Girlfriend wearing revealing clothes

I will concede that she'll probably get attention no matter what, so you're right. I don't think this problem will go away with the dress. I wonder if the problem is if the guy thinks it's if she's trying to do or not.

Assuming her innocence in this situation (which I assume is correct) it's an unfortunate situation where you can see both sides. I have a gf too and I hate seeing people hit on her, whether through messages or irl. There's nothing shameful about having insecurities, not everyone is the most confident person in the world. This girl should just understand he's uncontrollably hurt by the situation and make an effort to make him more comfortable.

The only universal truth is that lax clothing, sexual promiscuity and increasingly soft attitudes have resulted in increased rates of infidelity.

That last point about 'don't like, don't date' is exactly my point - if one is insistent on dressing like a harlot when she is taken, then she has little quality as a potential partner and should be ditched asap.

I don't blame the OP for having insecurities, he's only human and as you state, not everyone can be 100% confident all the time. However ultimately trust is important for the relationship and the solution should be for him to discuss his insecurities with his gf and work to deal with them so that he has complete confidence in her.

Incidentally, you may find that if he's honest about his insecurities she may decide not to wear the dress out of consideration for him, not because he has told her not to wear it.

Ultimately she has no control over whether she gets hit on and ,while some people struggle to grasp it, plenty of women (and men) wear things to feel good about themselves, or because they like it and not to get hit on. Punishing her for other people's actions is the height of unfairness.

I absolutely agree with everything you said.

And regarding the bold part, I think a lot of people have been really defensive over this part as I don't think he ever suggested he was forcing her not to wear it and that he did just want to have a discussion about it and tell her how he felt.

I think many girls do like getting hit on while in a relationship which I disagree with but we just don't know her intentions so can't make judgements.

Your post pretty much sums up the answer to the whole thread though, with my addition in finding out her intentions behind the dress which I think is important.

I think people have been defensive or trying to offer constructive criticism over how he broaches the subject.

Starting with "Okay, It's not your fault, but I feel I have to tell you that I feel somewhat insecure when guys hit on you." is very different from "I don't think you should wear that dress anymore as it makes me uncomfortable, you get hit on too much". One blames her and the other doesn't.

Likewise without dealing with his insecurities it can only get worse until she has to wear a potato sack and no makeup.

I don't think her "intentions" matter RE compliments vs personal self esteem. It's nice to get complimented by anyone and wanting to be complimented is in no way being unfaithful. Not to mention that "knowing you look good" is often established via third party feedback (i.e. compliments) so I doubt you can really separate the two.

To be fair, my wife asks me to choose her dress/help her decide what to wear on a semi-regular basis. It's a fun game.

I pick a dress/cardigan/shoes/whatever at random, she complains I'm not taking it seriously, I spend several minutes insisting I am, she wears it, she then complains I picked the wrong thing for the rest of the evening.

Ill win the game one day.

hahaha ... i just grunt and and say yes to every suggestion... usually followed by so which one... "Grunt"

Then tell her she looks beautiful 5 minutes later and she is happy

Me, my girlfriend and a few friends went out the other night. I picked my girlfriends dress, she tried them on I picked the one I liked the most. Half way through the night she changed into a more revealing dress for no reason. During the night she got complements from other boys and it really upset me that I went home (I get really anxious aswell and uncomfortable in situations easily). My GF said that it was nothing to worry about, she said sorry for changing dresses from the one I picked and we moved on.

This weekend were going out again and she wants to wear the same dress. I don't know how I feel about this.

Should I be upset that she wants to wear a dress that upset me so much when other people were looking and commenting? I'm not the person to say you can't wear this or that, so I'm in a bit of a situation here.

Any positive constructive comments welcome.
Thank you.

As a woman, I can understand where you're coming from here. My boyfriend is quite attractive and has been getting compliments on his looks recently, which makes me feel uncomfortable, so I've asked him to wear a balaclava to be considerate of my feelings.

Like any reasonable adult he agreed to have his clothing controlled by someone else and things went fine for a while, until a woman complimented him on the balaclava.

Now I've asked him not to go out and to sit in a windowless room all day to avoid the possibility that anyone other than me may be attracted to him. Naturally, I thought this was a perfectly reasonable request as he should be considerate of my feelings as his girlfriend but now he's going on about how "controlling" I am and saying things like "what kind of psychopathic stalker won't even let me dress myself?"

I'm at my wit's end with him. He just doesn't understand how my feelings are more important than his freedom and personal choice.

Obviously. Knocking boots with your neighbours wife never happened at all when we used to be more conservative. Perhaps the solution to the OPs problem is to beat some sense into his gf?

She is presumably wearing the exact same clothes she wore when they first met and he didn't have an issue with them then. Ergo he should have no issue with them now. Or should all women cover themselves head to toe the moment they get a boyfriend to hide the "goods" from the rest of the world?

This is bloody ridiculous. Your girlfriend can wear what she wants and maybe she doesn't do it for attention from other guys but she thinks the dress boosts her confidence and makes her feel sexy? The fact that you're jealous is your problem and you need to work on your insecurity. Otherwise this relationship isn't going to work.

Would you be happy if your husband waved his thing in the faces of girls (ignoring the law aspect of indecent exposure)? What if he said his excuse was 'it makes me feel confident, it makes me feel sexy' ? Obviously this is a very extreme example, but it is the same principle. Men and women should cover up, because hypersexualisation is a social disease that must be eradicated.

No offence but ... Lol, wow this is getting even more ridiculous. His girlfriend wasn't obviously walking around flashing her pussy or her tits. Your example in comparison to the OP's situation is absolutely ridiculously invalid. It is NOT the same principle. Had the OP's girlfriend been flashing her boobs or her pussy at the party then I would've understood. But it was probably just a normal dress. His girlfriend could be wearing a maxi dress (fairly covered) and still get compliments from guys because she looks beautiful or pretty? What does the OP want his girlfriend to do then? Stop wearing makeup, doing her hair and wearing nice clothes so she shall not receive compliments?

There have been many occasions where people have called me beautiful after seeing my profile picture. I am NOT revealing anything apart from my face. So, what should my "insecure husband" do in this case? Tell me to be a nun? Silly.