My ex just contacted me...

I opened FB and I saw a message from her. I blocked her, so I don't know how she managed to.

We haven't spoken for almost a year.

The break up was pretty rough and after maybe 2 weeks following it we had a little too and fro of texts and then we haven't spoken for 11 months.

It's like a drop of bricks have fallen on to me... I really hadn't expected it at all.

She's asking for "advice" for her trip... come on, 11 months of nothing, of moving on from eachother and she decides to contact me of all people?

Is it just curiosity?

Reply 1

MACmakeupgirl

Original post by Dodgypirate

are you sure you blocked her? :frown:

ignore her IMHO :yep:

Reply 2

Lime-man

She is probably feeling lonely and misses the attention you once gave her. It's completely up to you whether you humour it or not, do what you feel is best.

Reply 3

Dodgypirate

Original post by MACmakeupgirl

are you sure you blocked her? :frown:

ignore her IMHO :yep:

I'm quite positive... soon after our last set of texts, so like 2 weeks following the break up.

I'm just astounded that she has.

Have you any guess why she might of?

Reply 4

999tigger

How do you feel. Well done for the long break.
+1 for ignore until you are ready , especially if you have moved on.

Reply 5

MACmakeupgirl

Original post by Dodgypirate

I'm quite positive... soon after our last set of texts, so like 2 weeks following the break up.

I'm just astounded that she has.

Have you any guess why she might of?

maybe to try to get back together.. my ex of 3 years did that :lol:

Reply 6

Dodgypirate

Original post by MACmakeupgirl

maybe to try to get back together.. my ex of 3 years did that :lol:

Did he dump you?

Reply 7

Dodgypirate

Original post by 999tigger

How do you feel. Well done for the long break.
+1 for ignore until you are ready , especially if you have moved on.

Cheers man. I've been in a decent place mentally and emotionally. I'm interested in a girl at University... so... but still it really does surprise me.

She messages me after so long just to ask how I was and if I can give her advice?

She could easily have searched up advice herself... I think it's to at least open conversation, wouldn't you?

Reply 8

MACmakeupgirl

Original post by Dodgypirate

Did he dump you?

No I dumped him :lol:

Reply 9

Metrododo

I was thinking about this scenario a few days ago - broke up with my ex of 2 years nearly a year ago, with her blocking me; wouldn't really know how to respond tbh - only started properly moving on a couple months ago. As others have said, ignore unless you are fully certain that you have moved on

Reply 10

Dodgypirate

Original post by Lime-man

She is probably feeling lonely and misses the attention you once gave her. It's completely up to you whether you humour it or not, do what you feel is best.

Could very well be.

Fact is that she's sort of opening conversation... whatever for.

I absentmindedly opened the message, however since I haven't "accepted" it she won't have known I've opened it.

Funny thing is that she sent it on the 2nd February!

Reply 11

999tigger

Original post by Dodgypirate

yes, but if you are in a good place, then just conveniently ignore it.

Alternatively if you have to then send her an advice and cut it at that. Just move on if thats what you want.

Reply 12

Dodgypirate

Original post by MACmakeupgirl

No I dumped him :lol:

Yeah, well my ex dumped me... well it seemed mutual at the time, but she definitely had been thinking of ending it.

She's the one contacting me lol

Reply 13

ByronicHero

She probably has a new account.

I have definitely messaged ex gfs when drunk :facepalm2:

Reply 14

BristolFresher15

Original post by Dodgypirate

Yeah, well my ex dumped me... well it seemed mutual at the time, but she definitely had been thinking of ending it.

She's the one contacting me lol

My ex did the same thing a couple weeks ago. I posted and got the same responses. I had always replied before but this time I ignored it and best feeling ever. Honestly feel so free.