Help, I need some advice - I really don't know what to do with my mom

Speak to someone at school ASAP, why is she even hitting you in the first place?? Child services should speak to her fgs

She overheard me talking to my sibling last night about going to the end of a bus because I was curious and she got mad at me for not telling her (Which was the reason why I didn't tell her). It wasn't like a huge hit, it was like a strong push.

How old are you, if I may ask? Your mum's behaviour does sound overwhelming. Do you and your mum have good moments together? I guess the most important thing to ask yourself is, why is your mum behaving this way? Being a parent is very stressful: they know they want the best for you but do not know what the best way to guide you through life is, so you get situations like yours. If you think that your mum's behaviour is because she wants the best for you, it may be that she doesn't realise the effect this has on you.

Do you feel able to have an honest discussion with her? Maybe you could pick a time when she is calm and happy and ask her if you can talk and let her know how you feel. It will not be pleasant to her and she might get defensive if you start listing everything she does wrong, besides it is probably hurtful to be told by your child that you are not doing great at parenting, so maybe you could try talking about your feelings. Something along the lines "I just wanted to let you know that our arguments make me very stressed and was hoping we could talk about it to try and work out a solution".

Going to the end of a bus? What as in sitting at the back of a bus or? If she shouts about that sort of things that's actually ridiculous and she has some issues. Don't mention it to your siblings, tell your teacher and try to get some authorities speaking to her. If she tries to carry on after that, or shout at you for telling your teachers, just contact them again saying her behaviour continued

Kinda, I think almost every moment I've had with my mom always have a moment where she got mad at me. I believed it was stress at first so I kinda just relaxed and let her shout at me because I'm pretty sure she stayed together with my dad because of me and, maybe, she shouts at me because she's really overprotective. But, as time went by, I'm starting to think that it was more than that because she critics me every chance she gets and she starts talking about how she regrets taking me in and stuff like that. One time, she actually got mad at my birthday and told me how we just need to celebrate because it's 'normal' for a family to celebrate it instead of saying we celebrate it because it's my birthday. I know she knows how it's affecting me but she keeps using the "I'm just really concerned about you" reason every single time.

I wish, I really wish my I could talk to my mom like that but she's never relaxed. Yesterday, we were eating dinner and she got mad at me for my posture. I've tried talking to her about it and I thought we actually made some progress but a few days later, when she got mad at me, she started saying everything I told her, saying how we were so lucky and so spoiled and how my problems and stressed were my fault and not hers

I cannot really speak for your mum but I can tell you that my mum was also overprotective, and we would argue every single day. I was also feeling like I was criticised all the time and I felt like my relationship with her would never be good. That's when I was a teenager. But once I left the house to go to uni, and I was not constantly with her I started missing her and my family, and I came to realise that she was not saying anything with malicious intent. I just realised she was just learning how to be a parent and did not know how to help me be the best person possible. Now I can see that all she was trying to do was help me get into good habits and learn to look after myself. On the other hand if anything was ever wrong with me, she was there to help. I guess what I am trying to say is that we have a hard time seeing this as teenagers and only get to understand how our parents feel as independent adults.

However I cannot be sure what your mum has in mind. If you try and talk to her calmly, and you realise that it is not working and your problem is not solved, I would say speak to a counsellor at school if you have one, and explain the situation. They will probably help you get over your anxiety/ panic attack problems and how to deal with your mum. Also if they feel it is necessary they can refer you to other services they feel you might find helpful.