Asexuals: when and how did you know?

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This sounds really stupid- but what does it mean to be asexual?

I know exactly what you mean- I keep overanalysing and questioning myself all the time, and I've been in situations where I feel like I'm lying by omission about my (a)sexuality, and then I question myself again and wonder whether I am asexual after all. For me, realising I was asexual came from realising that my confusion over whether I was gay/ straight didn't arise from me being bi or just confused- I didn't know because I literally didn't experience attraction to either. At all. It made sense of my confusion. It was really just a retrospective moment where I looked back at myself and thought 'oh, that makes sense now.' I still question myself occasionally, but I just realised that it just rationalises everything for me, and just fits who I am, if that makes sense?

I dont have a bond with hydrogen peroxide though, more red blood cells at the moment as thats what im doing about.

I've been considering the possibility that I'm asexual for over three years, but I keep going back to square one. I'm a bit fed up of going back and forth, and there have been situations when I was asked about my orientation, and just couldn't get any words out. I always end up saying straight, because that's the default option, and probably the most likely, but it feels so forced and unnatural.

Whilst I realise that most people know form the first time they hear about asexuality, there are also others who were once at the same stage as myself.

My question is: was there a defining moment in your life when you knew for sure that you are asexual? Did you go through this phase of mixed feelings? How old were you when you realised?

Normally I couldn't care less about something like this, but I want to (a) be able to give a straight answer when asked (pun unintended), and (b) organise my thoughts on the matter a little.

Thanks for sharing!

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I found out when I was around 12/13 after a session of 'sexting' with someone who I took an interest in. After receiving the pictures, I realised they weren't sexually stimulating me. Nor was the conversation. I have never been attracted to men, naturally, so it wasn't an issue there. But realising I was also unstimulated from interaction with women, I considered the possibility of being Ace. Since digging deeper, I've grown to realise that masturbation doesn't feel 'good' for me, nor does it produce the normal outcome. I find all genitals repulsive, I've never kissed anyone and I've never had sex. I could gladly and easily live without it. And as I've grown older and seen the souls around me finding love, I have only been on a path to self discovery since I cannot find love nor emote love.

The only questions I have concerning my sexuality include:
Am I actually Heteroromantic, since I can't feel love?
If I do fall in love, how am I going to feel about sexually pleasing my partner?

But I know my lack of a sex drive places me firmly as Asexual. Question is, for this, could that be due to being anorexic? Two of the side effects in males includes erectile dysfuntion and reduction or loss in sex drive. Hopefully this helps you!

I've been considering the possibility that I'm asexual for over three years, but I keep going back to square one. I'm a bit fed up of going back and forth, and there have been situations when I was asked about my orientation, and just couldn't get any words out. I always end up saying straight, because that's the default option, and probably the most likely, but it feels so forced and unnatural.

Whilst I realise that most people know form the first time they hear about asexuality, there are also others who were once at the same stage as myself.

My question is: was there a defining moment in your life when you knew for sure that you are asexual? Did you go through this phase of mixed feelings? How old were you when you realised?

Normally I couldn't care less about something like this, but I want to (a) be able to give a straight answer when asked (pun unintended), and (b) organise my thoughts on the matter a little.

Thanks for sharing!

You're straight, but you just haven't/ don't enjoy sex much. That's completely normal, don't let people say you have to identify as some stupidly specific sexuality. You're straight, with a low desire for sex. Simple as.

Straight means sexually attracted to the opposite sex.

Thanks.... Am I missing something? Why on earth are you telling me your opinion on what being straight consists of?

Dammit, another person fallen to the stupid agenda.

You're straight, but you just haven't/ don't enjoy sex much. That's completely normal, don't let people say you have to identify as some stupidly specific sexuality. You're straight, with a low desire for sex. Simple as. For example, if I dislike meat, and never eat it because it tastes bad, doesn't mean I'm vegan. I just don't enjoy it. Simple as.

Society over complicates everything ffs

OP I'm the weirdo of this thread: I'm asexual, specifically demi sexual, and I've just passed six months of being in a relationship.

I've always noticed I never fancied people the way others at school did. I rarely got crushes, the idea of kissing and sex didn't appeal to me (kissing doesn't repulse me as much now since meeting my boyfriend but sex still holds absolutely no significance to me).

At first I thought I was bisexual. If I wasn't fancying men as much as normal then I thought I must be attracted to girls too. And I tried to convince myself of it, but I never really succeeded.

Hence we come to asexuality and I'm comfortable with that. Masturbation? Nope. And I really thought I'd never be in a relationship. I'm capable of love though. And then I moved to uni and met my boyfriend. He's absolutely wonderful. Yes, I do have attraction to him but it's emotional attraction first followed by good looks. Someone could be the hottest looking person in the world and they would do **** all for me.

So I would stand a chance? Noted.

I'm kidding

I don't even know what I am tbh

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