My brothers new Girlfriend.

So my brothers new girlfriend is really ugly I think. She is short, has short dyed red hair, dark blue eyes, has a plump body and round face. I mean just nothing to look at. I have talked with my mother about it and she just says that "she looks okay, fine." It is just my brothers last girlfriend was hot, she was a young, tall blonde, nice body and face, I mean nothing extraordinary, but hot. She really excited my bother because she was the hottest girl he has been with. He would come home with her all energetic and hyper. Like showing her off to me because she was hot. I mean I thought she was a total waste of space and a bitch as a person, and she was. But he was like a different person when he was with her. I think he was in love with her and it really hurt him when she cheated on him and left him, I think that is what happened. But he still wanted her and kept trying to talk to her after it for months. I thought he could find someone way better than her in terms of who she was as a person. Just maybe not as hot. And he attempted to go out with this decent girl, I mean looked nice and a good person, but she didn't like him.

Anyway's I was told by my mother he had a new girlfriend and I was really happy for him. Until I saw what she looked like, then I was disappointed for him. She is a nicer person than his hot girlfriend, but such a downgrade in terms looks. I feel like he is settling for her, I feel he could do better. I am actually a little disappointed in him for this. :s-smilie:

This girl doesn't change his mood or how he acts, she is just around and someone for him to do stuff with really. I hear him pounding away on her sometimes when I am getting food from the kitchen at night, she doesn't make a sound. :frown:

His hot girlfriend would be moaning and saying "oh f and oh s". He could also last a lot longer and put more effort into sex with his hot girlfriend.

So do you think he is just settling, after the hot girl hurt him and the decent girl rejected him? Also am I a bad person for being disappointed that he has a ugly girlfriend? :redface:

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Reply 1

Lord Kitchener

I think it has nothing to do with you.

Reply 2

aarora

Why are you so concerned, if your brother is happy with her then let him be.

Also just because this girl isn't 'hot' in your eyes, her personality probably shines through to your brother.

So just get on with your own life.

Reply 3

Alfed

Original post by Lord Kitchener

I think it has nothing to do with you.

Of course it does. He is my bother.

Reply 4

Alfed

Original post by aarora

Because he isn't as happy with this girl, as he was with his hot girlfriend.

Her personality isn't up to much. But she is more mature as a person. Has a job, doesn't go out drink and doing drugs. His hot girlfriend did those things and didn't have a job. I really just think he is settling for this girl. Which in the long run won't make him happy.

I am getting on with my life. Just thinking about my brother.

Reply 5

999tigger

Why so much interest in your brothers gf? Why not mind your own business and focus on your own gf?

Reply 6

Ciel.

Original post by Alfed

I think you need to get your own girlfriend/boyfriend.

Reply 7

ComputerMaths97

Completely normal, happens to anyone with a brother/ sister. Unless you're one of them tumblr people that would say it's none of your business.

Tbh you make it sound like he's just using her for sex, there are plenty of guys that do that at least once in their life, so maybe that's his one. I'm personally close enough to my brother whereas I could bring it up and he's explain/ listen to my opinion. Can you?

Maybe he's, since getting cheated on, realised that there's a trade off for looks, and decided he never wanted to go through it again and will now settle with different types of girls. No human on this earth genuinely ignores looks and only cares about personality, tbh he may find her attractive enough.

Don't worry too much, only start worrying if they're together for ages. Most relationships at the age when you're still living with family tend to be pretty short so I wouldn't worry about it.

Reply 8

MiracleLeaf

I think this is just plain weird.

Reply 9

Anonymous #1

You sound incredibly shallow. Has it occurred to you that maybe your brother has different taste in women to you? Or that he may only have average looks and prospects? A girl that's gorgeous as well as having a wonderful character is probably going to want someone equally wonderful.

Some people will compromise on a few things for the sake of their immediate happiness, others wait for "the one" and accept nothing less only to find it's their own shortcomings preventing them getting a chance with their idea of a perfect partner.

That "hot" girl might have been aware that she has flaws and settled for your brother until a better prospect showed up. It's quite nice to be worshipped a bit by someone that is utterly amazed that you give them the time of day.

For anyone hoping for a flawless package, make sure you work on being lovely, work towards having a good job, look after yourself physically and dress to enhance your natural looks.

Plus the new girlfriend might be kind, affectionate, trustworthy and outstanding in the sack (without having to do a pornstar impression vocally).

I have had partners that I adored but other people thought were unattractive but there was awesome chemistry and they were just all round amazing people to spend time with. My feelings for them made them beautiful to me and now I'm older I couldn't care less of someone else thought they were unattractive. However, as a teen, I was really upset by those kind of comments and made me question the relationship even though I didn't agree with them. You are not being a good sibling or friend.

/essay

Reply 10

Alfed

Original post by MiracleLeaf

I think this is just plain weird.

How is it weird?

Reply 11

BubbleBoobies

Original post by Alfed

So my brothers new girlfriend is really ugly I think. She is short,

oh what, you'd prefer she was tall? as in masculine?

Reply 12

999tigger

Original post by Alfed

How is it weird?

That you seem obssessed by your brothers gf rather than be happy for him.
Why the need to be so shallow and nasty about her.?
Why not focus on your own gf instead of listening in on him?

Reply 13

BubbleBoobies

Original post by Alfed

Yes I would. I prefer taller girls myself and his hot girlfriend was taller than him. No I mean taller, as in longer legs. It would be better if she was a couple inches short than him or about his height. He is 5"7. Are you short or something?

why would you prefer taller girls? would a woman prefer a short man?
and if he is 5'7 no wonder he's with her if she's short?
I'm 5'6

Reply 14

Retired_Messiah

Original post by Alfed

She is short

That's probably the first time I've ever seen this said about a girl as though it's a flaw. :lolwut:

I'm going to conclude that you and your brother may well have different tastes, as people's tastes in looks can often be crazy different. So the looks angle can be more or less disregarded.

However, moving on:

Original post by Alfed

She really excited my bother because she was the hottest girl he has been with. He would come home with her all energetic and hyper [snip]... he was like a different person when he was with her.

This girl doesn't change his mood or how he acts, she is just around and someone for him to do stuff with really.

Now this is a more legitimate concern. Apparently he was very excited about his last girlfriend, so I personally would be expecting his mood changing from his mood when he was single to be a recurring pattern for all future girlfriends if he genuinely liked them. So I guess potentially he might just be having this girl around for the sake of... well... having a girl around.

That said even if that is the case there is literally nothing you can do about it so it'd be better to just adopt a "none o' my business approach" until the relationship comes to its natural end (which it will if it turns out to be the case that your brother doesn't really like the poor gal)

Original post by Alfed

So do you think he is just settling, after the hot girl hurt him and the decent girl rejected him?

Potentially. In the end only he really knows for sure, unless the gal's a particularly perceptive one.

Also am I a bad person for being disappointed that he has a ugly girlfriend?

I'd be more concerned about whether your brother is genuinely happy or not rather than getting worked up about the fact that the girl isn't attractive in your personal opinion. However, I wouldn't go as far as to say that makes you a bad person in moral terms. I guess it's natural for you to be a bit more critical when it's your relatives involved.

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Reply 15

Alfed

Original post by BubbleBoobies

why would you prefer taller girls? would a woman prefer a short man?
and if he is 5'7 no wonder he's with her if she's short?
I'm 5'6

Because they have longer legs and better hips and bodies than short girls. :h:

Short girls just don't look right or good. :colonhash:

Some short girls can been incredibly pretty and cute, so that is okay. :colondollar:

Well some women can be intimidated by taller men unless they are skinny, so they prefer short men. Also women can find shorter men cute and adorable, so want to be with them. :u:

You are too short for me. I like girl 5"10 or taller. I am 5"8. But he was also with a girl who was taller and who he was more attracted to. So...

Reply 16

JustDynamite

Lmao 5"6 is too short for a girl? You must be out of your mind.

Reply 17

username155270

Boy that's the least of your worries. I have so much drama with my brothers gf because she's a disrespect biatch. As long as this girl treats him good be happy for him and hush your lip because that's so minor.