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Original post by Anonymous
But wouldn't the spouse find out or get suspicious when getting down there?


lmao WHAT
Original post by timelizard
lmao WHAT


The more a female has sex the more her down there stretches
Original post by Anonymous
The more a female has sex the more her down there stretches


lol :rolleyes::rolleyes:
Original post by timelizard
lol :rolleyes::rolleyes:


What now? :s-smilie:
I'm a female,but if you were getting married to the man you love and he loves you back, you 2 should tell everything to eachother, no one else really has to know apart from ur husband and if you told him u wasnt, he shouldnt look at u differently. If he does, he dosent deserve you! Everyone makes mistakes.
If I genuinely love them, and they love me back, I truly believe that love can overrule everything. Islam is based on love. If they have repented for their sin, and therefore Allah (SWT) will inshallah forgive them, then why can't I forgive (even though it's not really about forgiving on my part), and put their past in the past and focus on the future. I would like to think that someone would do that for me (even though I'm a virgin myself, but if I weren't I'd like to think that if I truly repented, that my future spouse would accept it and love me for the person that I am and forgive my mistakes).

Some people make mistakes, and they may be big. But that shouldn't mean that their life is over/they won't be forgiven/they won't get married (in this case). I hope we can all be as forgiving as Allah (SWT) is.

So to answer the question, yes I would marry someone who isn't a virgin, on the basis that it was a mistake and that they've repented from it.
No I wouldn't
I am female.
It's a "meh" Virgin, not virgin.,..whatever.
Original post by Anonymous
Wow. I didn't expect the response to be this negative. Can you give reasons too, please?


really? you didn't expect it to be negative. puhlease.

Original post by timelizard
lmao WHAT


anyone who's had any form of dick down there is not the same as a completely virgin vagina.
Original post by Anonymous
What now? :s-smilie:



lol ok
Original post by Anonymous
The more a female has sex the more her down there stretches


lol the vaginal wall is a muscle it's not that every time you have sex it's just ever expanding passageway. It will stretch significantly from a virgin vagina, but after that it doesn't increase every time you have sex and tightens if you do muscle exercises etc.
Original post by Anonymous
If I genuinely love them, and they love me back, I truly believe that love can overrule everything. Islam is based on love. If they have repented for their sin, and therefore Allah (SWT) will inshallah forgive them, then why can't I forgive (even though it's not really about forgiving on my part), and put their past in the past and focus on the future. I would like to think that someone would do that for me (even though I'm a virgin myself, but if I weren't I'd like to think that if I truly repented, that my future spouse would accept it and love me for the person that I am and forgive my mistakes).

Some people make mistakes, and they may be big. But that shouldn't mean that their life is over/they won't be forgiven/they won't get married (in this case). I hope we can all be as forgiving as Allah (SWT) is.

So to answer the question, yes I would marry someone who isn't a virgin, on the basis that it was a mistake and that they've repented from it.


You don't need to write insha'Allah after "Allah will" (I remember mufti menk said that it was wrong) :tongue:



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Original post by Anonymous
really? you didn't expect it to be negative. puhlease.



anyone who's had any form of dick down there is not the same as a completely virgin vagina.


yeah and a virgin is gonna be able to tell the difference lol
:lol: these are the "moderate muslims" we've heard so much about?
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Original post by Anonymous
Wondering. I'm a Muslim myself, but not a virgin, unfortunately. Long story I don't want to get into. Well, would you have a problem? Please state your gender too. I'm a female.

why do you need to get married? haha isn't marriage a bit archaic in today's standards?
Reply 35
I cannot even put into words how sickening some of the responses this question has received. In all seriousness, you actually wonder why people are racist?!?! This is supposed to be a developed country with ethical morals, yet you preach morals from the dark ages. I'm a white 21 year old male, and the amount of sexual partners a girl has had is not even an issue to me. For heavens sake, pornstars have husbands and wives and can have a happy family life behind closed doors. Islam is one backward religion. Shame on anyone who puts down a women for not being a virgin. (it's all a bit peodoy in all honesty).
Reply 36
Original post by Anonymous
Wondering. I'm a Muslim myself, but not a virgin, unfortunately. Long story I don't want to get into. Well, would you have a problem? Please state your gender too. I'm a female.


also, are people so backwards that they still care about virginity of the woman, what about the guys? haha. and please, do yourself a favour and don't get married...last thing we need is more divorce and unhappy children xD heck, virgin or no virgin, everyone deserves a right to be loved and...marry...if you want lol people that are saying they won't marry you are just *******s lol so like, i love you but i can't marry you because you played rough house with some guy...how stupid is that? also, why does it matter if muslim or not? just saying xD
Reply 37
Is you gonna marry Richard Branson or sumfinn?
Original post by Ads9
I cannot even put into words how sickening some of the responses this question has received. In all seriousness, you actually wonder why people are racist?!?! This is supposed to be a developed country with ethical morals, yet you preach morals from the dark ages. I'm a white 21 year old male, and the amount of sexual partners a girl has had is not even an issue to me. For heavens sake, pornstars have husbands and wives and can have a happy family life behind closed doors. Islam is one backward religion. Shame on anyone who puts down a women for not being a virgin. (it's all a bit peodoy in all honesty).


Original post by Theoleo
also, are people so backwards that they still care about virginity of the woman, what about the guys? haha. and please, do yourself a favour and don't get married...last thing we need is more divorce and unhappy children xD heck, virgin or no virgin, everyone deserves a right to be loved and...marry...if you want lol people that are saying they won't marry you are just *******s lol so like, i love you but i can't marry you because you played rough house with some guy...how stupid is that? also, why does it matter if muslim or not? just saying xD


you guys are totally misunderstanding the point, did you even realise she said muslims in the title. In Islam you are supposed to stay virgin til marriage and refrain from extra marital affairs. I don't think you even realise how hard this can be for MANY people to restrict yourself sexually in this way and actually wait for their husband or wife. Why after years of actually sticking to the rules of your deen would you go and marry someone who couldn't do the same whilst you put yourself through hardship.

And don't start on the "Well you wouldn't have to put yourself through that if you didn't follow Islam", since that is not the point.
Original post by Theoleo
also, are people so backwards that they still care about virginity of the woman, what about the guys? haha. and please, do yourself a favour and don't get married...last thing we need is more divorce and unhappy children xD heck, virgin or no virgin, everyone deserves a right to be loved and...marry...if you want lol people that are saying they won't marry you are just *******s lol so like, i love you but i can't marry you because you played rough house with some guy...how stupid is that? also, why does it matter if muslim or not? just saying xD


virginity or both guys and girls are being equally discussed here have you even read the thread, in fact most of the answers are from females.

LOL as if virgins getting married = divorce and unhappy children. In fact, virgins will probably have stronger sexual attachment to each other than more promiscuous people who have been with many other would have so your argument is invalid.

No one said non virgins don't have the right to be loved - what kind of stupid idea is that? Where did you fathom that from?