Please help. I just attacked my mother.

Who said that? OP should definitely have been angry at their parents for allowing their brother to walk the dog. But kicking, no, and OP realises that.

Ahh I want to rep that 10 times! Bold is exactly what everyone needs to realise

Agreed! If I had done something like that I would not have been able to post it on the internet, on TSR of all places, knowing the kind of abuse I'd face.

Kudos to OP for wanting genuine advice. I hope the dog gets the help she needs and that you talk this through with your mum! :

lol y'all must have been raised in some military ****, point is an adult makes a decision to have a child. You are at their mercy and more often than not they **** you up in some way, even though they don't mean to because more often than not they love you, but you're entitled to be angry about the ways in which they've failed you. This is literally the mentality my mother encouraged me to have, I used to try and justify her failings to myself until one day I'm angry and yell 'I hate you!' typical teenage style. Instantly regret it, but she just gives me a hug had says finally... a healthy response. Like I've said she's a therapist with expertise in inter-generational trauma and shame- an expert in family dynamics. One of the reasons we have such a healthy relationship, because parents need to be grown up enough to know their kids don't have to think they're perfect. Let me ask you, if a parent criticises their child to the extent that they start to self-harm, just as a random example, do you really owe your parent any kind of loyalty or special treatment? Are you allowed to hate them for how much they've damaged you? Yes. Because you don't owe parents ****, they should be regarded in a way which reflects how well they've treated you.

No, you are an idiot, if you think that it's ok to ignore ongoing animal abuse, like she did. OP's brother has abused the dog many times before, and the 'mother' just ignored it.

lol y'all must have been raised in some military ****, point is an adult makes a decision to have a child. You are at their mercy and more often than not they **** you up in some way, even though they don't mean to because more often than not they love you, but you're entitled to be angry about the ways in which they've failed you. This is literally the mentality my mother encouraged me to have, I used to try and justify her failings to myself until one day I'm angry and yell 'I hate you!' typical teenage style. Instantly regret it, but she just gives me a hug had says finally... a healthy response. Like I've said she's a therapist with expertise in inter-generational trauma and shame- an expert in family dynamics. One of the reasons we have such a healthy relationship, because parents need to be grown up enough to know their kids don't have to think they're perfect. Let me ask you, if a parent criticises their child to the extent that they start to self-harm, just as a random example, do you really owe your parent any kind of loyalty or special treatment? Are you allowed to hate them for how much they've damaged you? Yes. Because you don't owe parents ****, they should be regarded in a way which reflects how well they've treated you.

You don't owe parents s***
Wow you reek of ungratefulness

Where does it say they ignored the previous abuses?

She deserves a good shouting down.

Still, ignoring animal abuse isn't bad enough for one to assault their mother.


And you're a ****ing idiot. So I guess I'm an animal abuser now as well.

lol y'all must have been raised in some military ****, point is an adult makes a decision to have a child. You are at their mercy and more often than not they **** you up in some way, even though they don't mean to because more often than not they love you, but you're entitled to be angry about the ways in which they've failed you. This is literally the mentality my mother encouraged me to have, I used to try and justify her failings to myself until one day I'm angry and yell 'I hate you!' typical teenage style. Instantly regret it, but she just gives me a hug had says finally... a healthy response. Like I've said she's a therapist with expertise in inter-generational trauma and shame- an expert in family dynamics. One of the reasons we have such a healthy relationship, because parents need to be grown up enough to know their kids don't have to think they're perfect. Let me ask you, if a parent criticises their child to the extent that they start to self-harm, just as a random example, do you really owe your parent any kind of loyalty or special treatment? Are you allowed to hate them for how much they've damaged you? Yes. Because you don't owe parents ****, they should be regarded in a way which reflects how well they've treated you.

right... so you agree with me.

You sound like an entitled little ****.

Disloyalty and ingratitude to one's parents is one of the most repulsive traits a person can have imho.

He says it here "He has attacked her (and us) before and I've told my parents not to let him take her because his history. They let him take her anyway "
Oh come on, he didn't truly beat her up. You consider a kick or two beating someone up?

No.

You sound so damn stuck up.

You owe your parents the world for raising you, provided they were good parents. And you're deluded if you think that parents and kids are equal. They are not.

Have you ever had a pet? Pets are just as much as family as humans! Violence towards anything-human or otherwise-is never okay and both should be taken equally as seriously.

His mother is also dealing with trying to look after a psychotic child who attacks her.

I agree that exposing the dog to this risk was horrible, but maybe we should think about cutting her a little slack.

I'm loyal and grateful to my parents because they're good parents and they've raised me well. My friend who was bullied into having an eating disorder by her mother, for example, isn't an entitled little **** who's ungrateful just because she despises what her mother did to her. That's normal. Parents aren't Gods, they're flawed humans just like the rest of us.

I'm sure if I kicked you a few times you'd be fine with it too.

No.

You sound so damn stuck up.

You owe your parents the world for raising you, provided they were good parents. And you're deluded if you think that parents and kids are equal. They are not; parents hold authority over their children, and for good reason. Being like 20-30 years older than someone, do you really think that younger one is in any way as mentally mature and intelligent as you?

I'm not lol, I'm an egalitarian. Don't know what kind of oppressive household you were brought up in that's led you to think you're inferior to your parents just cos they ****ed without protection one time. As long as you're still in their care, they owe you more than you owe them.

No need for that. I don't abuse animals.