Is this healthy?

From reading your post I feel like you're getting attached to him. He's attractive to you and would happily sleep with you again. He just doesn't see it going anywhere though. If you're happy with this then continue with it. If not the distance will probably be worthwhile.

Thanks for your reply What is it that makes you think he doesn't see it going anywhere? Just so I know So you reckon he definiytely would sleep with me again? The thing is I probably would with him too! he's made very clear he finds me physically attracive... it's tough because we do have interesting conversations, we talk about all manner of things and we make a lot of jokes, and there is physical attraction, but obviously something is missing for him

Because he said so. I don't see why he would paint another picture unless there is a good reason behind it. I feel like I can't relate to your post based on something similar I experienced. Maybe you should talk it out with him.

Yeah I think I need to confront him... it's very confusing that he tells my friend that he only sees me as a friend, then flirts with me like that the other night... would you really say to a friend how nice their body was and that you liked sleeping with them?It's confusing really..

Well from what I've learned there really isn't any other way to class someone you are attracted to, but don't necessarily want a relationship with them. So for a lack of a better word, I've found people use the word ' friend'. So I've had a guy say we are friends, he complimented me and flirts alot. He's also implied he would happily sleep with me if the opportunity arises, however we are friends (in his eyes).

Good luck though! I hope it works out for you.