Question for guys: sex or masturbation?

I voted sex, but it took me like 5 minutes to decide. I've had some pretty intense orgasms with both.

I find I NEED sex every 10-14 days regardless of masturbation . In the meantime I am happy to make do with my hand

This is very interesting for me as a partner of mine (male) completely lost interest in having sex with me, including me giving him oral, and said it was his sex drive etc.

But he still continued to masturbate every night or most nights to porn (when I was asleep). I also found him doing it a couple times and he was way harder than he gets with me. It annoyed me because I felt as though if his sex drive was low maybe holding off the masturbation might help to recharge it?

I ended up feeling low in sex drive myself (usually have quite high appetite) and also with low confidence. I think it's hard for a girl to take when a guy seems disinterested in sex with you even when you want it. It makes you feel as though there's something wrong with you.

why do guys do this though?

Well the truth is that for some reason, the relationship becomes stale, the communication ends, those hidden resentments build. The woman shuts her legs as a form of punishment/payback. Pretty soon husband takes the same view and thinks,,well if thats what she wants, so be it,,im not begging. So the fires of resentment are stoked further.


They both ive up or refuse to make an effort. ne or both of them may have affairs. If an affair can be converted into a relationship well someone hits the eject button and the man goes off to the divorce court to loose his shirt again his freedom and them repeat the process with the new woman..and all because he cant control his base desires,,

oh okay well this is understandable then, esp point in bold :/ why doesn't he just ask her to have sex with him again and tell her he'll otherwise have to take other measures. Also, with the woman denying sex I can't imagine EVER doing that unless the man did something completely outrageous like cheat on her (even then how long can you really go?)
why is she refusing or is some stupid irrelevant reason?


lol at the last sentence tho

Lol some people are really manipulative and use whatever power they have, if you have a need and they can satisfy it they can also take it away from you, you have to learn to cut these people out of your life because they are horrible.

Which do you prefer? Have a vote.

also I don't mean denying sex in general, like obviously sometimes I won't want to have it but it won't be denying in a mean "punishment" way.

agree I find it kind of difficult to trust people cause of others like that, that exist. you never know when someone is going to stop "being your friend" or even when a man might stop providing for you.

oh okay well this is understandable then, esp point in bold :/ why doesn't he just ask her to have sex with him again and tell her he'll otherwise have to take other measures. Also, with the woman denying sex I can't imagine EVER doing that unless the man did something completely outrageous like cheat on her (even then how long can you really go?)
why is she refusing or is some stupid irrelevant reason?


lol at the last sentence tho

Because I'll probably find flaws in the guy and feel bad about making a bad decision.

NO. Good sex > Masturbation but Bad sex < Masturbation.

Well i dont know for certain but i suspect you are fairly oung and maybe not had experience of marriage and how controlling they can become !

5mins huh?

Why is that?