How to get over a girl?

Tbh suck it up. Go eat ice-cream or something. There are plenty of girls the will love/like you.

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I had gifts from a friend who i cared about she made me little origami and when she left work she didn't keep in contact with me so i threw all her gifts in the bin so i wouldn't be reminded of her and this has helped i know you won't do this as you want to cling onto her but if you do it will help you move on.

Man up

That doesn't help.

I've tried that for the past 4 weeks. 0 help. I just cannot move forward.



I won't throw it away but I will just put it somewhere out of reach so I cannot look at it easily.



That doesn't help.

I've said this before. From a practical point of view you really need to get the wheels in motion and start looking for a job. Or at least start thinking about which direction you're heading in. No one likes an unemployed graduate. If you leave it too late you could be sat at home for the next 6 months with nothing to do except whimper on here about this girl.

A new job equates to a fresh start and a chance to reinvent yourself amongst a new crowd of people.

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If you don't get rid of them and you know you still have them you won't move on. If you want to move on, throw them away. But you won't, you'll keep them so you can reminisce about the good times and obsess over what went wrong. It's over, you need to get rid of them.

Did you ever get in to the club scene? That would be the perfect antidote to the lifestyle you are experiencing now; no emotional attachment just lots of nice flesh on display. If you combine that with the gym you might find that the alpha lifestyle draws you away from that state of emotional dependency.

Well then there's nothing you can do. Either be a man about it or just cry.

Not really. Even gym I have neglected for the last few months due to uni. And also I have lost all my motivation. It's like I have hit rock bottom and I am not able to pick myself up. Not yet anyway.

Maybe, I know I will eventually delete them, but not just yet. I miss her so much. Why do I miss a girl who doesn't give a sh*t about me? How messed up is that?
What exactly is wrong with me? How can 1 girl ruin my life? I really don't understand.

It's because you've let it become an obsession. If you'd cut her out back when we all said it two years ago you wouldn't be in this mess. It's because you let her stay in your life, and slowly she took it over (possibly indicating an obsessive personality on your part) and now it's been so long it's all you know. If you try your hardest to move on then we'll all support you (as you've seen in the past. But when you refuse and just obsess over everything then it is frustrating and it makes people not want to help you.

just saying telling the OP to "man up" really isn't going to cut it as he clearly needs some form of medical help...my two cents OP are simple,follow the advice given by your GP and doctor and flag up any concerns to them instead of here...

OP,

As many others have said (Georgiaswift, Chikane, etc.), you will NOT be able to move on as long as you are tied to or possess anything that reminds her in any way (photos, text conversations, souvenirs of sorts).

That is the first step. Maybe therapy will prove to be beneficial, but be honest with yourself - can you seriously believe you will forget her/move on if you still have direct access to memories of her in anyway? Granted, most people would have moved on by now but quite clearly from the plethora of threads you've created, the thousands of posts you've written, you are in a particularly damaged state. Clearly, you need to be tough with yourself in a step-by-step approach as the problem is too overwhelmingly large to tackle in one go. That's OK.

So as I said, make sure that you get rid of all that could make you think of her in the near future. Progressively: whatever is less painful (texts?) until you get rid of pictures and ultimately the whole lot. Until you have done so, stop mentioning "what can I do??" "Why am I so hurt" - if it helps, make a post for everything that gets deleted and accelerates the healing process.

The next step is a mixture of self-meliorative thinking/meditation whilst also attempting to think of her in a negative light. Eg "I am so much better without her" " I managed to have sex with an attractive girl the other day; I'm sure other attractive girls would also want to" as well as "she wasn't the right girl for me anyway" "there's so many better girls I could spend time with, love and possibly build a future with. Constantly thinking about this and repeating these to yourself - out loud as well at the beginning - will help create a more positive mindframe whilst slowly distancing her from the picture.

Thirdly, other girls will come! By being more receptive towards meeting other people and being more self-confident, new girls will naturally be attracted towards you as long as you get yourself out there.

Finally, don't forget to revise! Your grades are your future, and especially being so close to the end you really got to give your very best. Concentrate on these first two steps as well for the next month of course since it well postively help your mental state but make sure you put in the academic effort too.

As many others have said, it's also a possibility that you are a troll. I don't really care to be honest. Even if you were, at least I may have helped someone else crying for help and being in a cyclically self-destructive pattern.
In all honesty I wish you were a troll, but I don't belive you are and I hope that my 2 cents as long as all the other helpful posters may help you open your eyes and do the right thing to move on.

Good luck


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Very good advice, if i knew it was over between me and someone i would delete everything and throw away any gifts so i won't be reminded of them.

Yeah that's what I did with my first ex gf last year. Were together for 2 years but keeping stuff was too painful so after a month I forced myself to delete all our pics (like our friend OP) no better way to start moving on!

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