How to get over a girl?

You need to close the thread.

fun eh?

She's not going to feel bad because the more you do to her, the more she is going to feel perfectly justified in making it plain she wants nothing to do with you. You are driving her in the very opposite direction from the one you want. Leave her alone.

By leaving her alone, she's happy, she doesn't care about me. Me on the other hand, she's torn my heart into pieces and she did not care!

Haha yes we were just talking and I said that the one night thing we had, if I wasn't in such a bad state at the time, it would have been a lot better, and she agreed, but she also said she knew I was upset so that's why she didn't try to persist or convince me to stay or anything like that

This girl seems caring an nice to acknowledge your situation and feelings for this person.

Nor will she. Even if you contact her, she is only going to be confirmed in her stance that she wants nothing to do with you. You don't have the power to make her hurt, because she obviously doesn't care about you. People only feel hurt about people they care about. She doesn't care about you and therefore she will not feel any pain over your pain. You don't have any power over her to make her feel anything other than that she wants nothing to do with you, and any contact you have with her will only reinforce the fact that she will never care about you. You are creating your own vicious circle.

Wow this is so ironic, that kubler-model was something I read up on as part of one of my modules at uni, just a couple of weeks ago.

I know it's better not to say anything and just leave it alone. The good memories I had with get are beginning to fade; it feels like a long long time ago. All I can think of is how bad this friendship ended. I feel hurt by what she did.

She meant so much to me. I really have learned a lot from this and it will make me wiser but it came at a cost.

Every day is pain. I miss her. She definitely is not thinking of me, she just doesn't care. I still remember how badly she talked to me last time. It's just such a sad feeling. And I wanted to get back at her but what's the point? I will just upset myself more.

So if i don't send that message and contact her, I have to somehow go through all this hurt and pain in a different way.

Worst of all you have wasted so much time pursuing her when she had a boyfriend anyway, like I said I can't help but feel she got tired of you following her around like a lost puppy.

I wish I studied interesting stuff like that

Okay, you're halfway there. It's good that the good memories are fading away. Sometimes it is too easy to cling onto the good memories and feel more sad as a result. But you also have to not hang on to the bad memories - otherwise it turns you into a spiteful person and makes things worse. You just have to get to the stage where you have some memories but they are just things you draw on for life experience.

That bites. As long as you do nothing silly, the pain will subside over time and you'll get over her, you just have to not send her anything, not bump into her, get bored of thinking about her and that will be that.

Contacting her is a no no. So many things can go wrong and you'll just end up going in circles.