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Is it bad to bed someone for the sake of losing your V Card?

I'm a 21 year old virgin, asexual, nearly 22. I feel like a freak for still being a virgin, even if it's for religious reasons. Would it be such a bad thing just to do it for the sake of saying I've lost it?
Reply 1
Not at all, it'll give you some experience for when you meet that special someone.
Just be careful that you do it with a little thought and not just utterly mindlessly as you don't want to traumatise yourself from the whole thing and miss out on a whole new world of pleasure.
Reply 3
Original post by TorpidPhil
Just be careful that you do it with a little thought and not just utterly mindlessly as you don't want to traumatise yourself from the whole thing and miss out on a whole new world of pleasure.


Is it possible to lose your virginity and not develop feelings for who you lost it to?
Original post by Anonymous
Is it possible to lose your virginity and not develop feelings for who you lost it to?


I dunno; I'm a virgin.

I just speak from the many anecdotes I've been told that corroborate together too much to be coincidence.

I would definitely think it is possible. But of course first-time sex is going to be more emotional than other sex. It is going to depend a lot on your mindset going into it.
Reply 5
Original post by Anonymous
Is it possible to lose your virginity and not develop feelings for who you lost it to?


Yeah I think so, bit hard for me to answer because the girl I lost it to I liked before having sex, but I didn't feel any significant change afterwards.
Reply 6
Any holes a goal.
Reply 7
Original post by whorace
Yeah I think so, bit hard for me to answer because the girl I lost it to I liked before having sex, but I didn't feel any significant change afterwards.


I'm sorely tempted to lose it to this chavvy guy at work whose a bit of an ********; but he's meant to be good in bed so it would only be for that reason
Reply 8
Original post by Anonymous
Is it possible to lose your virginity and not develop feelings for who you lost it to?


100%
Original post by Anonymous
Is it possible to lose your virginity and not develop feelings for who you lost it to?


Quite possible.
Original post by TorpidPhil
Just be careful that you do it with a little thought and not just utterly mindlessly as you don't want to traumatise yourself from the whole thing and miss out on a whole new world of pleasure.


What thought would this be, exactly? Giving a girl the ultimatum of condom-less sex with you, or no sex at all?
Original post by og.east
100%


Original post by ODES_PDES
Quite possible.


How would one go about losing it without developing feelings?
V-card dont mean jack ****. Copulations outside of marital reproduction do nothing but poison society.
I did this, bedded a fat whale from tinder.
You might regret it or be disappointed but hey it's your life. I'm 21 and haven't kissed a guy yet!

Been on a few dates, had lots of phone numbers and hugs but only held hands once with a guy-for ice skating
Original post by Anonymous
I did this, bedded a fat whale from tinder.


proud of you!!
Original post by Anonymous
How would one go about losing it without developing feelings?


if you don't have the feelings before hand you probably won't catch them after the fact. it's not that deep man you know when you finish watching porn and you're just disgusted with the porn and you close the laptop? that's what it's like after you nut with someone you don't really like.
Reply 17
Original post by Its Time
V-card dont mean jack ****. Copulations outside of marital reproduction do nothing but poison society.


Sex

Please never use the word copulations ever again
Morals aside, it's just not a romantic way to go bout losing your virginity. Losing it to a long time lover youve grown to share lots of memories with and trust with your life is a million times better.

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