Does anyone else feel like they wasted their uni years?
**Warning - long winded post**
I think this is the correct place for it (just began frequenting TSR again).
Basically, I've recently graduated with a 2:1 in Politics and I've found a job (yay) and have something better and more related lined up in a few months time (Research Assistant for a well know MSP). So uni has probably fulfilled the 'end goal' which is to make me employable, or at least increasing my chances. But I totally wasted the four years in terms of social life.
I live in Scotland and like many due to it being a small country, we just sort of stay at home and commute. I commuted 24 miles to Glasgow for my course, whilst staying at home. I was probably too scared to leave initially but then it was more of 'well, should I really waste money living elsewhere, who with?'
Because I commuted, I made no new friends in my year, I actually hung out with people from school who did the same class but would then all pursue a different course in the second year (my uni allowed you to take 3 classes in the first year then drop them as you go before specialising).
I made friends through a society in second year and they're still friends and every now and then I'll go on nights out with them and back to their flat. However all in, I basically lived at home, still have the same friends from school, go out to rubbish local nightclubs and that is that. I feel like I never really experienced the social aspect of uni. I just stayed at home, had a job and got my degree. The end.
TL;DR: went to uni, stayed at home, made no 'uni friends', feel like I wasted it.
So, TSR anyone else in the same boat or has anyone else experienced this?
I think this is the correct place for it (just began frequenting TSR again).
Basically, I've recently graduated with a 2:1 in Politics and I've found a job (yay) and have something better and more related lined up in a few months time (Research Assistant for a well know MSP). So uni has probably fulfilled the 'end goal' which is to make me employable, or at least increasing my chances. But I totally wasted the four years in terms of social life.
I live in Scotland and like many due to it being a small country, we just sort of stay at home and commute. I commuted 24 miles to Glasgow for my course, whilst staying at home. I was probably too scared to leave initially but then it was more of 'well, should I really waste money living elsewhere, who with?'
Because I commuted, I made no new friends in my year, I actually hung out with people from school who did the same class but would then all pursue a different course in the second year (my uni allowed you to take 3 classes in the first year then drop them as you go before specialising).
I made friends through a society in second year and they're still friends and every now and then I'll go on nights out with them and back to their flat. However all in, I basically lived at home, still have the same friends from school, go out to rubbish local nightclubs and that is that. I feel like I never really experienced the social aspect of uni. I just stayed at home, had a job and got my degree. The end.
TL;DR: went to uni, stayed at home, made no 'uni friends', feel like I wasted it.
So, TSR anyone else in the same boat or has anyone else experienced this?
Original post by jg2012
**Warning - long winded post**
I think this is the correct place for it (just began frequenting TSR again).
Basically, I've recently graduated with a 2:1 in Politics and I've found a job (yay) and have something better and more related lined up in a few months time (Research Assistant for a well know MSP). So uni has probably fulfilled the 'end goal' which is to make me employable, or at least increasing my chances. But I totally wasted the four years in terms of social life.
I live in Scotland and like many due to it being a small country, we just sort of stay at home and commute. I commuted 24 miles to Glasgow for my course, whilst staying at home. I was probably too scared to leave initially but then it was more of 'well, should I really waste money living elsewhere, who with?'
Because I commuted, I made no new friends in my year, I actually hung out with people from school who did the same class but would then all pursue a different course in the second year (my uni allowed you to take 3 classes in the first year then drop them as you go before specialising).
I made friends through a society in second year and they're still friends and every now and then I'll go on nights out with them and back to their flat. However all in, I basically lived at home, still have the same friends from school, go out to rubbish local nightclubs and that is that. I feel like I never really experienced the social aspect of uni. I just stayed at home, had a job and got my degree. The end.
TL;DR: went to uni, stayed at home, made no 'uni friends', feel like I wasted it.
So, TSR anyone else in the same boat or has anyone else experienced this?
I think this is the correct place for it (just began frequenting TSR again).
Basically, I've recently graduated with a 2:1 in Politics and I've found a job (yay) and have something better and more related lined up in a few months time (Research Assistant for a well know MSP). So uni has probably fulfilled the 'end goal' which is to make me employable, or at least increasing my chances. But I totally wasted the four years in terms of social life.
I live in Scotland and like many due to it being a small country, we just sort of stay at home and commute. I commuted 24 miles to Glasgow for my course, whilst staying at home. I was probably too scared to leave initially but then it was more of 'well, should I really waste money living elsewhere, who with?'
Because I commuted, I made no new friends in my year, I actually hung out with people from school who did the same class but would then all pursue a different course in the second year (my uni allowed you to take 3 classes in the first year then drop them as you go before specialising).
I made friends through a society in second year and they're still friends and every now and then I'll go on nights out with them and back to their flat. However all in, I basically lived at home, still have the same friends from school, go out to rubbish local nightclubs and that is that. I feel like I never really experienced the social aspect of uni. I just stayed at home, had a job and got my degree. The end.
TL;DR: went to uni, stayed at home, made no 'uni friends', feel like I wasted it.
So, TSR anyone else in the same boat or has anyone else experienced this?
When uni finishes though you will all move to separate places anyway so I wouldn't worry about the fact you didn't make friends at the time .
Original post by jg2012
**Warning - long winded post**
I think this is the correct place for it (just began frequenting TSR again).
Basically, I've recently graduated with a 2:1 in Politics and I've found a job (yay) and have something better and more related lined up in a few months time (Research Assistant for a well know MSP). So uni has probably fulfilled the 'end goal' which is to make me employable, or at least increasing my chances. But I totally wasted the four years in terms of social life.
I live in Scotland and like many due to it being a small country, we just sort of stay at home and commute. I commuted 24 miles to Glasgow for my course, whilst staying at home. I was probably too scared to leave initially but then it was more of 'well, should I really waste money living elsewhere, who with?'
Because I commuted, I made no new friends in my year, I actually hung out with people from school who did the same class but would then all pursue a different course in the second year (my uni allowed you to take 3 classes in the first year then drop them as you go before specialising).
I made friends through a society in second year and they're still friends and every now and then I'll go on nights out with them and back to their flat. However all in, I basically lived at home, still have the same friends from school, go out to rubbish local nightclubs and that is that. I feel like I never really experienced the social aspect of uni. I just stayed at home, had a job and got my degree. The end.
TL;DR: went to uni, stayed at home, made no 'uni friends', feel like I wasted it.
So, TSR anyone else in the same boat or has anyone else experienced this?
I think this is the correct place for it (just began frequenting TSR again).
Basically, I've recently graduated with a 2:1 in Politics and I've found a job (yay) and have something better and more related lined up in a few months time (Research Assistant for a well know MSP). So uni has probably fulfilled the 'end goal' which is to make me employable, or at least increasing my chances. But I totally wasted the four years in terms of social life.
I live in Scotland and like many due to it being a small country, we just sort of stay at home and commute. I commuted 24 miles to Glasgow for my course, whilst staying at home. I was probably too scared to leave initially but then it was more of 'well, should I really waste money living elsewhere, who with?'
Because I commuted, I made no new friends in my year, I actually hung out with people from school who did the same class but would then all pursue a different course in the second year (my uni allowed you to take 3 classes in the first year then drop them as you go before specialising).
I made friends through a society in second year and they're still friends and every now and then I'll go on nights out with them and back to their flat. However all in, I basically lived at home, still have the same friends from school, go out to rubbish local nightclubs and that is that. I feel like I never really experienced the social aspect of uni. I just stayed at home, had a job and got my degree. The end.
TL;DR: went to uni, stayed at home, made no 'uni friends', feel like I wasted it.
So, TSR anyone else in the same boat or has anyone else experienced this?
Hello
That's a completely common feeling. You've just had four years of hard studying and a different lifestyle all together - sure you lived at home but it was still an experience at the end of the day and now that's ended.
Like you said, university has helped you achieve your end-goal and now you are there, you're left feeling like "well, now what?" and you just need to set yourself a new target and a new goal. Maybe take a night class and study something else? Something small? Set a goal of travelling or a little project that you can work on and so on and so fourth? Make an effort to see the people you made friends with on your course and what not - do new and different things with the friends you already have.
It's just an adjusting period where, like I said, you don't know what to do with yourself anymore. I wouldn't say you've wasted your university experience, it doesn't sound like you've done that at all - it just sounds like your balance was more work over social life and there is nothing wrong with that! It isn't too late to form a social life - you're just looking at it from the stand point that you didn't make friends at a point in your life when it was a lot more accessible but as someone has already commented - everything university everybody goes their separate ways anyway and it's are you see each other!
Don't bring yourself down, chin up and best of luck!
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