She's going back to her boyfriend and I feel desolate

Sluts everywhere

Sluts everywhere

not really.

OP you knew it was casual hookups, you cant expect her to have feelings back although it was wrong for her to hook up while she had a bf.

Women are a waste in general.

To put a long story short, I have been meeting a girl for sex. We have seen each other several times now, I caught feelings after a while with her. I don't know if she knows how I feel yet.

She has a boyfriend and they are in a long distance relationship, I know it is wrong but I did not know that she had a boyfriend. I told her I was casually dating other girls too (a lie!). She told me that when they move into their new house together her feelings for him will come back. They have this really nice countryside house and she sounds like she is crazy for him. This hints that I am unlikely to ever see her again.

She is moving to another city next week and I just cannot sleep or stop thinking about her. At the same time I don't want to admit how I feel for her because I know that I am likely to get rejected.

It is all just a bit ****. I wish I knew what a difficult situation this would be, in which case I would never have pursued her.

YOu are an option to her, is that what you want. You need to stop sleeping with her, to be honest I feel sorry for her boyfriend more than anything.

To put a long story short, I have been meeting a girl for sex. We have seen each other several times now, I caught feelings after a while with her. I don't know if she knows how I feel yet.

She has a boyfriend and they are in a long distance relationship, I know it is wrong but I did not know that she had a boyfriend. I told her I was casually dating other girls too (a lie!). She told me that when they move into their new house together her feelings for him will come back. They have this really nice countryside house and she sounds like she is crazy for him. This hints that I am unlikely to ever see her again.

She is moving to another city next week and I just cannot sleep or stop thinking about her. At the same time I don't want to admit how I feel for her because I know that I am likely to get rejected.

It is all just a bit ****. I wish I knew what a difficult situation this would be, in which case I would never have pursued her.

To put a long story short, I have been meeting a girl for sex. We have seen each other several times now, I caught feelings after a while with her. I don't know if she knows how I feel yet.

She has a boyfriend and they are in a long distance relationship, I know it is wrong but I did not know that she had a boyfriend. I told her I was casually dating other girls too (a lie!). She told me that when they move into their new house together her feelings for him will come back. They have this really nice countryside house and she sounds like she is crazy for him. This hints that I am unlikely to ever see her again.

She is moving to another city next week and I just cannot sleep or stop thinking about her. At the same time I don't want to admit how I feel for her because I know that I am likely to get rejected.

It is all just a bit ****. I wish I knew what a difficult situation this would be, in which case I would never have pursued her.

To put a long story short, I have been meeting a girl for sex. We have seen each other several times now, I caught feelings after a while with her. I don't know if she knows how I feel yet.

She has a boyfriend and they are in a long distance relationship, I know it is wrong but I did not know that she had a boyfriend. I told her I was casually dating other girls too (a lie!). She told me that when they move into their new house together her feelings for him will come back. They have this really nice countryside house and she sounds like she is crazy for him. This hints that I am unlikely to ever see her again.

She is moving to another city next week and I just cannot sleep or stop thinking about her. At the same time I don't want to admit how I feel for her because I know that I am likely to get rejected.

It is all just a bit ****. I wish I knew what a difficult situation this would be, in which case I would never have pursued her.

Woah OP this is wrong on many levels. Firstly, she has a boyfriend, although it does sound like you were unsure of his existence to begin with. If you were genuinely naive of his existence, then I'd not take things any further. Think about her boyfriend, imagine if you were him, you'd be so upset, angry and your trust completely shattered, stuff like this destroys people's lives.

To you its just sex, but really, your not thinking about the other bloke (who assumes his missus is loyal to only him). The girl should know better, she is basically stringing you both along and wanting her cake and eating it. I know you have no obligations to her boyfriend, but put yourself in his shoes.

It is immoral, it is disgusting and thoughtless. More on her part than yours. How does she feel that she's cheating on her SO? Does it not cross her mind what she's doing?

How can she love him? Does she really expect for her feelings to come back once they move in? Meanwhile, using the time before to fulfil her own selfish sexual desires.

To me, it just sounds like she's making excuses to justify her infidelity and actions.

This thread strikes a chord with me, as I am in a long term and long distance relationship, and I am also about to move in with my partner. In fact, I'm curious and somewhat paranoid as to whether this is my partner you speak of.

Moral of the story: it's wrong what she is doing. Do yourself a favour and get out of this situation- she ain't gonna leave him, she's gonna string him along (unfortunately), and keep you on the hook. If you already knew she had a boyfriend then you should be ashamed. No excuses for that.

I was, until she told me last week. I think she can fool herself into thinking she loves him. They have a nice new apartment and all the nice scenery etc. But that is none of my business.

He's an older guy in his 30's who went back to university, sounds like a cool guy. But I can't accept a girl like that, I can't be option B.

I am thinking about the other bloke, hence my pretty much instant decision to tell her I am not going to see her anymore. The way she told me just casually was just a bit too much for me, she can quite easily **** around with my feelings too if that is how she treats the supposed guy she loves.

I had to be harsh to do the right thing.

Funny you come across as though its all your choice when the reality is she chose to go back to the other guy and any chance you had you played poorly.

It was my choice to leave her, she wanted to meet up every month when she came back north to visit her family. Basically, she wanted an 'affair'. I was like "Nah" and told her I never wanted to really see her again.
There was a chance yes. If I wanted to be a "lad" then I could quite easily have played the whole "I love you" game , but hey, my sense of good morality is not so absent. I think I can walk away from this knowing I actually did nothing wrong.

Are you saying that I should manipulate her just to 'play well'?

No just walk away, Im saying it didnt turn out as you expected and you are pretending you were more in control of the situation than you were.