How to get over a girl?

She straight up said from the start of the message that she doesn't care and that she's only messaging because people told her to. Then you decided to converse with her and started begging to be friends again. You're bringing this upon yourself. You said you were trying to get over her and then as soon as she asks how you are you're begging to her friend again. You deserved it, you knew that this is exactly how it would end up. Grow up.

Thanks I will check that post out.

I really cared about her. And we used to be very good friends. And I just keep thinking of the good memories I had with her, and it just makes me feel real sad. That she is a stranger to me now, she replaced me, she didn't care about her, she just tossed me aside. The pain is ridiculous.

I know I will learn from this, but I fear it will take a long time and I may never fully heal because this whole thing has physically and mentally drained me.

As for the anxiety/depression, it is definitely because of this whole thing. I feel extremely tense, it's like my chest feels closed up and it makes it hard to breathe..

1 main thing is I am struggling to accept reality and that she is gone and never going to be my friend again. I will discuss with this with the GP and therapist for sure.

Yeah I talked to my therapist about it and it helped so much, so definitely give that a chance.

you need to cut all ties with her, never every remember again, distract yourself from reality

I have done that. Am trying but I feel like I will breakdown any time.

you haven't because emotionally and mentally you're still thinking about it

It's difficult not to think about it. I try to do other things but it doesn't help.

hmm i guess we found the problem, i know long time friends really do leave quite a lot of memories with you..

Yeah I really wish this never happened. It really ruined my last month or so of uni. I feel physical pain because of all the stress I have had due to this.

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*sorry this may come across as slightly rude


you are only heartbroken and stung because you cared about that person and they didn't care about you, why spend more time mulling over this? Why put trust into someone who doesn't trust back? they don't care so you need to stop caring because they're getting on with their life while you're still living in the past. I'm certain all those panic attacks and all those mental disorders because you cared too much about that person. Yes they betrayed your trust, but what good is staying back there gonna do for you? you need to learn to grow a thick skin give no ****s about anyone but yourself, once you care more about yourself than others then you'll never come back to a low like you are now. This is a lesson to be learned, never fully 100% trust anyone, you call then your friends but are they truly your friends? ask yourself that.

http://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/showthread.php?t=3858445 <--- Ethereal World's thread, scroll down and you'll find the thick skin post(might be relevant might not be but check it out)

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stay strong you can pull through this, nothing helps a person to become strong better than dealing with betrayal of your trust....

you can do it :hump2::hump:

Oh God. I knew it was too good to be true. You're still hung up on her.

Yeah. I am still in a pretty bad state. GP in the morning and a phone call with the therapist in the afternoon tomorrow.

Wait how did she end up sending you this message? I thought you were blocked everywhere and on holidays. Please don't tell me you yet again tried to contact her and argue your case. We've been down that road so many times before and the end is nye.

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I was blocked and currently on easter break. She unblocked and sent a message. I was shocked and suddenly had some hope so yeah I did try to be friends again..and yeah you saw what happened.

I have a telephone call with a therapist tomorrow. I'm thinking what exactly do tell them..

I was blocked and currently on easter break. She unblocked and sent a message. I was shocked and suddenly had some hope so yeah I did try to be friends again..and yeah you saw what happened.

I have a telephone call with a therapist tomorrow. I'm thinking what exactly do tell them..

I know. I was trying to get over her, then she messaged me and I was in free fall. I suddenly had some hope inside me. Then she took it all away.

I just came back from the GP. She said that I am suffering from a lot of anxiety and panic attacks.