Girlfriend doesn't like oral (giving)

I found out it was really to do with a previous relationship where she was forced into doing things and it essentially brought back bad memories of that.

Worth trying to persuade her or should I just accept that it wont be a part of our relationship?

this is a great example where SEX is the main part of maintaining a relationship

I'm sorry but a comment coming from a virgin on this topic is utterly irrelevant

Relatively new relationship.

Cutting straight to the point, my gf doesn't like going down on me, which sucks (pun intended) big time as for me, this being my first relationship, it was a new experience and an amazing one at that. She sat down with me one day and told me she didn't like it, saying how she felt sick after a while. I dug deeper into the problem and I found out it was really to do with a previous relationship where she was forced into doing things and it essentially brought back bad memories of that. Plus she says she didn't like the taste of a certain something.. I'm sure you can finish that sentence in your head.

Now at the time I made it very clear that it wasn't an issue and it was completely understandable, but now I've realized that I do want it in our relationship. I always give oral to her as I know she enjoys it, it's not exactly eating tasty strawberry shortcake but I still do it for the sake of her pleasure. Which makes me think why doesn't she do the same for me?

I want to talk to her about it, maybe reassure her that it can be done at her pace and how she likes and I wont interfere like her previous bf did. Whats everyone's opinions on this? Worth trying to persuade her or should I just accept that it wont be a part of our relationship?

doesn't matter! the point is that sex should not be a root of a relationship

For an asexual, you sure like to go on sex threads.

You trying to persuade her is coercion, and exactly what happened with her previous boyfriend. Ask her if she's comfortable with it if it really is a big issue for you, but if she says no just leave it. If she doesn't want to do it then she doesn't want to do it and you absolutely cannot force her to.

This. Saying you don't want to do something sexual should be enough. There doesn't need to be a reason. But the fact OP seems to be intent on 'persuading' his girlfriend to do something she doesn't want to do because she was forced to do it by her ex, suggests that OP doesn't give a **** about consent and just wants to get off.

You trying to persuade her is coercion, and exactly what happened with her previous boyfriend. Ask her if she's comfortable with it if it really is a big issue for you, but if she says no just leave it. If she doesn't want to do it then she doesn't want to do it and you absolutely cannot force her to.

Ok ok, 'Persuade' wasnt the right word to use here. Of course I dont want to force it on her, I would never ever want to do anything like that. What I meant was bringing it up and seeing if she would still be up for doing it, if not then thats completely fine. I didnt mean to come off as sounding like I was going to push her to do it, if she wants to then fair play but if not then its fine, I'll move on

She's said 'no', so you don't ask again.

She's said 'no', so you don't ask again.

She said no a long time ago, I'm talking months ago. My thoughts were that now weve been together for a while since she said it maybe now she might feel more comfortable and that its more of a permanent relationship rather than a fling if you catch my drift.

In a sense that comfort and confidence is a lot better now, compared to what it once may have been.

For an asexual, you sure like to go on sex threads.

My thoughts exactly... it's like a vegetarian that vehemently claims vegetables are tastier than meat without even trying it