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Asian 23+ & still not married

I thought I'd be married by 20 but here I am still single. I feel like the years will go by quickly and soon I'll be too old to be considered for marriage. No one has an interest in me. I know I'm not ugly so why can't I get a husband?

Most girls my age from school are now married and some with kids. I feel like I am way behind, that my life has been wasting away.

I'm starting uní in sept so at least I'll be occupied for 3 years. I'll be 26+ when I graduate and will probably still be single then.

Anyone else still single?

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Original post by samzy21
I thought I'd be married by 20 but here I am still single. I feel like the years will go by quickly and soon I'll be too old to be considered for marriage. No one has an interest in me. I know I'm not ugly so why can't I get a husband?

Most girls my age from school are now married and some with kids. I feel like I am way behind, that my life has been wasting away.

I'm starting uní in sept so at least I'll be occupied for 3 years. I'll be 26+ when I graduate and will probably still be single then.

Anyone else still single?

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You are still very young. Why do you want to get married so young?
Original post by samzy21
I thought I'd be married by 20 but here I am still single. I feel like the years will go by quickly and soon I'll be too old to be considered for marriage. No one has an interest in me. I know I'm not ugly so why can't I get a husband?

Most girls my age from school are now married and some with kids. I feel like I am way behind, that my life has been wasting away.

I'm starting uní in sept so at least I'll be occupied for 3 years. I'll be 26+ when I graduate and will probably still be single then.

Anyone else still single?

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You are still very young. Why do you want to get married so young?
Original post by Anonymous
You are still very young. Why do you want to get married so young?


You might want to delete your non-Anon post.
You bhuddhi, 23?! and not married?! Shame shame, tu barbaad ho gayi :rofl:
University is the ideal place to meet guys. Just keep a social life going along with your studies and if you're not ugly, you will almost certainly find someone.
You shouldn't worry about that! You are young! Everyone from my school/college are either engaged or married. You can find someone in university.
Take that mentality back to the Middle East or whatever you're from.
Original post by Eternalflames
You bhuddhi, 23?! and not married?! Shame shame, tu barbaad ho gayi :rofl:


matlab jindgi jandh ho gai iski to :rofl:
25 and still not married, recently came out of a 6 year relationship too lol I'll be going to Uni hopefully in sept too, will be 29 once i'm done *if everything goes well*. lol ik the feels, and at least you know now that you're not the oldest :tongue:
Original post by samzy21
I thought I'd be married by 20 but here I am still single. I feel like the years will go by quickly and soon I'll be too old to be considered for marriage. No one has an interest in me. I know I'm not ugly so why can't I get a husband?

Most girls my age from school are now married and some with kids. I feel like I am way behind, that my life has been wasting away.

I'm starting uní in sept so at least I'll be occupied for 3 years. I'll be 26+ when I graduate and will probably still be single then.

Anyone else still single?

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I'm 20 starting university in Sept and doing a 4 year MSc course so I'll be 24 when I graduate. I then want to do a PHD (3 years) so I'll be 27 years old when I'm roughly done with education so roughly when I settle down would be 28-28.5 y/o assuming I've met someone for 3 years roughly before hand :lol:

Short answer, you're not old and honestly rather than settling down you should chase after the things that you :heart: in life. When the time is right, everything will click. :smile:
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On a serious note, what age do you think is too old to consider for marriage? Do you really want this or do you just want to fit in with your friends? What kind of Asian are you? Because I know south asians expect to get married really early.
Original post by TreeFellOnMe
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On a serious note, what age do you think is too old to consider for marriage? Do you really want this or do you just want to fit in with your friends? What kind of Asian are you? Because I know south asians expect to get married really early.


South East Asians/Asians in general are expected to get married around 21-25, but in areas like India and China probably a little younger. From where I am though, usually marriages are ideally around the age of 20-23, and after 25 you feel like a leftover, but mostly for girls. Dude's "value" increases with age :/
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Original post by Eternalflames
You bhuddhi, 23?! and not married?! Shame shame, tu barbaad ho gayi :rofl:


lmfao
Original post by Azzyrainbow
South East Asians/Asians in general are expected to get married around 21-25, but in areas like India and China probably a little younger. From where I am though, usually marriages are ideally around the age of 20-23, and after 25 you feel like a leftover, but mostly for girls. Dude's "value" increases with age :/


I did not know this, thought expectancy to get married went up in age with modern society.
Original post by TreeFellOnMe
I did not know this, thought expectancy to get married went up in age with modern society.


it's mostly competitiveness that gets us working till mid twenties and then the asian mentality comes like like oops wtf i forgot a step while leveling up :redface:
23 :redface: I bet I'll probably go on my first date at 23 (I hope not, that's a bit sad...) let alone be married and have children!

It's okay to be single at your age, most people are!
Original post by samzy21
I thought I'd be married by 20 but here I am still single. I feel like the years will go by quickly and soon I'll be too old to be considered for marriage. No one has an interest in me. I know I'm not ugly so why can't I get a husband?

Most girls my age from school are now married and some with kids. I feel like I am way behind, that my life has been wasting away.

I'm starting uní in sept so at least I'll be occupied for 3 years. I'll be 26+ when I graduate and will probably still be single then.

Anyone else still single?

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23 is very young! And 20 is very very young to be married by! Too young, imho... :erm:

Do you mind me asking which country you originate from? I'm British Sinhalese and whilst I'm def meant to be married by now (am 27), I don't think that marrying aged 20 is the norm in my culture... :headfire:

I have no plans to ever marry. That is gonna be a fun convo to have with my dad... :hide:

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Original post by samzy21
I thought I'd be married by 20 but here I am still single. I feel like the years will go by quickly and soon I'll be too old to be considered for marriage. No one has an interest in me. I know I'm not ugly so why can't I get a husband?

Most girls my age from school are now married and some with kids. I feel like I am way behind, that my life has been wasting away.

I'm starting uní in sept so at least I'll be occupied for 3 years. I'll be 26+ when I graduate and will probably still be single then.

Anyone else still single?

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Well, I am 17 and have been single my whole life. I thought that it was weird as well because "everyone" has been in a relationship, but the other day I spoke to my two classmates about this issue and they actually told me that there is nothing at all wrong with this and that there is no specific age to do anything and I agreed. but trust me, 23 is young! I will probably end up in your situation (due to my shyness I find it difficult to engage conversations with people). Shyness could be something that holds you back.
And your looks... Girl, being single has nothing at ALL to do with your looks. You have beautiful women that are single throughout their 20's, average looking women in relationships younger, average looking single, and yeah I think you get the point. DON'T THINK YOU ARE UGLY FOR BEING SINGLE. The two do not correlate and just don't think that.

See, this is another issue here. You are placing your self worth on the amount of guys you attract/date and it is effecting your self-esteem. Who cares if other girls are getting into relationships or are getting married? That has nothing to do with you, you are your own person.
Do you live in the UK? I think it's strange how you wanted to get married so early. Just be happy! Like I said, nothing wrong with being single at 23. You shouldn't compare your age mates in relationships...Yes they might look happy in the surface but are they actually happy being married at that age or position?

Hope this helps :smile:
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Original post by samzy21
I thought I'd be married by 20 but here I am still single. I feel like the years will go by quickly and soon I'll be too old to be considered for marriage. No one has an interest in me. I know I'm not ugly so why can't I get a husband?

Most girls my age from school are now married and some with kids. I feel like I am way behind, that my life has been wasting away.

I'm starting uní in sept so at least I'll be occupied for 3 years. I'll be 26+ when I graduate and will probably still be single then.

Anyone else still single?

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Who gives a **** how old you are? TBH I don't know why anyone would want to get married in their early 20's but I guess the right person for you just hasn't come along yet. Give it time, start your uni course and meet people/socialise, then you'll be in a comfortable position to start relationships and/or talk about marriage.

I will be 25 this year and I've always been single apart from a few very short relationships, nothing long-term. I won't graduate until I'm nearly 30 and after that I don't want to jump straight into marriage so I will probably be in my early 40's before it happens. I've accepted that as how my life will turn out - it's not ideal but you don't see me complaining about it. Wait until the opportune time and then make plans for marriage once you've met someone. If you jump in too early, you'll regret it for the rest of your life.

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