Need some help and advise

OP

So like I mentioned I had some bad experiences in my previous exams and due to the anxiety these ones went bad as well as bad attendance etc etc. I still find it hard explaining to people what generalised anxiety disorder is and depression. It is really hard for people to understand and for me to explain it to them. I told my school but when telling them I think I came across as an idiot. They were very sympathic. Generally I would worry about everything like writing the candiate number black ink calculator / the lid etc invigilators peering over my shoulder. Now like I said these are common problems for everyone but generalised anxiety order is when you can not stop these things and I find it embarrassing telling people this so they can not support me. Another example is when I was walking in the airport and I did not take off my shoes and the women started shouting at me. I found it terribly hard to control myself in the airport due to the recent events.

I am coming to terms with my mental health illness and trying to have a never give up attitude. I have great family and friends who are really supportive and with in these times. I am grateful to God for what I have. I am in the process of improving myself and educating myself. I just felt the need to let this out and now ask for some advice.

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OP

Edit: I am the OP and so is the other post I am not used to using anon...

This will be my final post and will then answer any questions. There are some things I changed so I do not give myself away fully away. I will maybe PM people who respond to this thread which I am now doubting as I have made it so long... Firstly I am in the process of organising myself appointments with talking therapies. I phoned them twice however once they had a data problem and once I couldn't receive their call. They just seem to want to get people off their list and have policies like if you miss an appointment (I didn't I only missed the call which is fine) you have to wait 6 months. I do not understand why they have policies like this when mental health patients often find it so hard to express themselves. I am feeling a lot better at this moment in time but I think I should still visit them as I have a lot on my head.

I have seen other posts here talking about depression and would just like to say continue on fighting. Never give up. I myself felt suicidal and suffered but I feel like I am on the road to recovery. You have to fight this and things will get better. One problem I think is having been in a similiar scenario is the sufferer think no-one understands. Likewise with someone has their heart broken there are 7 billion people in the world most people won't understand I agree but you can get help. I would recommend you seeing a GP and you ask for help constantly. It is a long tiring process and quite a bad one like I mentioned above but you need to help yourself before others can help you.

Now to the questions:

1) I am thinking of sitting the new specification for Chemistry AQA if anyone sits this can they give some insight to this. I will in the summer have a grade for an A-Level so if I sit the new spec will I have 2 chemistry grades?
2)I have mitigating cirumstances Shall I let my universities know just in case I get close to my grades (highly doubt it).
3)I did not want to ask my school as they did so much for me but can I apply for extra time in exams if so how?
4)Can anyone help me understanding foundation years as they seem a bit of a mystery for me

Thank you and well done for reading through all of this... if you have any questions please do ask

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kelefi

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Original post by Anonymous

Edit: I am the OP and so is the other post I am not used to using anon...

This will be my final post and will then answer any questions. There are some things I changed so I do not give myself away fully away. I will maybe PM people who respond to this thread which I am now doubting as I have made it so long... Firstly I am in the process of organising myself appointments with talking therapies. I phoned them twice however once they had a data problem and once I couldn't receive their call. They just seem to want to get people off their list and have policies like if you miss an appointment (I didn't I only missed the call which is fine) you have to wait 6 months. I do not understand why they have policies like this when mental health patients often find it so hard to express themselves. I am feeling a lot better at this moment in time but I think I should still visit them as I have a lot on my head.

I have seen other posts here talking about depression and would just like to say continue on fighting. Never give up. I myself felt suicidal and suffered but I feel like I am on the road to recovery. You have to fight this and things will get better. One problem I think is having been in a similiar scenario is the sufferer think no-one understands. Likewise with someone has their heart broken there are 7 billion people in the world most people won't understand I agree but you can get help. I would recommend you seeing a GP and you ask for help constantly. It is a long tiring process and quite a bad one like I mentioned above but you need to help yourself before others can help you.

Now to the questions:

1) I am thinking of sitting the new specification for Chemistry AQA if anyone sits this can they give some insight to this. I will in the summer have a grade for an A-Level so if I sit the new spec will I have 2 chemistry grades?
2)I have mitigating cirumstances Shall I let my universities know just in case I get close to my grades (highly doubt it).
3)I did not want to ask my school as they did so much for me but can I apply for extra time in exams if so how?
4)Can anyone help me understanding foundation years as they seem a bit of a mystery for me

Thank you and well done for reading through all of this... if you have any questions please do ask

Hey there

I'm not going to say 'i'm so sorry that you went through so much' or anything along those lines. Rather; well done! :smile:

You've come a lot further than many people I know, many dropped out of school and worse, so right off the bat you're already better than loads of people!

Firstly, visit a GP and get yourself officially diagnosed (if you haven't already). One of my friends gets panic attacks and has anxiety and got diagnosed officially.
After that you can talk to your school (do they have an exams officer? if not just have a word with a teacher or get your parents to call in) and they will usually get you an extra 25% time.
Foundation years are what they sound like, its essentially an extra year of university if you dont quite meet the grades you would need for your desired area of study. You take a foundation year before you start your actual degree to build up the base knowledge you need for the degree.
Call up your universities and talk it through with them. They can be a lot more understanding than you'd expect.

best of luck :smile:

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Hi I think you do need to continue to see your GP and hopefully you can find a solution on how to deal with this mental illness. I myself don't know about generalized anxiety disorder so you definitely need to speak to someone professional and to your parents and so therefore you can continue to receive the best support every day!!!
Also about missing your uni offer, it may not seem like this now but it may be for the best!!! I feel from reading your post that you need a year out just to take a break from all this stress and to see your GP so that you can use this year to help find a solution to your mental illness. It might be the hardest year for you mentally but it may help you in the long run!!
For the next year there is an option of retaking exams but would that be best? I would talk to your parents and teachers about this and what to do.
Im sorry if I havent been of much help xxx - if you want any others feel free to pm me!!

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I forgot to say this - well done :smile:

you have come further than most and if you need any more advice I am more thann happy to help :smile:

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I am sorry I didnt read you last post but here is what I have to say.

1) I am not too sure how grading actually works sorry :frown:

Plus I dont sit the new spec but I can help with some of the content
2) I would definitely phone your unis - they may be really understanding of your condition. Remember the worst that can happen is they don't understand but if you don't try youll never know so it's definitely worth a try.
3) I have 25% extra time for exams as well but I think you should ask your school if you are eligible for it. Again I dont know how extra time is allocated but I think to apply for extra time you need to show the school evidence of your condition maybe by a report from you GP or something to confirm your diagnosis
4) Foundation years are an extra year of university if you dont quite meet the grades you would need. You take a foundation year before you start your actual degree to build up the base knowledge you need for the degree.

Good luck :smile:

PM if you have any questions!!

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OP

Original post by kelefi

Hey there

I'm not going to say 'i'm so sorry that you went through so much' or anything along those lines. Rather; well done! :smile:

You've come a lot further than many people I know, many dropped out of school and worse, so right off the bat you're already better than loads of people!

Firstly, visit a GP and get yourself officially diagnosed (if you haven't already). One of my friends gets panic attacks and has anxiety and got diagnosed officially.
After that you can talk to your school (do they have an exams officer? if not just have a word with a teacher or get your parents to call in) and they will usually get you an extra 25% time.
Foundation years are what they sound like, its essentially an extra year of university if you dont quite meet the grades you would need for your desired area of study. You take a foundation year before you start your actual degree to build up the base knowledge you need for the degree.
Call up your universities and talk it through with them. They can be a lot more understanding than you'd expect.

best of luck :smile:

Firstly thank you for reading all of this. I wasn't expected many responses due to the length. Its taken me a year to get at this stage and its nothing really its about now working hard and not making excuses. I will not give up no matter what happens I will die trying rather than giving up. I have seen the GP in fact I am going to change the GP to one who I feel more comfortable with. I have a letter showing I am officially diagnosed with this from the NHS. The depression and Generalised anxiety order. The letter also states when it started occurring.

If I sit my next year as an external student which I am contemplating then who do I see? I am hoping to get a lot out of thread.

After explaining my situation do you think universities will look at this and think maybe this guy has grit and wants success badly or just some loser who couldn't cope with A-Levels. I tried keeping it short which I didn't do a good job with but I also had problems coming to terms with future jobs prospects religion culture and what not. When being diagnosed I didn't mention things like I felt suicidal because I felt embarrassed but I guess I will talk to Talkingtherapies about that. This year I did not talk to anyone about extra time as I didn't want to use it as an excuse. I know I have made many mistakes but hopefully I will work hard.

Thank you for responding have a great day

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OP

Original post by ninjass

Hi I think you do need to continue to see your GP and hopefully you can find a solution on how to deal with this mental illness. I myself don't know about generalized anxiety disorder so you definitely need to speak to someone professional and to your parents and so therefore you can continue to receive the best support every day!!!
Also about missing your uni offer, it may not seem like this now but it may be for the best!!! I feel from reading your post that you need a year out just to take a break from all this stress and to see your GP so that you can use this year to help find a solution to your mental illness. It might be the hardest year for you mentally but it may help you in the long run!!
For the next year there is an option of retaking exams but would that be best? I would talk to your parents and teachers about this and what to do.
Im sorry if I havent been of much help xxx - if you want any others feel free to pm me!!

Thank you and i am firm believer of whatever happens, happens for a reason. You have been of great help I may pm you later :smile:

. You seem like a really nice.

Thank you once again for responding

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Original post by Anonymous

Firstly thank you for reading all of this. I wasn't expected many responses due to the length. Its taken me a year to get at this stage and its nothing really its about now working hard and not making excuses. I will not give up no matter what happens I will die trying rather than giving up. I have seen the GP in fact I am going to change the GP to one who I feel more comfortable with. I have a letter showing I am officially diagnosed with this from the NHS. The depression and Generalised anxiety order. The letter also states when it started occurring.

If I sit my next year as an external student which I am contemplating then who do I see? I am hoping to get a lot out of thread.

After explaining my situation do you think universities will look at this and think maybe this guy has grit and wants success badly or just some loser who couldn't cope with A-Levels. I tried keeping it short which I didn't do a good job with but I also had problems coming to terms with future jobs prospects religion culture and what not. When being diagnosed I didn't mention things like I felt suicidal because I felt embarrassed but I guess I will talk to Talkingtherapies about that. This year I did not talk to anyone about extra time as I didn't want to use it as an excuse. I know I have made many mistakes but hopefully I will work hard.

Thank you for responding have a great day

When you mean who do you see what do you mean by that? Someone to help you with your work or with your condition?
I really can't say for certain what your unis will say about this but again you can only try and see what happens. Maybe your unis will understand :smile:

Its OK - PM me if yoou need more advice :smile:

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OP

Original post by ninjass

When you mean who do you see what do you mean by that? Someone to help you with your work or with your condition?
I really can't say for certain what your unis will say about this but again you can only try and see what happens. Maybe your unis will understand :smile:

Its OK - PM me if yoou need more advice :smile:

Regarding extra time.

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Original post by Anonymous

Regarding extra time.

To apply for it you need to confirm your diagnosis and show the school evidence, e.g. a Gp report. So your GP should be able to help :smile:

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