Cheated on my GF of 2 years with an old flame.

Yes it kind of is though to the girl he was with - you don't just flounce off and cheat on your partner. It's not a mutually agreed open relationship. If you believe cheating is okay then perhaps you shouldn't be in a relationship. If people want to sleep around, they shouldn't commit to somebody in the first place - the girl he is with does not deserve this and you are utterly callous to say she should suck it up.

Maturity has nothing to do with it; people between the ages of 12 and bloody 100 strongly agree with the premise I'm puting forward... More so than yours.

If i asked for a divorce everytime something like this happened to me, i would be separated many times over. just saying

Don't get into one in the first place then, if you have no interest in being loyal and faithful to that one person, which is a vow you take by the way.

i mean i could have divorced my wife, given the amount she has cheated on me. But instead i bottled it. which i suggest you do now.

The same thing goes for her. She should not have entered the commitment and your marriage is clearly an absolute joke.

not at all. leave me alone thanks.

And you had the audacity to talk about immaturity with me? Lolololololol.

Grow up. If you can't handle disagreement and bluntness or criticism, don't join in with discussions on online forums.

my marriage is not an absolute joke **** off

Judging by your story, it kind of is.

i've told you that i have had bad times

i haven't told you that i waited seven years for my wife when she was in a different country

that he visa status was rejected twice, before i won in a british court of appeal

that they have lived here with me, her and her step daughter, that we have been through a lot

so yes she has cheated on me, yet like i said, this in itself is only a small issue.

grow up

I understand that cheating is wrong and take full responsibility for my actions and make no excuses for it, I just couldn't physically or emotionally help myself.

I'm away in France for the next 2 months on a summer job in Biarritz. On the third day I bumped into an old flame I used to see - she's spending a month here with her family. I was startled, we hadn't seen each other for over 2 years (we cut contact).

I asked her to this bar I'm semi-helping out with and we spent 6 hours together(!!) from 8pm to 2am. We didn't sleep together then.

The next day I got a text from her asking me to meet her in the city centre by the church. I headed over there and she was just jaw-dropping - white dress, beautiful hair, brilliant smile and peachy-red lipstick. We went for a walk round town and ended up at this auberge where we had lunch. I couldn't keep my eyes of her, and it seemed she couldn't too. She kept asking about what had been going on, what I was up to, that she got through to her final year at University in Paris, that her mum is finally getting better and that she had no idea why we cut contact.

By the time we left it was round 6:30pm, so we started to head back to the hotel/casino. It was quite a silent walk back I must say, but I could feel the tension between us, the looks we were making, the cute smiles...

I asked if I could sit down (I've got breathing issues from a recent illness). She sat down next to me and we ended up making out quite... passionately.

I'm not going to go into anymore details, but we did end up sleeping together.


I realise I've got to tell my GF sooner rather than later, but she's not here and I do kind of want to tell her in person so she isn't confused or whatever.

I don't know what's goingto happen between me and my old flame, but yeah...



Any sound advice?

i've told you that i have had bad times

i haven't told you that i waited seven years for my wife when she was in a different country

that he visa status was rejected twice, before i won in a british court of appeal

that they have lived here with me, her and her step daughter, that we have been through a lot

so yes she has cheated on me, yet like i said, this in itself is only a small issue.

grow up

Why are you on a student forum arguing with teenagers then?