Acorns evaluation of new partners:
Phase 1: before you meet
Looks/style
Phase 2: when you meet
Interests/Personality/Attitude/Abilities/Prospects/Habbits/Humor/Intelligence
Phase 3: After getting to know a bit
1. Does this person bring out the best in you?
2. Do they fit perfectly into your life, with no major compromises needed on both sides?
3. Does their ideal life/future plan align with yours?
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Serriously fed up of my freinds ****ing up Phase 3.
So many times at the moment I am seeing guys getting with girls who tick off phase 1+2, and the guy thinks they are perfect.. but you can see a mile-off that it will crash and burn in a year or two because they dont pass phase 3.
Got guys who are with really beautiful girls, nice personality.. but he wants kids and a settled family, and she wants to travel around the world as a journalist.. they make it work for a few years, but the differences in their goals grind them down over time.
Guy with a nice looking girl, but she brings out the worst in him, together they make each other more lazy/complacient, but they really like each other, and her personality is great. Crashes and burns after a while as they both get fed up in their lives.
My sister dates a guy who is lovely, really nice, reasonably good looking, they both think everything is great. But from the outside its obvious that their way of living dont fit together very well.. over time things break down.
Got a friend right now who is with this girl, quite good looking, seems nice personality, interests align - but neither can see that their aims for life do not match at all. I give it less then 3 years until it breaks them apart.
I get that in our society thinking about long-term planning when you just start dating is considered wierd. But serriously, unless you want to waste years on a realtionship that your mum/dad can probably see is doomed from a mile off, got to think about phase 3.