How to deal with selfish friends?

I have the same issue, I've just let them get on with there own thing to be honest. If you always pander to their selfishness they'll continue to be selfish.It's exam season soon and it's time for me to be selfish - that means not wasting energy feeling down about their attitude.

Thanks for the answer. Well you can't change them so yeah it makes sense. But when you did that has it changed anything in the friendship you had with them? I like my friends and want to keep seeing them as often but that selfishness is annoying.

To be honest you should just stop advancing them money. It's a bad idea to do in the first place, you're always running the risk of someone not paying it back and leaving you out of pocket and some people might not be able to afford to pay extra up front.

As far as the distance thing. If you live a long way and they all live together then yeah it is going to be you travelling, it just makes sense.

Generally, if you feel you do too much, just stop. Accept things for what they are, accept people are flawed and they can still like you without fancying driving an hour each way.

Hi,

Most of my friends only do things that are convenient to them. I mean, I wouldn't do things that I really don't want to do but if I CAN help my friends and it doesn't bother me too much then I'll always be willing to help them. I expect them to do the same for me, but they don't and it often pisses me off.

Off the top of my head for example, I wanted to go to a theme park with about 15 of them. I organized it so I bought the tickets. We went there 1 month later. I advanced them money. It was about £300, I didn't ask anything I waited the following month to 'get the money back'. When they organize something, or buy a present from all of us they can't even advance me £5...

I don't live in the same city as them, so I have to drive about 1 hour to see them (30min to go there and 30min to come back) and sometimes I do it three or four times a week. I don't mind, I do it because I want to see them. I invited them to come to my place ONCE and some of them said they wouldn't come because it's too far. LOL.

I have many other examples but I think you get the point. Maybe it's my fault after all cause most people I know are like that. What should I do? I would like to do the same for some reason I can't, it's not in my nature.

Thanks.