is he going to leave me

What do you mean out of our depth?

I mean it sounds like you're both not ready to make a serious relationship work. He seems like a total mess for starters.

Was he ever with you? Should you really want him? the warning signs are all over your post of hic character traits.

No and No

Why do you think I'm not ready? I think you're probably right


What do you mean? Yeah we are together and which traits?

meaning there is a difference between his idea and your of how important the relationship is.

You cant see it everyone else can. You arent after advie just someone to say it will be ok. I dont believe it will end well or hes worth expending any energy on. Give it a go and make your own mistakes.

Ok so I started dating this guy and I've known him for just over 3 months. He never lets me pay for anything [control] whenever we have dinner despite me arguing alot about it [He doesnt listen or respect you opinion]. So recently I kept trying to insist that I should at least pay for my half but he wasn't letting me and he said something along the lines of: 'after you've left me, when you get married you can tell your husband that you had a really nice bf who used to pay for everything' [he][ He doesnt see you long term , although tbf at your age he shouldnt]. And another time he said I should be more forward and demanding with my next bf. What is all this supposed to mean?He's spent over £100 in gifts for me [ If they make you uncomfy then ask him not to and return them].

He's muslim and hes gonna go to Hajj soon but your prayers dont get accepted there if you have a gf so he said we should temporarily break up just while hes there but then get back together after, but I misunderstood and thought he was breaking up forever. So I barely ate, didn't speak to him much and started texting. This angered him alot and he started saying things like: 'this is why all your exes were so paranoid with you that you were cheating, [manipulative andpotentially abusive] instead of talking to me your just texting and keep staring at your phone'. After this we cleared up the misunderstanding. Then later on in the day he got drunk and he said he wouldn't leave me because he has developed alot of feelings for me and kept apologising for making me feel like that.

He complains alot about how I don't ever call or text him first and even when he calls I don't pick up much and how I'm apparently conniving. He said it seems like I'm flirting with alot of other guys because it seems like I don't care about him.

Does it seem like he's serious about me?

Ok so I started dating this guy and I've known him for just over 3 months. He never lets me pay for anything whenever we have dinner despite me arguing alot about it. So recently I kept trying to insist that I should at least pay for my half but he wasn't letting me and he said something along the lines of: 'after you've left me, when you get married you can tell your husband that you had a really nice bf who used to pay for everything'. And another time he said I should be more forward and demanding with my next bf. What is all this supposed to mean?He's spent over £100 in gifts for me

He's muslim and hes gonna go to Hajj soon but your prayers dont get accepted there if you have a gf so he said we should temporarily break up just while hes there but then get back together after, but I misunderstood and thought he was breaking up forever. So I barely ate, didn't speak to him much and started texting. This angered him alot and he started saying things like: 'this is why all your exes were so paranoid with you that you were cheating, instead of talking to me your just texting and keep staring at your phone'. After this we cleared up the misunderstanding. Then later on in the day he got drunk and he said he wouldn't leave me because he has developed alot of feelings for me and kept apologising for making me feel like that.

He complains alot about how I don't ever call or text him first and even when he calls I don't pick up much and how I'm apparently conniving. He said it seems like I'm flirting with alot of other guys because it seems like I don't care about him.

Does it seem like he's serious about me?

You have to decide what you want and whats an accpetable way to be treated.
Compare that with the way he treats you, how happy he makes you b when he makes you sad.

Is it better to be with him or without? Only you cna make that choice, but I wouldnt someone who doesnt listen or respect my opinion and can get manipulative. He also twists his situation on religion to suit himself.

You have to decide what you want and whats an accpetable way to be treated.
Compare that with the way he treats you, how happy he makes you b when he makes you sad.

Is it better to be with him or without? Only you cna make that choice, but I wouldnt someone who doesnt listen or respect my opinion and can get manipulative. He also twists his situation on religion to suit himself.

What do you mean increase obligation? Increase obligation in what way?

And you don't think he sees me as a long term thing? Why is that? (he's 26)

What do you mean increase obligation? Increase obligation in what way?

And you don't think he sees me as a long term thing? Why is that? (he's 26)

I don't think you should judge his character tbh. Guys do things like that ONLY WHEN THEY CARE. They have feelings, if they didn't care, they wouldn't even give 2 damns about who you're sleeping with or flirting with. Its that simple.

He's confused and controlling. Best thing to do is: leave him.

I completely agree with you, I think a little bit of jealousy is okay because it shows you care but there's a limit. The last guy I was with broke my phone after seeing a guys number on it, I ended up leaving him because of this and some other similar reasons. I ended up losing all of my lecture recordings thats what I was most annoyed about

Confused about what?

He doesn't know if he wants you or not. Planning on temporarily breaking up with you LOL - if he did want you, he'd marry you and if he did intend on marrying you - he will not have got you into this relationship ********.

lol at him trying to dupe Allah