Is a 9 year age gap too big?

A few months ago I met a woman who is 9 years older than me and is a mum to a 5 year old, I'm she's 31, we hit it off straight away we and both admitted that we have a connection when we talk. She was married at the time and I quickly realised that I really like her but I never said anything. Anyway just after Christmas she told me that her and and husband had seperated but they only stayed together over Christmas for the sake of the kid and I was kind of there as a shoulder to cry on and I noticed after that the way she talked to me changed, she was getting flirty and giving me compliments about the way I look which she hadn't done before.

In the past few months we haven't spoken as much do to us both being really busy but when we have spoken she's said she's missed talking to me, we also live nearly 2 hours away from each other so meeting up isn't easy so we speak on skype and Facebook and things like that.

What should I do? Should I tell her that I like her even though there is such a big age gap?

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I vote go for it

I wouldn't tell her you liked her, I may be captain sceptical here but it could be she's just looking for a bit on the side.
Unfortunately for you most people who say they only stayed with their partners for the kids sake continue to do so.

Reply 3

M14B

who is 31 you or her?

Reply 4

Anonymous #1

Original post by jmcwitch

They have separated now though, her husband has moved out.

Reply 5

Anonymous #1

Original post by M14B

who is 31 you or her?

She's 31 I'm 22

Reply 6

M14B

Original post by Anonymous

She's 31 I'm 22

Of course 100% your choice but I would not go for it.

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Anonymous #1

Original post by M14B

Of course 100% your choice but I would not go for it.

Can I ask why not?

Reply 8

M14B

Original post by Anonymous

Can I ask why not?

Different levels of maturity and life experiences

Reply 9

Gizellefriel

age is not an issue honey
gizelle xox

Reply 10

Anonymous #1

Original post by M14B

Different levels of maturity and life experiences

Maybe we have different life experiences but she has admitted that she thinks I'm rather mature she says I act like someone who is in my late 20's.

Reply 11

jmcwitch

Original post by Anonymous

They have separated now though, her husband has moved out.

Has he actually or is she just telling you that? I'm probably sounding like an Arse here but people lie

Reply 12

M14B

Original post by Anonymous

Maybe we have different life experiences but she has admitted that she thinks I'm rather mature she says I act like someone who is in my late 20's.

You asked for opinions.
This is my opinion which may well be wrong in this specific case.

Reply 13

Anonymous #1

Original post by jmcwitch

Has he actually or is she just telling you that? I'm probably sounding like an Arse here but people lie

He has moved out.

Reply 14

Anonymous #1

Original post by Gizellefriel

age is not an issue honey
gizelle xox

So you think I should tell her? I would like to make a go of things but I am bothered about what she and others might think about the age gap.

Reply 15

Anonymous #2

Go and play step-daddy then.

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Anonymous #3

9 years is a big difference. She's got a kid and your probably just out of uni or something. You need someone who you can live your 20s with whilst they are young too and shes gone past that stage. Anyone who says 'age isnt an issue' is deluded.

The oldest i would go for is 26 or 27 but that is pushing it

Reply 17

Anonymous #4

Your story resembles Miranda Kerr and Evan Spiegel's story.They both have a big age gap too.In my opinion start some casual flirting to test the water. If the result's positive then definitely go for it!

Reply 18

Anonymous #1

Can anyone else offer any advice or opinions?