Boyfriend refusing to meet me half way

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Good Evening All.

I have been in a relationship for the past 9 months with my boyfriend he is refusing to introduce me to his friends and his family.

I have paid now 7 times...for a Hotel to see him for several weeks at a time costing me over £5000 (I work full time and so does he) i have never been to his house nor met any of his friends.

Anytime i bring up this i get a blank response and he changes the subject.

What am i meant to do? I love this guy HUGELY, and he messages me first in the morning and last at night and just looking through our Facebook chats and we we have had over 193,000 messages.

I get ''I love you so much'' several times throughout the day argh please help!

Am i wasting my money? , he doesn't earn anything like i do but when i do visit he pays for some meals for me etc.

what do you do for work?

Reply 21

Anonymous #1

Original post by DIN-NARYU-FARORE

what do you do for work?

I am a nurse.

Reply 22

chikane

Original post by Anonymous

He dosen't seem ready to introduce you to his family or friends i would question how serious he is about you.

Also you having to pay each time for the hotel room is not on he should be paying too.

It's easy for him to type 'i love you' but its just words they mean nothing unless he shows he loves you and by hiding you away like a dirty secret with no valid reason just shows he might not think of a future with you.

You need to have a chat with him and tell him its not on.

Reply 23

cupcakes87

Original post by Anonymous

Nope couldn't even tell you one of his friends names.

alarm bells right there! :redface:

Reply 24

999tigger

How do you know he isnt married or has a gf? I agree wiith the other poster that you seem to be in denial and unable to stick up for yourself.

Reply 25

dhr90

He has another girlfriend? I'd cut and run now before spending another penny. How do you spend weeks at a time in a hotel in his area if you work full time too?!

Reply 26

chikane

Original post by dhr90

He has another girlfriend? I'd cut and run now before spending another penny. How do you spend weeks at a time in a hotel in his area if you work full time too?!

She said she is a nurse so she probably works 3 long days and he god knows what he does.

Reply 27

Anonymous #3

If it was serious he would at least offer to pay some of the time. Anyone can text i love you,

Reply 28

undercxver

Can you meet me half wayyyyy

Right at the borderline

That's where I'm gonna wait for youuu

I'll be lookin out, night and dayyyy

Took my heart to the limit and this is where I'll stayyyyyy

Reply 29

Anonymous #1

Thanks for all the responses.

I'll see what happens when he messages me i'll ask him about his friends and see if i get anywhere.

Reply 30

Elivercury

Has he told you his wife's name? His children's?

Definitely dump and move on.

Reply 31

Anonymous #1

I asked him what the problem was and he said he is Gay.

:/

Reply 32

Lychee628

Original post by undercxver

Can you meet me half wayyyyy

Right at the borderline

That's where I'm gonna wait for youuu

I'll be lookin out, night and dayyyy

Took my heart to the limit and this is where I'll stayyyyyy

Tuneee

Reply 33

chazwomaq

Original post by Anonymous

I love this guy HUGELY, and he messages me first in the morning and last at night and just looking through our Facebook chats and we we have had over 193,000 messages.

I get ''I love you so much'' several times throughout the day argh please help!

Am i wasting my money? , he doesn't earn anything like i do but when i do visit he pays for some meals for me etc.

The difference between sugar daddies and their girls versus sugar mamas and their boys is that the former understand the arrangement.

Reply 34

cshstudent

Original post by Anonymous

I asked him what the problem was and he said he is Gay.

:/

is he being serious?! You sleep with this guy right?

Reply 35

chikane

Original post by Anonymous

I asked him what the problem was and he said he is Gay.

:/

Ok.....I think you should break up with him he must be bisexual if he is sleeping with you.

Reply 36

Anonymous #1

Original post by cshstudent

is he being serious?! You sleep with this guy right?

Yes we've slept together and i told him it's over.

Reply 37

cshstudent

Original post by Anonymous

Yes we've slept together and i told him it's over.

I think that is the best decision for you and your self respect! Plenty of boys out there who will show you off to their friends

Well done for making the choice I understand it will be hard