I'm an asexual girl - AMA

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I'm the same as you, I'm not repulsed, just indifferent towards it.
I suppose that would be demisexuality, finding the right person would trigger sexual attraction. Some aces do sexual things to please their partners, but they are still asexual. I suppose how sexual an asexual person gets depends on the people in the relationship and what they're comfortable with

I think that's fair enough.

Reply 81

z33

Original post by NicoleArbour

LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOL Nicole Arbour :lol:

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Reply 82

EHK

Just found out that she got banned, NicoleArbour. Checking her social groups, I could see a bit why.

Reply 83

lightwoXd

Original post by popcornjpg

I find asexualism (is that a word?) rather odd to imagine, and I don't mean to be offensive. Does it mean you don't masturbate at all and have no sexual feelings whatsoever?

Not necessarily. The key thing that makes ace people ace is the lack of sexual attraction to other people (basically, looking at someone else and thinking 'damn I'd tap that'). Feelings of arousal/sexual desire are entirely separate, so you can be ace and still have 'urges' as it were.
To complicate things even further, there's some variation within asexuality as to how each individual feels about sexual activity. Again, it's more of a spectrum than something you can put into definite categories, but for convenience's sake the main ones tend to be:

Sex positive/willing/[insert synonym here]: People who like sexual contact (including masturbation) and/or are willing to do it with a partner for the partner's enjoyment.
Sex-repulsed: Pretty self-explanatory. People who don't like the idea of it at all, for whatever reason.
Sex neutral: People who aren't fussed either way - they find sex is kinda 'meh'; they might do it for a partner's enjoyment but it's not really their cup of tea.

Nothing offensive about curiosity, especially as you don't hear much about this kind of subject :smile:

Sorry if this was patronising at all (I don't mean it to be), but hopefully this sheds some light on the situation.

Reply 84

popcornjpg

Original post by lightwoXd

Not necessarily. The key thing that makes ace people ace is the lack of sexual attraction to other people (basically, looking at someone else and thinking 'damn I'd tap that' :wink:

. Feelings of arousal/sexual desire are entirely separate, so you can be ace and still have 'urges' as it were.
To complicate things even further, there's some variation within asexuality as to how each individual feels about sexual activity. Again, it's more of a spectrum than something you can put into definite categories, but for convenience's sake the main ones tend to be:

Two more questions if you don't mind.

Is there any scientific explanation to asexuality?

And also, does asexuality persist through the entirety of one's life, or can it disappear once an individual has met a specific person or something along that line?

Reply 85

lightwoXd

Original post by popcornjpg

Don't mind at all! :smile:

Nothing concrete that I know of. If I were to hazard a guess it would probably be something to do with stopping populations getting too high (like homosexuality, which has been shown to occur in many other species aside from humans) - but that's just speculation on my part, and I wouldn't know what actually causes it (nature vs nurture and all that jazz).

This depends really. It can be something you experience your whole life, or you can find that over time you actually do start to experience sexual attraction - whether that be because of someone you met (this kind of case could be looking more towards demisexuality or grey-asexuality, but it depends on the circumstances), or for no apparent reason at all. I think in general sexuality (or lack thereof) is pretty fluid - you might find it changes as you go through life, or you might not. Whichever one you experience, it's fine - what matters is feeling comfortable with your identity at the present moment.

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Reply 86

lightwoXd

Original post by Anonymous

No that's not offensive at all, I started this thread to open up discussions like this!
I know that a virgin who doesn't want to have sex seems fairly normal and not an indicator of asexuality. However, for many asexuals they do not just experience a lack of desire for sex, but also a lack of sexual attraction. For me, that was most clearly displayed early in secondary school when my friends would talk about "hot" guys, and I had no idea what "hot" meant. Obviously "hot" means attractive, but there is something else implied which I have never understood.
So basically, many asexuals have no desire to have sex at all and feel no sexual attraction towards anyone.

THIS THIS THIS with the whole 'hot' thing - seems to be a fairly common anecdote among asexuals, haha.
All throughout secondary school I never really understood what the whole fuss about 'hot' people was about - I could identify what one looked like, but I could never really see reason to get excited about it.

Reply 87

BBC Two

Original post by Anonymous

I haven't, but I'd absolutely love to one day!

It's just that the word asexual makes me think of climbing pyramids. :colondollar:

Reply 88

MevMev

would u adopt a child? :smile:

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BBC Two

Original post by MevMev

would u adopt a child? :smile:

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Reply 90

Riverstar

Original post by MevMev

would u adopt a child? :smile:

I definitely will. I'd rather do that than go through sex and pregnancy and birth

Reply 91

BBC Two

Original post by Riverstar

I definitely will. I'd rather do that than go through sex and pregnancy and birth

Would you even adopt a severely disabled child tho?

Reply 92

Time Traveler

Original post by popcornjpg

Asexuality is just a label, not a genetic trait that all self-labelled asexuals share together.
I mean, there are many different stances toward sex among asexuals. Some are neutral and others are repulsed. There are many different labels too, so it's hard to imagine a common point between asexuals in general.

The same reasoning could be applied to your second question: it depends on the person. Same for sexual people.