pregnant over the course of that year. It does not mean that every time you have sex, you have a 1 in 50 chance of being a father, so be a big boy and use them correctly.
Original post by Mahmoud X
You're getting far too wound up over the pregnancy thing, the 2% failure rate is calculated over a year, it's estimated that at the most, 2% of women only using condoms will get pregnant over the course of that year. It does not mean that every time you have sex, you have a 1 in 50 chance of being a father, so be a big boy and use them correctly.


Yeah, I know, less than 0.02% chance of pregnancy per sex act. HOWEVER. That's with perfect use conditions and I've never had sex with a condom. What if we are changing positions, it slips slightly, pre-cum spills? What if it is too big and slips off? Too thin and it tears? Or what if its just a **** condom and it breaks for pretty much no reason because manufacturing fault (that's the 0.02% chance I guess and I suppose that doesn't really bother me).
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