Best friend makes ZERO effort with me. Why doesn't he care?

So don't be his friend anymore? You'll find other people who care about the friendship

I guess it's just hard to forget about the really good times we had at uni. I hadn't met anyone before with so much in common as me.

Having said that , the reality is I've felt the friendship has been on the downward spiral for over a year now. We've taken different paths in terms of careers. Sometimes I wonder if he's become jealous of me cos what I do is perceived to be more respected than his vocation. It's not like that's an excuse in any case. He's been non-existent as a friend in recent times and I've got to the point where I know exactly what I'm looking for in people close to me. Unfortunately he no longer fits that description and you are right; it's for the best to move on.

People change. It's also possible that your idea of friendship is different.

I'd move on if he can't be bothered to make the effort.

My bad, I'm half asleep. The above response is mine...


Best friend... I thought I read boyfriend. These things happen. To be honest you don't have to see someone regularly to be close to them and some people are just busy with other stuff. We are all adults and we can't expect friends to be around all the time. If you feel you are making too much effort then continue to sit back and see if he comes around. In the meantime try and spend more time with other people.

Or alternatively you could speak to said best friend and let him know exactly how you're feeling. My best friend didn't make much of an effort, so I pulled him up on it. He didn't change overnight, I took a step back and months down the line he started reaching out to me more.

Hmm it's much more extreme than you seem to think. We have only met up once in the past year and since I took a step back (i.e. stopped being the one to initiate contact), he hasn't even messaged me in the past 3 months. I understand we are both busy, myself in particular but I wouldn't use that as an excuse for what I see as essentially a complete lack of effort.

I do spent time socialising with other people but I guess this particular 'friend' just grates on me. To be honest I feel like the friendship has now run it's course so will probably just leave it at that.