How to get over a girl?

It's up to you- if the doctor's prescribed anti-depressants then there should be no harm in taking them to ease the panic/anxiety attacks. I think once you have physically left university, that will help you to detach from alot of the negativity associated with your time there.

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I really want to send her a nasty message. She deserves it. Should I?

No. Stop doing this to yourself. Bloody do yourself a favour and leave her alone.

Ok. Yeah I agree.

She sent this message to a mutual friend of ours:

"I tried to talk to him I asked if he is ok. But he wants more than this. He wants to be close friends again. Why should I force myself? Do you think he deserve this? Really I gave him million chances but this guy doesn't understand anything. He said he will change but he will never change. He is a kid. When a girl tells u to f*ck off, u f*ck off that's it. I don't like the way he acts do I don't like him anymore. Should I just talk to him coz I have pity on him? If you want to help him, don't message me just teach him how to be a man. You're not helping him this way. His other friend already messaged me. The thing is, with me this won't work. Nobody can convince me."

I don't know what to say.

I really want to send her a nasty message. She deserves it. Should I?

If you can get in touch with her send it and say i don't need your pity thanks

If you can get in touch with her send it and say i don't need your pity thanks

No don't send it! Just leave it be, delete her off everything, block her so she can't contact you either and work on improving yourself, not making the same mistakes again and finding someone else.

She sounds like a horrible person and all she's doing is hurting you, so why do you want to even bother trying with her?

OK. I miss her still. How messed up is that? I guess I miss the way things used to be, she wasn't always like this. We used to be good friends. It's just difficult to accept that it's over and we will never be friends again
I feel heartbroken

It's not messed up it's natural, you're only human. BUT you have to accept it's over, it's been years now and she won't change, all you're doing is making yourself worse

It's difficult to accept. She will never change. I just cannot stop thinking about how badly this ended. I think about her everyday, I feel pain and miserable everyday. It's killing me inside.
And I am not coping well at all. And I have 2 weeks of uni left and tons to do but I just cannot focus on my work.

This is the sort of thing you will have to discuss with your therapist. You have deep seated emotional attachment issues that need addressing. As a follower of these threads for over a year now, my conclusion is you have very little else to focus on in your life that brings you joy or excitement, and by building your entire happiness around someone you were both in love with and infatuated by, you set yourself up for a massive fall when neither of those emotions were reciprocated.

I honestly don't know what to say to help you progress beyond this.

You tell me how you think you can move on from this.
And where do you see yourself in a year. Every detail.

Don't. Don't bother contacting her again, seriously. It's just going to be harder to move on. You're wasting your time.

Are you sure it's a bad idea? Did you read what I wrote? I spoke from my heart..

You need to understand that talking to her regardless of what you convey in the email is pointless. You want to be her friend for a selfish reason which is due to your emotional attachment to her. That's it. She won't be your friend. You are not thinking clearly. You think that she will be your friend if you apologise and show how non-functional you are without her. She is a free being as well, and can see through your delusion or just does not care enough to even look into it or you.

You have to understand that you are being selfish. Don't get me wrong, we are all selfish essentially to some degree, but you go out of your way to ignore how selfish you are and make yourself the victim, repeatedly. This girl from what you say sounds really dumb and i don't care about you say. The way you describe her, her lack of concern and perception on how people should be and her inability to empathise just makes her sound like a ****. You have brilliant people on tsr that have been helping you out for the past 2 years consistently. That can relate to you. You need to realise the people that have real worth in your life and stop trying to hide your floors.

You need to try and change, because people on this forum will get bored of you and stop talking to you just like the idiot girl you are obsessed with.

You may think i am being a dick, but i don't care. Provided i help you it's worth it.

You need to understand that talking to her regardless of what you convey in the email is pointless. You want to be her friend for a selfish reason which is due to your emotional attachment to her. That's it. She won't be your friend. You are not thinking clearly. You think that she will be your friend if you apologise and show how non-functional you are without her. She is a free being as well, and can see through your delusion or just does not care enough to even look into it or you.

You have to understand that you are being selfish. Don't get me wrong, we are all selfish essentially to some degree, but you go out of your way to ignore how selfish you are and make yourself the victim, repeatedly. This girl from what you say sounds really dumb and i don't care about you say. The way you describe her, her lack of concern and perception on how people should be and her inability to empathise just makes her sound like a ****. You have brilliant people on tsr that have been helping you out for the past 2 years consistently. That can relate to you. You need to realise the people that have real worth in your life and stop trying to hide your floors.

You need to try and change, because people on this forum will get bored of you and stop talking to you just like the idiot girl you are obsessed with.

You may think i am being a dick, but i don't care. Provided i help you it's worth it.