Want a child eventually but don't ever want to be pregnant :/

I want a child someday but definitely don't want to be pregnant. I can't stand period pain, feeling sick and all that it makes me feel panicky like a nightmare. Everytime I get even mild period pain I swear I'm not going to put myself through pregnancy. I was at the gym earlier lifting weights and then went for a short run after. After the run I got uterine cramps even though I'm 2 weeks off being on a period. For some reason exercise has always triggered cramping, it can be anywhere from ovulation (2 weeks before a period) to the end of the period where I could get cramping if I exercise. I've had tests for it they came back normal. Often I'm ok after exercise but sometimes I get cramps I can usually tell before if I will.

Anyway back on topic yea I just don't want to ever be pregnant but at the same time don't want to miss out on having a child of my own. I just wish I was a man they have a better life than women anyway.

You can adopt a child at any age

It's not like having your own though, that's why most people don't adopt they would rather go through the nightmare of pregnancy.

It's not like having your own though, that's why most people don't adopt they would rather go through the nightmare of pregnancy.

Surrogacy?

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When another woman carries the baby for you

I mean I was suggesting it, ha ha.

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it seems like quite a long process but it is possible to adopt a young baby and then they could be close to your own. I m not exactly how Uk law works for surogacy but that would mean you could have your own child and not be pregnant i suppose.

Firstly, you can't adopt a child at any age?

And secondly, the adoption process is very, very stressful and enduring. In our country, there's not a big demand for adoptive parents, in fact young babies are quite hard to come by. The vast majority of adoptive children come from families who had their child taken away from them because they were deemed unfit parents, or the environment was unsafe. It's not like in America where disgraced Christian girls adopted their illegitimate child away because they are anti-abortion. Our country is much more pro-choice, so people tend to abort rather than adopt away.

I just don't think you should suggest adoption lightly. There's a much higher chance the child will develop behavioural/ mental/ physical problems in later life in a lot of cases. My Aunt and Uncle adopted, and they were basically told just that. The children are often exposed to many pre-natal risk factors for poor behavioural even physical outcomes, such as drug taking and alcoholism during pregnancy.

I'm not saying that people shouldn't adopt, but I find that a lot of people on here tell others to adopt because of our "birth rate" and "population being so high", when they don't fully understand the process. That should not be a reason to adopt.

My cousin is obviously like a true member of the family now, and my Aunt and Uncle wouldn't change him for the world. But the adoption process probably aged them a few years with the stress of it.

I'd adopt if I couldn't have children no doubt about it. But literally every thread about having children on TSR has someone telling someone to adopt, when there's a lot more of it to consider.

This is not a personal rant aimed at you, it's just something I often see brought up on TSR.

I want a child someday but definitely don't want to be pregnant. I can't stand period pain, feeling sick and all that it makes me feel panicky like a nightmare. Everytime I get even mild period pain I swear I'm not going to put myself through pregnancy. I was at the gym earlier lifting weights and then went for a short run after. After the run I got uterine cramps even though I'm 2 weeks off being on a period. For some reason exercise has always triggered cramping, it can be anywhere from ovulation (2 weeks before a period) to the end of the period where I could get cramping if I exercise. I've had tests for it they came back normal. Often I'm ok after exercise but sometimes I get cramps I can usually tell before if I will.

Anyway back on topic yea I just don't want to ever be pregnant but at the same time don't want to miss out on having a child of my own. I just wish I was a man they have a better life than women anyway.