I like girls out of my league

It's more to do with him being a celeb, and I don't even get the hype.

Nah it's because he's handsome.It's like Leonardo Di Caprio. Girls have crushes just like boys and that's for the looks,not because he plays football instead of volleyball.

Hi there,

I'm a 19 year old university student and I'm a virgin. I haven't had a girlfriend since like year 2 (lol). Basically I used to be, and kind of still am, an introvert. I do go out much more now that I'm at university but before uni I never went out with my friends. I haven't been gifted with much, especially in the looks department. I'd say I'm a solid 3 or 4 out of 10. Also I suffer from social anxiety which makes me come across as shy whenever I meet people. This, as well as the fact that I have a monotonous voice, means that I'm not very good at making friends or getting a girlfriend.

So it was back in December when I first saw this girl who was on my course at uni. She's a solid 8 out of 10. Me being me I'm scared of talking to her, and it's only been in the Easter holidays that we started talking (due to being in a group chat). So we spoke a bit and I was under the illusion that I stood a chance with her, albeit a small one. Turns out she has a boyfriend. As I went to an all boys secondary school, I haven't had many friends that are girls.

But yeah, I suppose the point of this is to ask for advice. Whenever I see good looking girls, the response is the same. For some reason I feel like a have a small chance, even though I probably don't. It's annoying because I want to be able to like somebody who is in my league, but I just don't find them attractive. I don't want to sound shallow, but I feel like I could do better. People say that you shouldn't think a girl is out of your league, but when I see couples out and about I can see why they are together, because they are similar in terms of attractiveness. I've never seen a 3/10 with an 8/10. So yeah, any advice?

Yes and physical attraction forms one and only one part of that, character is just as important, that handsome but boring guy? Nah they'll pass a lot of the time. You really don't need much experience to know that women sleep with ugly guys all the time anyone who denies this is just a defeatist

1. Stop rating people's looks on a scale from 1 to 10. That's not normal. The only people I've known to do that are fvckboys.
2. People are only "out of your league" if they decide you are. A.k.a. you don't have a chance because they're not interested.
3. See a psychiatrist or psycholog about your anxiety. It helps. And if you get meds: it definitely helps.
4. Personality and humour are also important factors. Looks and a good first impression are important - they definitely are!!! - but if your personas aren't compatible, you won't end up as a couple anyway.

Nah it's because he's handsome.

Yes, being a cool guy and having a good personality matters but looks are what get your foot in the door in the first place.

3 or 4/10 is bad. If he can make himself a 6 through building muscle, getting a lean body/face and getting a better hairstyle and dress sense, that will help him tremendously.

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lol @ OP rating women but getting down b/c women have standards too

OP needs to work on his looks but be realistic

no HBB is dating a 5/10 boyo unless he has £££

There is no 0/10 - 6/10There is attraction and then there isn't attraction. Of course grooming appropriately is important, but attraction is not solely based on looks, this is just the initial judgement. If it was I wouldn't suddenly feel attracted to a girl after she did something.

You sound like a cuck using so much misc lingo here.

"If you can't get yourself a ten
The least you can do is **** five twos" - Method Man

Sensible advice, doesn't try to downplay looks but also points out other values, like self-respect, humour and just being interesting. It's nice to see someone who is deeper than 'do u even lift'.

At the end of the day the 10 might be crap in bed anyway, as long as she's good enough to get off on it's not relevant.

You sound like a cuck using so much misc lingo here.
There is no set in stone scale but there is a scale of physical attractiveness.Obviously looks and presentation aren't 100% but they are very important, particularly in an environment like a club. The 'initial judgement' is a pretty big deal, especially when you might be competing with physically attractive guys.

http://www.nicknotas.com/blog/8-misconceptions-of-the-alpha-male/

That article debunks his insecurity nicely.

Why do you keep repeating this 'lift'? There are handsome guys who don't go to the gym. Beautiful girls know they can get handsome guys so that's what they'll look for and get.

Not all girls care about looks; if your personality is good, you are automatically more attractive.