Waiting for a proposal

I fancy going to Venice so if he doesn't pop the question give me his ticket, i'll leave you at the altar to row the canal but oh well

I have been with my boyfriend for five years this coming summer and we have both been through a lot together. We have an AMAZING holiday planned and so happen to be in Venice for our anniversary. I would love to get engaged somewhere really romantic, private and memorable, but I don't get the feeling from my boyfriend that he cares.

I'm mid-twenties he is late twenties, he admitted he thinks the whole marriage thing is "just a piece of paper", and I feel really stupid for mentioning anything about getting engaged/married one day.

Is there a stage in a mans life when it just clicks and he decides to pop the question?
Am I overreacting and should just calm down with the whole thing?
(but a girl can dream right?! haha)
Or am I fighting a losing battle here!

I have been with my boyfriend for five years this coming summer and we have both been through a lot together. We have an AMAZING holiday planned and so happen to be in Venice for our anniversary. I would love to get engaged somewhere really romantic, private and memorable, but I don't get the feeling from my boyfriend that he cares.

I'm mid-twenties he is late twenties, he admitted he thinks the whole marriage thing is "just a piece of paper", and I feel really stupid for mentioning anything about getting engaged/married one day.

Is there a stage in a mans life when it just clicks and he decides to pop the question?
Am I overreacting and should just calm down with the whole thing?
(but a girl can dream right?! haha)
Or am I fighting a losing battle here!

I don't think so.

Some men will need to be prompted I guess. If it is important to you then have a discussion with him.

If he isn't naturally very romantic then you have to accept that.

Why not propose to him instead?

Yeah I personally feel it can be awkward because I want to throw some hints out there. but I don't want to be annoying or over the top where he thinks f**k that! It's trying to find a mature balance I guess!

I have no issue with who ever does the question asking in a relationship but I don't think I would have the balls I'm too fearful of rejection! haha

Would you marry a man who rejected you? If you pop the question and he says no, I say good riddance.

Yeah I personally feel it can be awkward because I want to throw some hints out there. but I don't want to be annoying or over the top where he thinks f**k that! It's trying to find a mature balance I guess!

I have no issue with who ever does the question asking in a relationship but I don't think I would have the balls I'm too fearful of rejection! haha

Tbh it sounds like you want it to be traditional . Him on one knee speaking from the heart. Right?

Just make it clear to him how important the whole engagement and marriage thing is to you.

I guess so!
I am my own worst enemy at times, I think I need to learn how to chill out a little and enjoy the present.
A conversation is definitely due I believe, we'll see the outcome in a few months on a plus side I cannot wait to travel!

Definitely.

You are secure and have had five (presumably) good years together.

Just go with the flow a bit.

Remember that no proposal or wedding will ever be perfect like it is in films.

It is the imperfection that makes them unique.

I have been with my boyfriend for five years this coming summer and we have both been through a lot together. We have an AMAZING holiday planned and so happen to be in Venice for our anniversary. I would love to get engaged somewhere really romantic, private and memorable, but I don't get the feeling from my boyfriend that he cares.

I'm mid-twenties he is late twenties, he admitted he thinks the whole marriage thing is "just a piece of paper", and I feel really stupid for mentioning anything about getting engaged/married one day.

Is there a stage in a mans life when it just clicks and he decides to pop the question?
Am I overreacting and should just calm down with the whole thing?
(but a girl can dream right?! haha)
Or am I fighting a losing battle here!

I think the desire to get married does crystallise over a period time as a relationship matures. But I suppose it's not for everyone also. I think talking about the future is pretty reasonable and sensible in a 5 year relationship.