Female, muslim, high sex drive - don't know what to do?!

Why?

I like sex with guys and girls tbh. I just prefer it with girls depending on how I'm feeling at the time.

yes
you actually can't marry that person if you've already had pre martial sex with them unless you do some sort of ritual

jk it's like you have to properly ask for forgiveness otherwise the two people can't marry but the issue lies in *why would you ever truly be sorry for having sex with someone you love* so yeah don't do that.

Yup - still a sin. Although I do hear of people doing this, I wouldn't trust a guy because if he changed his mind I'd no longer be a virgin and a broken hymen and general looseness down there won't fool another guy. Plus I couldn't exactly lie about it either.

Yup - still a sin. Although I do hear of people doing this, I wouldn't trust a guy because if he changed his mind I'd no longer be a virgin and a broken hymen and general looseness down there won't fool another guy. Plus I couldn't exactly lie about it either.

I doubt I'll find a rich, older lesbian though -_-

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAH OH MY GOSH, I ACTUALLY WROTE "WHAT KIND OF RITUAL?"

I was actually curious!


Don't do what?

But when you love someone does it really matter...? I mean I know religiously/culturally it matters, but honestly do you really feel dirty and wrong for doing it? You know yourself that what you didn't wasn't exactly sinful as you will be married soon anyway! I wouldn't personally. I mean it's not something to hate yourself for really.


This is why it's a little worrying because I mean I would hope you COMPLETELY trust someone before you get married...

Also, your hymen could already be broken btw

Get a guy to finger you and eat you out. Make sure he doesn't go too rough so that the hymen stay intact: problem solved

I doubt I'll find a rich, older lesbian though -_-

Please tell me more....

And don't spare any details.

he is a bad lover.

Yup - still a sin. Although I do hear of people doing this, I wouldn't trust a guy because if he changed his mind I'd no longer be a virgin and a broken hymen and general looseness down there won't fool another guy. Plus I couldn't exactly lie about it either.

What is it about lesbian men cannot fulfill?

I've never understood why guys love lesbian sex so much..


Erm ok..

What is it about lesbian men cannot fulfill?

do you think gay sex is better because men know our bodies better?

I know you were curious that why I said jk then followed with the legitimate answer. You don't need to hate yourself, it's about understanding that this is the rule that exists so why can't you just wait a little bit and get married, Islamically marriage shouldn't be a big hoohaa if it will make it complicated to get married. No it's about the principle, that sex before marriage constitutes as zina not "well I loved him" which I know it slightly insensitive but the rulings exist.

yes it does matter apparently.


you shouldn't need to have sex to completely trust someone, sex should come as a result of that.
also anyone that goes hymen checking is freaking insane, but I'm sure if you've already had a dick in there once it is not as a tight as virgin vagina.

do you think gay sex is better because men know our bodies better?

It was never this high even in my teens, and disappeared almost completely when I became anaemic, but recently it's shot up. Damn you iron tablets! I do 'relieve myself' but it's not always enough. (I'm a virgin btw). Maybe it's just exam stress idk, but it's making it difficult to concentrate when trying to revise

why are there so many anon in this thread

That's not true at all. Women gave given birth to babies and have said that their vaginas were tighter than before.

What constitutes to marriage being a "big hoohaa" in islam?

Meh, you make marriage sound so principled and disciplined. You marry for love, trust and companionship...no?

No I didn't say you need to have sex to trust someone, OP said she wouldn't really trust him enough to have sex with him incase he leaves her, I pointed out that is worrying because she is trusting him enough to marry him which is a much bigger step than having sex with someone.

Hymen or no hymen, a vagina that has had anything in their once will tighten up the same as it was before if left untouched for a long time, if it's regularly inserted into then it loosens up to make it easier for the woman, but once doesn't make a difference.

you don't even need to worry about the hymen, and fingers will never be as wide as a penis so he won't notice a significant difference, this is actually great advice for OP.